Hi, 21 here, Argentina, new to the boards and seduction. Been reading a hell of a lot of articles. So, my issue here is that, while i have been having increased luck with these techniques, i still have logistical problems when it comes to having sex :T Still living with my parents and most of the girls here in Buenos aires as well, and Hotels are expensive and sometimes scary for them. The more friends with benefits i can have the better.
Anywho, this girl i know from my university lives by herself and is completely independent, and shes ridiculously smoking hot introvert. Shes not exactly in my social circle but ive meet her almost around a year a go and haven't talked much to her since i invited her to a concert, where i felt she was pretty attracted to me. I've been wanting to get with her since it would be easier to have sex with her at any given date, thing is, shes a complicated little nut and being new, i need some help.
Some brief info on her: She works from 8am-5pm Mon - Sat at a hotel. She lives by herself. She seems shy, introverted, and very testy. I had established actual contact with her after inviting her to a concert, where, during and after, i caught her staring at me quite a bit, smiling, and very touchy (she would lean on me, grab my hand, press herself on me, and be comfortable with me putting my arm around her an stuff). I made no move, which im not sure if it was a mistake or not, i was surrounded by 6 other friends. Also, being a tuesday and it was 11:30pm by the time it was over, knowing she needing to wake up at 6am, dissuaded me further. And having been in the middle of the mosh-pit i was beat the hell up and exhausted. So my first question is, should i have asked to accompany her home?
Heres the thing, from the day of the concert she keeped saying about her 'boyfriend', but all things point to the contrary and it feels more like shes using it as a test. Whenever she mentions it, i either completely ignore it like she did not mention him or brush it off (basicly i treat it like its more of a "im busy" day). This supposed 'boyfriend' of hers, shes known since 2013, during said period i know she burned through 2 other actual boyfriends. She has pictures with this guy on her facebook and phone, but they all look platonic selfies. Also on facebook she still listed as single, but most importantly, she agreed to go on a date with me... and this is where i get confused.
Two days after the concert, i ask her out (i read how to text a girl + 20 texting tips, i keeped it simple), she said she cant, since her weekend is 'booked' as its her 'BF' birthday (which is true). So, next tuesday i try again aiming for a thrusday (since she said that she dosent know if she sees her 'BF' on friday or saturday), and she says yes, simple date, some food/cofee, 5 blocks or so from where she lives, after work (respecting the 5 Cs here), also sets me up to, if it goes smooth, i can go to her house and have sex with her....
But, she flaked... She had seemed exited, even reminded me about it the day before, and i also gave her a quick reminded the morning of the date (following the 'What to do when a girl flakes' article ecs), but, it was Easter Holly days, she works at the Sheraton... she told me she was burnt and exhausted, and if we could pass it to another day. I played it off cool, told her no problem, that i understand, yadda yadda not take it personal like the Flake article said, and said "see yah soon".
Wait for next week, text her to see when her schedule if free, and she responds kinda coldish (via wats up)
Me: Hello (Girl), hope you survived the easter holidays xd i sure had fun. Was wanting to know what days your free this week
Her: Actually D: I did survive, but worked a lot
Same goes for this week, unfortunately :C
Me: Jaja, your productive, thats great! Well, Le'me know if you find some time we can go grab a bite together and have some fun, cheers
She did not respond, infact, she actually took a look at the full text some 5 days after. Additional info, shes a big Harry Potter fan, and a HP convention ill be attending is at the end of the month on a sunday, should i invite her there and work my way via that event to get some food or something after the event (accompany her home and what not) or should i try for a date again?
Anyway, so....
Questions:
1. Is she testing me? Does she really have a BF?
2. Where did i (if i did), fuck up?
3. Has the attraction expired :T ?
4. Should i call it a quits? What should i do? (shes really hot and lives by herself :X)
HELP!
Anywho, this girl i know from my university lives by herself and is completely independent, and shes ridiculously smoking hot introvert. Shes not exactly in my social circle but ive meet her almost around a year a go and haven't talked much to her since i invited her to a concert, where i felt she was pretty attracted to me. I've been wanting to get with her since it would be easier to have sex with her at any given date, thing is, shes a complicated little nut and being new, i need some help.
Some brief info on her: She works from 8am-5pm Mon - Sat at a hotel. She lives by herself. She seems shy, introverted, and very testy. I had established actual contact with her after inviting her to a concert, where, during and after, i caught her staring at me quite a bit, smiling, and very touchy (she would lean on me, grab my hand, press herself on me, and be comfortable with me putting my arm around her an stuff). I made no move, which im not sure if it was a mistake or not, i was surrounded by 6 other friends. Also, being a tuesday and it was 11:30pm by the time it was over, knowing she needing to wake up at 6am, dissuaded me further. And having been in the middle of the mosh-pit i was beat the hell up and exhausted. So my first question is, should i have asked to accompany her home?
Heres the thing, from the day of the concert she keeped saying about her 'boyfriend', but all things point to the contrary and it feels more like shes using it as a test. Whenever she mentions it, i either completely ignore it like she did not mention him or brush it off (basicly i treat it like its more of a "im busy" day). This supposed 'boyfriend' of hers, shes known since 2013, during said period i know she burned through 2 other actual boyfriends. She has pictures with this guy on her facebook and phone, but they all look platonic selfies. Also on facebook she still listed as single, but most importantly, she agreed to go on a date with me... and this is where i get confused.
Two days after the concert, i ask her out (i read how to text a girl + 20 texting tips, i keeped it simple), she said she cant, since her weekend is 'booked' as its her 'BF' birthday (which is true). So, next tuesday i try again aiming for a thrusday (since she said that she dosent know if she sees her 'BF' on friday or saturday), and she says yes, simple date, some food/cofee, 5 blocks or so from where she lives, after work (respecting the 5 Cs here), also sets me up to, if it goes smooth, i can go to her house and have sex with her....
But, she flaked... She had seemed exited, even reminded me about it the day before, and i also gave her a quick reminded the morning of the date (following the 'What to do when a girl flakes' article ecs), but, it was Easter Holly days, she works at the Sheraton... she told me she was burnt and exhausted, and if we could pass it to another day. I played it off cool, told her no problem, that i understand, yadda yadda not take it personal like the Flake article said, and said "see yah soon".
Wait for next week, text her to see when her schedule if free, and she responds kinda coldish (via wats up)
Me: Hello (Girl), hope you survived the easter holidays xd i sure had fun. Was wanting to know what days your free this week
Her: Actually D: I did survive, but worked a lot
Same goes for this week, unfortunately :C
Me: Jaja, your productive, thats great! Well, Le'me know if you find some time we can go grab a bite together and have some fun, cheers
She did not respond, infact, she actually took a look at the full text some 5 days after. Additional info, shes a big Harry Potter fan, and a HP convention ill be attending is at the end of the month on a sunday, should i invite her there and work my way via that event to get some food or something after the event (accompany her home and what not) or should i try for a date again?
Anyway, so....
Questions:
1. Is she testing me? Does she really have a BF?
2. Where did i (if i did), fuck up?
3. Has the attraction expired :T ?
4. Should i call it a quits? What should i do? (shes really hot and lives by herself :X)
HELP!
