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I went to an university party last Thursday. I met a girl I hadn't talked to for two years, and now that I'm trying to be a sexy man, I went all in. The major events are these (I will cover the details in my FR)
1: we meet on the dancefloor and catch up, but quickly move to a couch nearby because of the loud music.
2: Finding out that she will be busy in a week until August, I tell her that I'm taking the next term off and that we should hang out before she leaves because we might not meet again for a long time. She agrees and gives me her number. Tension builds up afterwards (non-verbal flirting). I go for the kiss, but she resists because of the crowd in the dancefloor (reputation stuff). We move to another spot where it's quiet and short on people.
3: At the new spot we talk a little and restore the tension again. Two minutes into the conversation we make out. After some time she tells me she can't do this because of her boyfriend, and she is fond of him etc. First I tease her by saying "if you really liked him, would you be doing this" and then kiss her again. She doesn't resist, but a minue later she "accuses" me of being two years late and asks if we can be friends. I rejected her friendship by asking if she ever kissed a guy and became his friend afterwards (of course not). The party was almost over at this point, and I tell her that I'll text her and that we will set something up. She doesn't agree, but she doesn't disagree either.
So I texted her afterwards, and the conversation is going like this
She is not relationship material, but I wouldn't mind a one-time affair with her. I sense that she's testing me with the boyfriend thing, but of course she could have a boyfriend. I'm thinking about moving on because I have always done that... but then I think back of the other two occassions where I met the "boyfriend"-excuse and didn't know how to handle them at all. So this time I want to push it as far as I can. She hasn't given me a definite no yet. Also at the party, she didn't leave when she told me about the boyfriend (and neither did the ones from the past)... only thing is, I don't know how to approach this situation.
I hope you guys can offer a great piece of advice on how to push for the meeting before she leaves.
a-jay
1: we meet on the dancefloor and catch up, but quickly move to a couch nearby because of the loud music.
2: Finding out that she will be busy in a week until August, I tell her that I'm taking the next term off and that we should hang out before she leaves because we might not meet again for a long time. She agrees and gives me her number. Tension builds up afterwards (non-verbal flirting). I go for the kiss, but she resists because of the crowd in the dancefloor (reputation stuff). We move to another spot where it's quiet and short on people.
3: At the new spot we talk a little and restore the tension again. Two minutes into the conversation we make out. After some time she tells me she can't do this because of her boyfriend, and she is fond of him etc. First I tease her by saying "if you really liked him, would you be doing this" and then kiss her again. She doesn't resist, but a minue later she "accuses" me of being two years late and asks if we can be friends. I rejected her friendship by asking if she ever kissed a guy and became his friend afterwards (of course not). The party was almost over at this point, and I tell her that I'll text her and that we will set something up. She doesn't agree, but she doesn't disagree either.
So I texted her afterwards, and the conversation is going like this
Me: Hey P. I had a great time yesterday. Hope you made it home safe
Her: Hey! Yeah, I was pretty drunk, but I made it home safe
Me: Great. It was a fun party
Her: As I told you, I have a boyfriend that I'm really fond of, therefore I regret what happened Thursday. It would probably be really inappropriate for us to meet.
She is not relationship material, but I wouldn't mind a one-time affair with her. I sense that she's testing me with the boyfriend thing, but of course she could have a boyfriend. I'm thinking about moving on because I have always done that... but then I think back of the other two occassions where I met the "boyfriend"-excuse and didn't know how to handle them at all. So this time I want to push it as far as I can. She hasn't given me a definite no yet. Also at the party, she didn't leave when she told me about the boyfriend (and neither did the ones from the past)... only thing is, I don't know how to approach this situation.
I hope you guys can offer a great piece of advice on how to push for the meeting before she leaves.a-jay
