HELP! How to make a move on... your flatmate (and friend) ?

[lux7]

Hello everyone,

I need your infinite wisdom.

My pretty flatmate moved in yesterday and will only be staying a week, so the downside is limited.

I am... Relatively confident she likes me (read below for more info why I think so), but that's not the same as being confident my move will be well received.
And by now we met 4-5 times and talked about everything (including me giving tips on some boys she's got around), which means we're also quite friends.

She doesn't drink at all.
So that takes away the good chance of "couple of drinks and it just happened".

Ideas??



WHY I THINK SHE LIKES ME
1. We're similar: both intelligent (she is, I just sound so), dress well, similar humor..
2. As I waited for her bus she said this city was so exciting and she was hoping not to bring too many guys home. Now the whole point is, she isn't the sleep around kind of girl and actually looking for a father to her future children. So I believe she said that just because... She was horny ;
3. Sitting down there was a condom in front of us. She pointed it out. And I said "come on, we're just flatmate", and she cracked up leaning towards me ;
4. Today as we were talking about relationships she suddenly asks me if I'm married even though she knows fully well I'm not
5. She often leans in and touches me, albeit that might be simply a flirtatious personality

 

[foggy]

Make a move on her soon, if not today. Keep building up the sexual tension and then go for it.

Just because she's your flatmate for a bit does NOT make her any different from any other girl. You're gonna wanna follow the same process that you would with any other girl.

There is obviously a risk of rejection, but you choose how you react to it. If you go to kiss her and she rejects you, then it's really no big deal. If your behaviour doesn't change afterwards, then hers won't either. The risk of rejection is not greater than the benefits of the situation. You'll have a ton of sex over the next few days and you'll come away with it with a great reference point for the future.

You don't need the alcohol to get the "couple of drinks and it just happened" situation. Continue to escalate and impose your masculine presence on her, and then it will result in a "it just happened" situation, without alcohol.

 

[lux7]

"not any different than any other girl".

Thanks man, you just said it how it is and hit the nail on the head.

I guess I'm making up all these "complications" because I'm scared.
Both of getting refused and dealing with it a few days and, I suppose, of "disappointing" / "scaring" her, in the sense that she trusted moving in with a man and it's not common around here.
Plus we laughed of how it got a bit weird with a previous gay flatmate who made a pass on me and now I'm scared of being that awkward guy .

Well, suppose it's go for it then, but inside the house, as I'd normally do, still feels heavier on her as she doesn't have the option of leaving.

Maybe starting outside then?
Or elevator one day on the way back..

 

[foggy]

I understand your apprehension around potentially scaring her or making her feel uncomfortable.

Something you could try to test the waters is to kiss her neck a little bit. It's less risky and intimidating than leaning in to make out with her...and it sets a sexual tone and lets her know your intentions. Then you can escalate further based on her reaction.