Hello a little about me and my current obstacles.

[R.A.D.]

Hi, ive been browsing the main page articles for a while and i must say i was very pleased to finally found a place where seduction is treated as an artform, where everyone can hone their craft differently (at least thats how i see it). So my compliments to all who contribute to this place.

Im 32 now, always been surrounded by women due to my carreer and current job so i always found women very interesting and always enjoyed their company. I think anyone can get sex if one looks and tries hard enough, but being able to reach and be in other women minds, heart and bodies and manage to dont loose yourself in the process, is something else altogether.

Anyways, to sum it up i find myself being a lot more comfortable and efficient at casual encounters and have no problem to start and get going a conversation with a stranger girl and been practicing more and more going straight to the point with decent success. Not that im better or worse than anyone, but i always found a lot easier to chat with a woman face to face.

Now my current problem is that i arrived very late to the whole social network, cellphones, smartphones, texting thing. So ive been finding myself needing to use it more and more and its been more difficult to me than i thought. I just find it very hard to be spontaneous with a woman through text. Im very good on the phone but i know texting is an important skill (specially with younger girls) that i cant seem to get better at it.

Lately ive been forcing myself to start as many encounters through webpages, facebook, etc. and find it very hard to get replies or if i get a reply i find it very hard to get a conversation going. My main problem is that when texting i think too much about what she is thinking or what i should say or when to say it....................... I feel like an idiot and tell myself that if i could meet that girl face to face she wouldnt escape me, but to get that encounter i have to be efficient on texting and thats not working so far.

Anyway, just wanted to share where im at and give a rough summary on why im here and hope to get better at it with time.

Im trying to get around all the info on the online and texting boards, but if anyone has any first advice or opinions i would surely welcome it.

Now to have some fun trying more new things and annoying more girls

 

[lao che]

you should treat it as an advantage. you get more time to respond and therefore you can really think about the different angles to approach from.

as for starting a convo, on facebook or online dating or whatever, with a stranger, or a girl you only know enough that you exchanged contact details, you just have to keep it light and cheeky, at first. just send out ping texts or emails. really keep it light and try to make it about something that you talked about when you met, like call her a nickname.
i stole something from krauser like - so, this is my [adj] [adj] new friend who owes lao che a coffee.

if she responds then take it from there. always keep it light, esp at first, and keep playfully pushing for a meet-up.

simples

 

[R.A.D.]

Hey thanks for the reply.

Maybe thats something to practice, not trying to do something overly complex of texts. From some things ive been reading here, also im beginning to think that texts depend (most of the time) a lot on the background you set, so if you left a nice enough impression texting should only get easier. Something to work on.