HELP with OKC messaging.

[NinthSanguine]

Messaging/texting is definitely one of my weaker points, so i'm looking for some help out with that. With one girl in particular...

I sent out a 2 truths and a lie message, "I have surfed off the coast of Hawai'i, have a black dagger tattooed on my right leg, and only drink bourbon. Which one of these statements isn't true? =D"

and got the response, "I honestly have no idea. Because that's a very specific tattoo. You're only 20. And I don't know if you've traveled.​"

I'm already seeing some value problems with age and travel. I was thinking of responding with something like "Go on girl... take a guess. I won't bite... much."

What's good and bad with that response, and what are some other responses I should consider?

 

[Quatzolect]

NinthSanguine, dude I'll give you insight to something I've learned. Texting is overrated. Mainstream advice tells you that you can get girls in just three text, that certain text can make girls horny, blah, blah, blah. Frankly, while it might be possible to do some of the stuff, majority is just BS. So don't stress to much about it. In fact the only thing that I really thing most beginners and intermediates should focus on in the texting sphere is setting up meets with it. Why? Cause it just so much easier to be sexy in person rather than over the phone. The girl can see you non-verbals, you can see her non-verbals, and it easier to effect her emotions. The articles have lots of good advice on this subject so check some of them out. Also Chase's book has info on it as well as. My advice is your response should include something that should get the two of you meeting up, as well as hold that mystique you wanted. And stop playing them texting games; busy, sexy, guys with an abundance of women don't have time for that jive, so present yourself to her that way.

Good luck man.

p.s. I reckon the lie is that you only drink bourbon.

 

[NinthSanguine]

Well that's what the trouble is for me. If I try to seed a meetup in person I just get ignored from that point forward. Makes me think I could be doing something different. Thank you for your feedback.

Nope Bourbon is really the only alcohol I enjoy. Before Bourbon I'd sworn off alcohol except for special occasions.

 

[Quatzolect]

If these are new girls that you are meeting, on the street for example, and getting their numbers, then it sounds like your aren't setting yourself in the girls' mind as a sexy man. If this is the case, then make sure that your fundamentals are solid, and that your are getting a decent level of compliance prior to saying goodbye; these will bump up your yes rate big time, or perhaps set up a date right then and there.
If the girls are from your social circle, then you probably aren't gonna get to far with them if they are ignoring you. That being said, I'm not the most experience guy when it comes to close social circle lays so you may want to find find some guys that know a bit more than I. That being said, if they are from you social circle and you are asking them out via texting, you may find more success asking them out face to face.

 

[NinthSanguine]

Is there a good way to diagnose what fundamentals I should be specifically working on? I'm pretty certain that is the issue. I know I need to work on touch and conversation more, but what are some good articles I could be reading?

 

[Quatzolect]

Some of the best articles on the site that I've found that apply to fundamentals are:
Great Fundamentals: Handling Your Intangibles-this one should help you with your diagnosis of which you should be looking at.
Law of Least Effort/Sprezzatura, Effort, and Investing: these are great starting points that are easy to implement, but have a HUGE impact.
If you type 'fundamentals' into the search bar in the articles, a whole list of more detailed articles will come up. It also sounds like you may need to work on your vibe, so check some of those articles as well.