High Interest, Deflected Advanvces via text

[JMP_123]

How is everyone doing?

So to get to the nitty gritty I met a girl last weekend. She was all-in interested as we started to trade different interest and what not. I met her out of town and come to find out she only lives about 10 or so minutes away, score! I mentioned that if she was available we should absolutely get dinner or drinks soon which she wholly agreed on.

Days later we are doing the text-nightly game after work. A lot of flirting which are good signs. I asked if she was avail. Thurs night for drinks (i'm starting slow with a drinks instead of going in hard with a formal date) and she deflected that she will be over her parents for dinner. Thats ok in the short term of course and she then switched to the "im getting tired and have to head to bed." So she deflected the whole situation after that. Should I call/text her tonight picking up the conversation like nothing happened? (That would treat her like she's unaccountable for turning me down) or should I just leave her a lone for a few days and see if she gets back to me tonight or in a few days? Thanks!

 

[stinsonjr]

Hey JMP_123, it seems like she lost her interest after the drinks part. What did you say after she told ya she's going to her parents place? Were you offended? or Did you show any signs that you got offended=NEEDY? Or you said "Alright" = not interesting, irresistible, not a leader. BTW, your post is too-specific to analyze. I wanna know what you said after the drinks part?

 

[stinsonjr]

^General

 

[JMP_123]

Well she got back to me when she got to work this morning giving me the whole "oh sorry I was falling asleep last night." So seeing as she got back to me today I guess she wasn't deflecting all-together. But after she said she wasn't available Thursday I just mentioned how I was proposing that day seeing as I am not available Fri or Saturday to do anything.

The whole "oh i'm tired" thing just peeved me mid conversation. I just don't like people deflecting i'd rather be black and white about things.

 

[Franco]

JMP,

The whole "oh i'm tired" thing just peeved me mid conversation. I just don't like people deflecting i'd rather be black and white about things.

You're gonna have a very difficult time with women in general if you're expecting them to be black and white about things!

Women completely inhabit the "grey" area in between black and white, and I still have yet to meet a woman today who is 100% completely black and white about everything. They have too much to lose and little to gain from being black and white, so it's best to accept that right away and learn to deal with it. Part of learning to deal with it is to not be upset by it and instead practice how you can use this knowledge (and their "grey" behavior) to your advantage.

Just wanted to chime in!

- Franco

 

[JMP_123]

Franco,

Thanks for replying. I really set myself up for that response when I asked for a definite answer from her, which I know now I wasn't going to get. She's been texting me while at work today. I really don't want to have idle text chit chats or phone calls for 2 weeks if she won't commit to meeting out for drinks or something moderately casual. I just hate wasting my time if I don't know there is some positive resolution or outcome in the next week or so.

 

[Franco]

JMP,

I just hate wasting my time if I don't know there is some positive resolution or outcome in the next week or so.

That's why meeting new women is always the answer to this one. =)

For girls who aren't replying, you can simply just stop "chit-chatting" with them and start moving onto new prospects this way. In the meantime, the girls who were trying to "chat you up" instead of take action with you will suddenly begin to realize they are losing you, and in turn, many of them will suddenly be down for that "date" that they kept putting off!

- Franco