Has your family helped your situation?

[Virgin101]

Is everything in life really based around family? TV show characters would give you the impression that it's not, as they are often protrayed as stand-alone characters. But that's not really true to life. Or maybe it's more so the case when you're younger. It's kind of luck of the draw what you're born with! I've got two sisters - one older, one younger.

At times I wish I'd a brother - not that that wouldn't come with problems either. But it's often that I hear a friend who'd talk about a brother that he'd have learned something about from. Whether it be about cars, someone to play sports with, someone to jam with, etc. A brother could be a stepping stone to making new friends, or even a potential wing man. Friends come and go, so I guess a brother would be a nice fall back position during certain times in life.

I don't believe that having sisters helps you understand women better. Maybe I would be better off if I viewed women merely as sexual creatures. I don't know how my sisters are of any benefit to me in any way?? Of my two of them, unfortunately it's the older one that I have a personality clash with, so we don't talk... literally don't talk! And there's something about having personality clashes with the opposite sex that makes it worse. When you have a clash with a member of the same sex, I think there's a some small level of respect, or the option for communication.

It was actually from watching 'Two and a half men' (original series) that made me realise this. I just couldn't help but think about much more miserable Alan's life would be without Charlie in it (& vis versa). Alan has it tough, but at the end of the day, he's got someone he can confide in. I feel like they have the same problems as me in many ways... with women, with their mother - but the difference is they have each other.

 

[Smith]

Virgin101,

I don't count on my family to support me forever. In fact, my dad has been slowly letting me decide everything from financial decisions to life decisions. My goal is to become independent from them financially and socially, i.e. to become self-sufficient. But that doesn't mean I cut them off and don't appreciate them. It's just part of growing up and become independent. I remember my dad once said that he won't leave any money for me when he's gone, but he'll help me get to where I want right now.

I have one younger brother and one younger sister. I can tell you my younger brother is not even slightest interested in seduction lol and he's turning 21. Probably doesn't have a gf for a long time. He plays computer games a lot. Showing him some of this stuff just fall on deaf ear. lol So having a brother doesn't mean everything is easier....at the end of the day, no one is coming to save you, but you!

I don't believe that having sisters helps you understand women better. Maybe I would be better off if I viewed women merely as sexual creatures. I don't know how my sisters are of any benefit to me in any way??

Just because you don't imagine having sex with your sister (which is good lol), it doesn't mean they're not sexual creatures. You should view women in general as sexual creatures, but that doesn't mean you want to have sex with every one of them. I expect my sister to date several guys in the next few years. I might ask her about it and maybe give her some guidance. Just ask your older sister about her dating life...then you'll find out all the needy weird stuff guys do to get in her pants lol. then just observe how she interacts with her bf, and study what behaviour and qualities they're attracted to. There's tons you can learn from.

I don't like Alan from Two and A Half Man. He's what you don't want to be. He's miserable because he's not taking charge of his own life. And kinda leaching on his brother. You don't want to be him lol. Their situation is not any better than your real life situation.

 

[Virgin101]

Thanks Smith,

I guess I could ask the younger one about what she likes in her bf, since she talks about him enough

I have one younger brother and one younger sister. I can tell you my younger brother is not even slightest interested in seduction lol and he's turning 21. Probably doesn't have a gf for a long time. He plays computer games a lot.

He have glasses?

I don't like Alan from Two and A Half Man. He's what you don't want to be.

Well obviously. I do like him though... he's funny, and he has kind intentions. Think about it - Charlie's life would be a bit dull & lonely without Alan and Jake around. I mean, how many women (teachers, moms, etc) did he meet through Jake? or even through Alan. I'm sure the other ways this fictional character would have seduced women wouldn't have provided for entertainment has good.

Their situation is not any better than your real life situation.

A great piano player who has a beach house! I'd like that!. He doesn't seem like a piano player at all though!!!