Help! Being Charismatic

[DLegend]

What up Fellas! Been reading on a bit on being a charismatic person from the site, but I'm not a very good learner from reading.

I was wondering if you guys had any suggestions like a certain person, video, or movie so that I can get a better feel of what having charisma is.

Would be extremely helpful!

-Carlos

 

[Anonymous]

Visual examples... I suggest the following:

Daniel Craig in any of the James Bond movies.

Ryan Gosling in Crazy, Stupid, Love, Gangster Squad.

Jude Law in Alfie.

Brad Pitt in Fight Club, Meet Joe Black, any of the Ocean's movies.

George Clooney in Out of Sight.

Some of my personal favorites to emulate their presence, their demeanor and their vocal tonality as well. Charisma is a hard thing to describe, really. But it emanates from an unbending belief and presence from within. But part of it is developing the body language that accompanies such emotional and psychological states.

It's also been proven that your physical state and body language can influence your physiology (eg. forcing yourself to smile can make you feel happier). Hence, if you develop better body language and emulate good body language you'll begin to influence your inner self with your external actions.

 

[DLegend]

@Ned thank you so much, I appreciate it!

@JJ: You're right. Been reading "The Success Factor" by Ricardus, and it seems to be Charisma.

I just have to rewire my brain to feel completely sure of myself plus some other things.(easier sad than done)

Very hard when you've lived with a couple physic vampires all your life and I'm still not old enough to move out.

Thank you all,

Carlos

 

[Mr.Rob]

Charisma in a definition that I've heard in the past that I like is the ability to instill an emotion in someone that they wouldn't have experienced without you.

Now this is sort of a broad definition that could have holes poked into it easily but this is still the gist of it.

It is also a projection of energy.

Many people go through life without projecting much energy and you don't really feel much when you are around them. But there are people I'm sure you've come into contact with that you FEEL when you are with them. These people give energy off them and almost expel, or for lack of a better word vomit their energy onto the world.

Would go into this deeper but am out of time.

Good luck.

-Rob

P.S. "Yourcharismacoach.com" and youtube channel have taught me a couple things about social dynamics and charisma from a social standpoint rather than a dating standpoint. May be worth checking out.

 

[lao che]

sorry double post please delete

 

[lao che]

mr rob, you were in my dream last night. you were a smoking hot asian hooker with the shaved head of ewan macregor.

as for charisma, not much to add, it takes time to develop. it goes hand in hand with charm. warmth is important, smiling with your eyes. and being deliberate with your voice tone and movements. it also takes a certain inner belief that you're the shit. but in a good way not a cocky way. clooney's the man. bill clinton was, too, very high value. warm and friendly.
there are lots from movies ... connery was top notch. shit watch Dr No and see how he forms a bond with ursula andress. in two minutes she's telling him deep secrets.

 

[Mr.Rob]

mr rob, you were in my dream last night. you were a smoking hot asian hooker with the shaved head of ewan macregor.

I don't know how to respond to this...

So was I a man or woman?

 

[lao che]

I don't know how to respond to this...

So was I a man or woman?

oh don't get the wrong idea! we didn't have a .... transaction.
think you were dancing on a table. somebody said, or i heard or knew somehow "that's mr.rob" ...

 

[Mr.Rob]

think you were dancing on a table. somebody said, or i heard or knew somehow "that's mr.rob"

Lol I hope I got laid