Help with holding on

[Ken]

I've been checking out Girls Chase for months, and this is my first post on the forums. A lot has changed for me recently. These changes are both good and bad. The good change is that I'm off of social media for good.

The bad change is that I have come face-to-face with something called reality. Over the years, I have fantasized about many things, including being successful with women. Recently, I've gotten a wake-up call that allowed me realize that being good with women is something that I am actually not. I have never been on a date with a woman, I've never been in a relationship with a woman, never slept with one, and until this year, never asked a woman out.

I want to be good with women, but it's a struggle. The wake-up call has left me struggling with reality, and every woman I actually tried to ask out have boyfriends. I didn't have many friends growing up, and I just keep to myself. I need some help to get me on the right road.

 

[Zoro]

You are in the right place.

This is a journey. A fucking adventure like no other. You come in wanting to learn and understand women, but along the way you learn more about yourself.

It is indeed an adventure, with all the ups and downs and challenges.

As for in the beginning, I would cut out negative things in your life, and replace them with good habits. For me, cutting out junk food and eating healthy, ditching Internet and porn for real life experiences, and realizing I need a social circle that I can relate to, all are personal examples. Those alone gave me self respect, confidence through facing real life, and helped shape an interesting life I enjoy.

The priority is yourself and becoming a man living a life.

Start talking to girls throughout your day. The best way to use this site IMO is to meet women on your own best you can, then if something confuses you or you keep hitting a wall, ask here on the boards, skim through some relevant articles and get back out there and try again.

Of course, you can do a little more reading and you should. The point being take action. If you want greatness BAD enough you can have it, because you will take it.

Good luck and welcome!

 

[Ken]

Thank you. As for your examples of cutting out bad habits, I have been trying to cut out porn for years. Nothing has worked for me. Can someone help me cut out porn for good?

 

[Zoro]

Ken,

I'll give you resources that have helped me.

First, If you haven't already, check this out. Do it.
Yourbrainonporn.com

That site is probably the most comprehensive source for porn addiction recovery.

Second, check out nofapacademy.com and sign up for their free newsletter. They are passionate about porn addiction recovery lol

Third, read some comments and success stories from people on their own recovery journey and get amped. http://www.reuniting.info/download/pdf/0.BENEFITS.pdf

Good luck, you're in the right place.
And you can always PM me if you have questions or need a little pep talk.

 

[Ken]

Thank you

 

[lao che]

dude, ken, ......

i was always on my own growing up, too. i always thought of myself as a loner. with definite negative connotations. only with the help of GC did i come to think of myself as a lone wolf. and believe me that's not a bad thing to be. i'm independent; i am happy; i get laid on the regular; i have a circle of friends i choose to spend a little time with, but not much. i don't need them at all, nor do i need any of the numerous girls in my life. but i get to choose who i have in my life, not just the people with whom i am in close proximity.
life is awesome, man, and you're in the right place to help you learn, grow, and help you grab life by the fucking balls.


p.s. porn is bad mmmmkay ..... ,-)

i don't really hate on porn too much. you should probably definitely cut down, though, but so should everybody (i've cut waay down over the last couple years, and believe me, my porn habit was ridiculous. and this is while i had a girlfriend). shit though, if you're a young dude , once a week, why the fuck not? anyway, it's not that bad provided you realize it's not a substitute, and you're still working on your skills and trying to get laid.
shit, i've learned some of my best moves from watching porn, i should write them a thankyou letter. so ... don't make a habit of it just fucking get it over and done with. i think one trick is, rather than look at porn, use your imagination. think about the girls you met today, or the girl you're going on a date with next week.

 

[Motiv]

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only with the help of GC did i come to think of myself as a lone wolf. and believe me that's not a bad thing to be. i'm independent; i am happy; i get laid on the regular; i have a circle of friends i choose to spend a little time with, but not much. i don't need them at all, nor do i need any of the numerous girls in my life. but i get to choose who i have in my life, not just the people with whom i am in close proximity.
life is awesome, man, and you're in the right place to help you learn, grow, and help you grab life by the fucking balls.
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Amen!