Hey Everyone, I'm Alex!

[Lexielai]

An Introduction
Hey everyone, how's it going? My name's Alex and I'm a beginner here at Girls Chase!

About Me-
I'm one of the younger folks here; currently fifteen years old and an incoming Sophmore to high school! I'm here to improve my social skills and become a stronger man than I was before. I hope that I'll be someone who can pursue and achieve his dreams(and dream girl).I began about three months ago, blooming in a similar fashion to many members here: I had this girl I liked.

Now, I was never a very popular or socially capable individual. I was a shy introvert, and tended to stick close to my comfort zones. Thus, when I found myself crushing on this friendly, warm girl, I had no idea what the hell I was doing! Suffice to say, it didn't work out. The important part was in the thick of my blind social flailing, when I realized I wasn't going to get anywhere on my own. This was when I scoured the internet for aid! What was the end result? I found Girls Chase.

At the moment I live in the Bay Area of California.

Currently I'm...
...not doing as well as I hoped I would.

My goal was to begin approaching girls by the end of summer, before school started. So far I've only managed to best approach anxiety once though, but my opener was really off. Hoping I'll be able to grow a pair of balls someday if I keep going out and trying, but it hasn't happened yet.

Other than that, my main focuses are currently in refining my fundamentals and conversational skills.

What I've done so far-
I've made a good few improvements to my fundamentals! Have better posture and fashion now, along with some nonverbals. I'm experimenting with communicating without words, but it's a pretty precise art!

I'm a lot better at conversation now, with deep diving and whatnot, but I find my consistency lacking. It just seems difficult to start or keep a conversation going and manage threads. Currently I do a lot better one-on-one, when the other is forced to listen to me, but I have a lot of trouble holding people's attention in groups.

Also been looking into spotting approach invitations and opportunities; haven't capitalized on any of them yet unfortunately - falling for excuses is a favorite hobby. It turns out I turn a few more heads than I thought I did!(That being zero)


Anyways, that's a simple introduction to me! Any advice and tips would be appreciated. I'll see y'all next time,
-Alex

 

[Smurf]

Hey Alex! Glad to have another young member on the boards!

There's a few of us who are under the legal age. The younger we start training the better, right? I'm still somewhat an introvert but I'm nearly rid of it now. Not to say it's a bad thing but I wanted to change it. Anyways, here's a few things I did to get rid of approach anxiety:

Talk to EVERYONE. It may seem counterproductive at first but it worked for me because you get used to conversing with everyone. Char had something about that in the socializing section.

You have to really want to change. Make it a part of your every being. Say it every morning, remind yourself when you forget. Work at it constantly.

Another thing, read the field reports, they can be really inspiring.

Welcome aboard, Alex!

Jake.

 

[Pato]

Hey Alex, good to see you on the boards getting an early start.

Jake has some good ideas about how to get rid of approach anxiety. Try reading some of these articles as they may help:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-demolish-approach-anxiety-forever
https://www.girlschase.com/content/anxiety-men-where-it-comes-and-how-stop-it
https://www.girlschase.com/content/overcoming-approach-anxiety

Another thing to note is that high school is very different from the real world. Everything is kind of one big social circle, and this can affect your game. Start making friends with some of the cooler kids, get to parties, and meet girls there. Fundamentals are VERY important, so make sure you keep practicing and get them down. Alex Rolstad has some good advice for high school kids in the comments of this article (in response to the comment "High School Article": https://www.girlschase.com/content/assum ... attraction

You should also go to social places outside of school, as it may be easier than school and will get you more used to approaching. When I was first joined the boards, I got a lot of advice that should help you just the same: https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=2659

Like I said, I'm pretty new to the boards myself, so I'm not very experienced either. Just make sure to ask a lot of questions and get involved in discussions. This will help you learn from the others and see what and where you can improve.

Cheers,
-Pato

 

[Lexielai]

Hey Jake and Pato,

Thanks for the advice, I'll definitely look into it! Talking with everyone is a pretty scary prospect, but I'll try as much as I can!

Going to check out the field reports later; maybe hearing about other people's experiences will help me out! I aspire to start a journal soon, so maybe that'll be good too.

I do think going out and getting some more exposure will help me out too. I'll try to stay active on the boards as well; the community here seems really awesome with helping out beginners! (In the case I'm not here, I might be busy with some "business" hehe ^_^)

See y'all later,
-Alex