Hey guys, I've been having a hard time on dealing with rejection. I feel un sexy and it just kills my whole vibe. After that rejection i just lose focus and become self conscious. I've been getting rejected and the feeling of not being good enough just stays with me. Im not use to it. What do you guys do to not feel horrible, and keep going on approaching after a rejection?
Hard to think you're sexy when you get rejected
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Get rejected tons of times until you don't notice it anymore. I guess you'll soon get sick of this too and start to pinpoint holes in your game, that's also good. Also I suppose after a rejection maybe approach the first girl you see, i.e. get right back on the bike after you fall off. C'mon they can't all be bitches 
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Yo Money,
Pretty much agree with what Ray says, you basically do so many approaches that you don't get hurt by rejection anymore. It's gonna take a loong time, and it's up you to grind it out. If you're worried about what the people around think of you in this transitioning, put it this way: While all you're homies are laughing at you while you get rejected over and over, YOU are the one increasing you're seduction skills. Then a few months later after the grind, you got all these girls on your arm and now all your bros are looking at you with awe. Who's the fool now?
TVKTVK
Pretty much agree with what Ray says, you basically do so many approaches that you don't get hurt by rejection anymore. It's gonna take a loong time, and it's up you to grind it out. If you're worried about what the people around think of you in this transitioning, put it this way: While all you're homies are laughing at you while you get rejected over and over, YOU are the one increasing you're seduction skills. Then a few months later after the grind, you got all these girls on your arm and now all your bros are looking at you with awe. Who's the fool now?
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Just press on rly. I've also been frustrated getting rejected in a row and sometimes hardly saying anything before I got rejected. It happens to everyone. Take it as a challenge and don't get (too) frustrated. Whenever you get a rejection the more easier your next approach will be.
And don't stop approaching like I did for 2 weeks, only targetting babes I thought were viable.
And don't stop approaching like I did for 2 weeks, only targetting babes I thought were viable.
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I hear the advice of keep on getting rejected until it doesn't phase you.
To an extent it will always phase you. You do train yourself to not take it personally but sometimes it still stings.
But the thing that picks you back up is actually just meeting more women, you don't need to build yourself back up to approach more, you approach more to build yourself back up....
We've all been there... that one cute girl who cut you down and it feels terrible, until you meet the next girl... and all of a sudden it barely matters anymore.
To an extent it will always phase you. You do train yourself to not take it personally but sometimes it still stings.
But the thing that picks you back up is actually just meeting more women, you don't need to build yourself back up to approach more, you approach more to build yourself back up....
We've all been there... that one cute girl who cut you down and it feels terrible, until you meet the next girl... and all of a sudden it barely matters anymore.
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Try this exercise .. This also emphasis the important of keeping a field note to jot down the experiences you had in a given day with women!
Seems you r not that much concerned about getting rejected but rather how you respond after being rejected that eats you. Here is the thing, since you have haven rejected many times you are in a much better position to do this.
take some time off and note down the rejections each and every time what happened. What kind of a rejection was that. ( in General, If you are an above average looking guy, even a rejection becomes a polite interaction and you will have easier time dealing with it. But however rejections are cold mainly because she is not available at the moment for your approach. Can be tons of reasons god knows why so; And never approach girls from behind, it spikes cortisol level in girls and put them in a defensive alert state not so good for you my friend So instead approach from and angle / side / not from front as well. Then see how it goes. )
Back to the topic -
now once you note down the rejections then you note down how you felt and how you acted following the rejection. Once you start noting down that you will soon stat to see patterns of you behavior and you will have a third-person view of how things went. This is the point you want to approach first because what it does is, it puts you into a stat of self-awareness.
Now comes the best part -
Now what you do is you create a scenario in your mind how you should have acted when you got rejected each time. Visualize it and make it absolutely clear in your head the way you acted. ( consider everything you felt and experienced in reality to form the solution more robust ) then note it down. Rehears it, commit it to your memory. And next time you are in the field, before you approach a girl load it back to memory as a fail-safe mechanism. This way you have a much better chance dealing with the situation without too much fuss provided you got rejected. Learn about Rejection and why it happens, increase you understand on human behavior, then you will come to know why its not something you should take personally and its not your fault and adjustments you need to make for yourself in order to minimize rejections.
Ps - your aim in this exercise is to ultimately build your composure. It means, increasing your smoothness, calmness, building your zen even the world around you falls apart.
Peace.!
Seems you r not that much concerned about getting rejected but rather how you respond after being rejected that eats you. Here is the thing, since you have haven rejected many times you are in a much better position to do this.
take some time off and note down the rejections each and every time what happened. What kind of a rejection was that. ( in General, If you are an above average looking guy, even a rejection becomes a polite interaction and you will have easier time dealing with it. But however rejections are cold mainly because she is not available at the moment for your approach. Can be tons of reasons god knows why so; And never approach girls from behind, it spikes cortisol level in girls and put them in a defensive alert state not so good for you my friend
So instead approach from and angle / side / not from front as well. Then see how it goes. ) Back to the topic -
now once you note down the rejections then you note down how you felt and how you acted following the rejection. Once you start noting down that you will soon stat to see patterns of you behavior and you will have a third-person view of how things went. This is the point you want to approach first because what it does is, it puts you into a stat of self-awareness.
Now comes the best part -
Now what you do is you create a scenario in your mind how you should have acted when you got rejected each time. Visualize it and make it absolutely clear in your head the way you acted. ( consider everything you felt and experienced in reality to form the solution more robust ) then note it down. Rehears it, commit it to your memory. And next time you are in the field, before you approach a girl load it back to memory as a fail-safe mechanism. This way you have a much better chance dealing with the situation without too much fuss provided you got rejected. Learn about Rejection and why it happens, increase you understand on human behavior, then you will come to know why its not something you should take personally and its not your fault and adjustments you need to make for yourself in order to minimize rejections.
Ps - your aim in this exercise is to ultimately build your composure. It means, increasing your smoothness, calmness, building your zen even the world around you falls apart.
Peace.!
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Money,
There are very few guys out there that most girls find attractive. Tastes vary way too much with girls.
Here's something you need to realize: Most girls will not be attracted to you.
This is true for every guy out there, even famous and sexy celebrities like Brad Pitt or Ryan Reynolds - a lot of girls do not find these guys overly attractive.
Now, let's say that 33% of girls find you hot, which is a very high percentage. That means you can potentially sleep with 1 out of 3 girls you meet, but that still means that if you hit on the wrong ones you have a 66% of being rejected. This is what you need to keep in mind. You'll never be attractive to 100% of girls out there. Even the best PUA's can't get every girl on the planet - they just capitalize on the 10 - 20% of girls that find them attractive.
My advice is to get better at spotting the girls that are into you:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/7-app ... -get-girls
-John
There are very few guys out there that most girls find attractive. Tastes vary way too much with girls.
Here's something you need to realize: Most girls will not be attracted to you.
This is true for every guy out there, even famous and sexy celebrities like Brad Pitt or Ryan Reynolds - a lot of girls do not find these guys overly attractive.
Now, let's say that 33% of girls find you hot, which is a very high percentage. That means you can potentially sleep with 1 out of 3 girls you meet, but that still means that if you hit on the wrong ones you have a 66% of being rejected. This is what you need to keep in mind. You'll never be attractive to 100% of girls out there. Even the best PUA's can't get every girl on the planet - they just capitalize on the 10 - 20% of girls that find them attractive.
My advice is to get better at spotting the girls that are into you:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/7-app ... -get-girls
-John