Sup guys, I posted a LR about a black girl a few weeks back. I'm going to try and be specific with this post to get some insights on what went wrong. I honestly wanted to pursue this girl as a potential girlfriend. So although I am a little disappointed, I am more looking at this as a learning experience. I actually had my FWB just over and writing this post was on my mind the majority of the time lol. So here we go!!
I met up with her again almost two weeks later (this past weekend). She went back home for Thanksgiving and then we both got sick so that's why we didn't hang out up until now (2 weeks total).
A recap from the first meet up. I picked her up from campus, we went and got a drink, went back to my apt, and then went to home base.
The plan for our second meet up came earlier in the week. We decided to wait until the weekend as we were both busy. The day of she is texting me and sounds excited to hang out again. But, she throws me a curveball before our plans were set in stone like 4 hours before we were to meet...
She asks me if I can bring her to the grocery store so she can pick up groceries before we hang out. Now, I understand that I should have probably told her that no I couldn't, but I instead obliged. I didn't mind too much actually, I thought it would be a fun little pre-cursor for when we actually did hang out afterwards. However, this ended up taking like an hour and a half and it was kind of snowy out as well. So I mostly regret it for the time investment.
As we leave the grocery store, I tell her let's grab a bottle of wine so that we can chill and drink some at my apt after we drop her groceries off. So we go to the wine store and grab a bottle. Note, she doesn't drink beer so that's why I suggested wine. So after we drop off her groceries and are on the way to my apt, she asks me if "I am going to let her watch the movie this time", said with a flirtatious smile. Since during our first time hanging out, we only made it to the 20 min mark or so.
We end up back at my apt and everything is going well. We pop open the bottle, sit on the couch, and start to dive into another great convo. We eventually put on a movie and cuddle up on the couch. I think we make it 15-20 mins into the movie before I start kissing her and playing with her boobs. I stop and we watch the movie a little more and then I go at it again. It's getting more hot and heavy and she tells me she wants to have sex but also wants to watch the movie as well. I tell her I will pause the movie and then we proceed to go to the bedroom.
After that, we eventually come back out and watch the rest of the movie. After the movie, we have sex again. By this time, its after 1AM. I have been with this girl since around 6:30 PM. I tell her its getting late and I should bring her back.
Everything is still going smoothly. I bring her back to her on campus apt, and then she kisses me before exiting the car, just like the first time.
I ended up texting her the next day saying "I had a fun time with you again
"
No response.
Fast forward to today. Nearly 5 days later. I figured something was up. I texted her asking her how her week is going and saying I would like to see her again before she leaves for break. She replies about an hour later and tells me she has been busy with finals week and she rather not hang out because she met someone she wants to date exclusively.
Now, I immediately think this girl is full of shit and its just a cover up for something that turned her off about me which is why she doesn't want to hang out with me again. The reason I think this is because she didn't even text me back on Sunday.
One other note, the second time we had sex I guess I was a little too rough. She said i made her vagina sore lol and that I didn't have to be rough all the time. I still made her cum though.
Now, my personal opinion is that she got turned off for one of the following reasons, thus making up the excuse to not hang out with me again.
1) We spent nearly the whole night together and she wanted to stay over, and was mad that I brought her back to campus.
2) I fucked her too hard and she was turned off by that in some way.
3) She thinks I just wanted her for sex and wanted to stop.
So, I'm not sure if any of those are correct or she legit found someone else, which to me, seems highly unlikely given her school schedule, and she works like 30 hrs a week as well and the time frame for which this all happened. And she met up with me TWICE. You would think if she was turned off then she would of not hung out with me the second time.
Any thoughts?
thanks.
I met up with her again almost two weeks later (this past weekend). She went back home for Thanksgiving and then we both got sick so that's why we didn't hang out up until now (2 weeks total).
A recap from the first meet up. I picked her up from campus, we went and got a drink, went back to my apt, and then went to home base.
The plan for our second meet up came earlier in the week. We decided to wait until the weekend as we were both busy. The day of she is texting me and sounds excited to hang out again. But, she throws me a curveball before our plans were set in stone like 4 hours before we were to meet...
She asks me if I can bring her to the grocery store so she can pick up groceries before we hang out. Now, I understand that I should have probably told her that no I couldn't, but I instead obliged. I didn't mind too much actually, I thought it would be a fun little pre-cursor for when we actually did hang out afterwards. However, this ended up taking like an hour and a half and it was kind of snowy out as well. So I mostly regret it for the time investment.
As we leave the grocery store, I tell her let's grab a bottle of wine so that we can chill and drink some at my apt after we drop her groceries off. So we go to the wine store and grab a bottle. Note, she doesn't drink beer so that's why I suggested wine. So after we drop off her groceries and are on the way to my apt, she asks me if "I am going to let her watch the movie this time", said with a flirtatious smile. Since during our first time hanging out, we only made it to the 20 min mark or so.
We end up back at my apt and everything is going well. We pop open the bottle, sit on the couch, and start to dive into another great convo. We eventually put on a movie and cuddle up on the couch. I think we make it 15-20 mins into the movie before I start kissing her and playing with her boobs. I stop and we watch the movie a little more and then I go at it again. It's getting more hot and heavy and she tells me she wants to have sex but also wants to watch the movie as well. I tell her I will pause the movie and then we proceed to go to the bedroom.
After that, we eventually come back out and watch the rest of the movie. After the movie, we have sex again. By this time, its after 1AM. I have been with this girl since around 6:30 PM. I tell her its getting late and I should bring her back.
Everything is still going smoothly. I bring her back to her on campus apt, and then she kisses me before exiting the car, just like the first time.
I ended up texting her the next day saying "I had a fun time with you again
"No response.
Fast forward to today. Nearly 5 days later. I figured something was up. I texted her asking her how her week is going and saying I would like to see her again before she leaves for break. She replies about an hour later and tells me she has been busy with finals week and she rather not hang out because she met someone she wants to date exclusively.
Now, I immediately think this girl is full of shit and its just a cover up for something that turned her off about me which is why she doesn't want to hang out with me again. The reason I think this is because she didn't even text me back on Sunday.
One other note, the second time we had sex I guess I was a little too rough. She said i made her vagina sore lol and that I didn't have to be rough all the time. I still made her cum though.
Now, my personal opinion is that she got turned off for one of the following reasons, thus making up the excuse to not hang out with me again.
1) We spent nearly the whole night together and she wanted to stay over, and was mad that I brought her back to campus.
2) I fucked her too hard and she was turned off by that in some way.
3) She thinks I just wanted her for sex and wanted to stop.
So, I'm not sure if any of those are correct or she legit found someone else, which to me, seems highly unlikely given her school schedule, and she works like 30 hrs a week as well and the time frame for which this all happened. And she met up with me TWICE. You would think if she was turned off then she would of not hung out with me the second time.
Any thoughts?
thanks.
