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Hello everyone,
I'm new to this whole seduction thing (heard about it and read the theories few years back but didn't really actively apply them, but concepts are familiar to me whenever I read content/forum posts now) and I'm keen to start changing my life in this aspect. Hope all of you veterans out there can help a fellow out.
1. Where do I start and what's the best way to learn these stuff? In university I always write down notes for everything no matter what, but it seems seduction is something best practiced as opposed to 'writing notes'.
2. I have this huge problem whereby I see many HOT girls on Tinder and I instantly go into auto-rejection because I know I'm 'not good enough', I'm a 'nice guy' that girls generally don't desire - don't get me wrong I know I have to be a 'bad boy' whilst not being a complete asshole, a mix of both is the ideal composition, but I think my real problem is that I don't have the bad boy look that appeals to these hot chicks on Tinder (or at least that's what I think my barrier is). I can attract girls, but they're usually either unattractive, fat, or just simply not the ones that I'm aiming for. I guess the real problem is that I know I need to get good but I'm just so demoralized everytime I see these hot chicks on Tinder but I can never get them. Not to mention I feel super intimidated as well, and I guess it just hurts my ego knowing that internally I can never get them. Is this normal or am I just freaking screwed?
2a. Is the whole 'bad boy' look absolutely necessary? I suspect on dating apps like Tinder it is crucial because of first impression and all. I literally don't smoke, nor do I have tattoos or piercings.
2b. In relation to above, I guess it's also more like an 'achievement' to myself, being able to get a girl that I WANT the moment I see them, instead of 'satisficing' whereby I just go for the next best available option by default.
3. How do I get these hot girls? Or rather, how can I make them chase me? I understand it's a generic question, but literally these are the kinds of girls I've never been able to get. It's like I'm maybe a 7/10 and I always can only get 7/10 girls, not these 9/10 or 10/10 girls (in my eyes).
More context:
I'm Asian living in SEA whereby culture I guess is generally not as open as America for instance. Used to be a hardcore gamer / loser / bullied kid, grew out of it but you can basically guess my social and love life were pretty shit since I already grew up with this 'disadvantage' and my circle of friends were all the nerds, and birds of the same feather flock together, etc etc. Not here to complain about me playing the game on a higher difficulty - but it's going to be a long journey for me.
Any help and input would be greatly appreciated!
Cheers,
HiddenLurker
I'm new to this whole seduction thing (heard about it and read the theories few years back but didn't really actively apply them, but concepts are familiar to me whenever I read content/forum posts now) and I'm keen to start changing my life in this aspect. Hope all of you veterans out there can help a fellow out.
1. Where do I start and what's the best way to learn these stuff? In university I always write down notes for everything no matter what, but it seems seduction is something best practiced as opposed to 'writing notes'.
2. I have this huge problem whereby I see many HOT girls on Tinder and I instantly go into auto-rejection because I know I'm 'not good enough', I'm a 'nice guy' that girls generally don't desire - don't get me wrong I know I have to be a 'bad boy' whilst not being a complete asshole, a mix of both is the ideal composition, but I think my real problem is that I don't have the bad boy look that appeals to these hot chicks on Tinder (or at least that's what I think my barrier is). I can attract girls, but they're usually either unattractive, fat, or just simply not the ones that I'm aiming for. I guess the real problem is that I know I need to get good but I'm just so demoralized everytime I see these hot chicks on Tinder but I can never get them. Not to mention I feel super intimidated as well, and I guess it just hurts my ego knowing that internally I can never get them. Is this normal or am I just freaking screwed?
2a. Is the whole 'bad boy' look absolutely necessary? I suspect on dating apps like Tinder it is crucial because of first impression and all. I literally don't smoke, nor do I have tattoos or piercings.
2b. In relation to above, I guess it's also more like an 'achievement' to myself, being able to get a girl that I WANT the moment I see them, instead of 'satisficing' whereby I just go for the next best available option by default.
3. How do I get these hot girls? Or rather, how can I make them chase me? I understand it's a generic question, but literally these are the kinds of girls I've never been able to get. It's like I'm maybe a 7/10 and I always can only get 7/10 girls, not these 9/10 or 10/10 girls (in my eyes).
More context:
I'm Asian living in SEA whereby culture I guess is generally not as open as America for instance. Used to be a hardcore gamer / loser / bullied kid, grew out of it but you can basically guess my social and love life were pretty shit since I already grew up with this 'disadvantage' and my circle of friends were all the nerds, and birds of the same feather flock together, etc etc. Not here to complain about me playing the game on a higher difficulty - but it's going to be a long journey for me.
Any help and input would be greatly appreciated!
Cheers,
HiddenLurker