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FR  Highschool lunch, mixed signals, next step?

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Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Starting off, for those of you that don’t know I’m fairly knee to “game” and the boards. Anyway this is my first FR (not 100% sure if this is the right section for the post) but today at school I was wanting to experiment a little and see how different or similar pickup is at school vs out on vacation and stuff.
So we are at lunch and I’m sitting with my normal group for the first 5 minutes or so, I was talking about going “hunting” and than I was like “ yea I’m not sure where the good hunting grounds are at though.”(I was thinking of approaching the younger grade girls at our school that are hot for a few days now) one of my friends who hadn’t known told me to go sit right next to this girl that I knew about cause she hot and popular. So I was over to there table( using a confident walk chest out shoulders back, head high, etc) I take a seat next to the group leader (group of 3) and say, “ hey, girls I’ll be sitting here today.” In a bit of a cocky tone while eating my trail mix. The three of their body language all got very different. One looked down and was focused on her food and eating, one was on her phone and her posture didn’t change much, the 3rd seemed completely foreign to the situation.
But they responded with “okay that’s fine.” They found pretty odd. The leader asked me where I sat normally and with she guessed right so I told her yea I usually sit there with them but I was looking for somewhere else to eat my trail mix today. I asked the one girl across from me if that was a good salad. She was the one who was looking down focused on her food, we’ll call her 1. I asked the other girl what she was doing( she didn’t seem to be doing anything ) she scrambled to reach her paper (nervously?) and said studying. We’ll call her 2. The girl to my right, the leader, says she doesn’t need to study she already made a 20 on that test. I said “ yea haha I just cheat, that’s way easier, she goes in to tell me the story about how she was trying but dropped her phone. We’ll call her 3. 2 says to 1 and me “is this a dare?” 1 says” oh yea it’s definitely a dare. I tell them no and they keep trying to figure out who the date is from or if it’s a bet or something. I said “ dang you guys are pretty arogent thinking someone would pay me to comeover here.” They defended themselves by saysing they weren’t saying that they paid me to go to their table but just a random table and I chose that one. ( maybe I should have called them out there for saying that I chose their table?) then 3 three, still on her phone, starts asking me who I know and who I’m friends with,” she asks first if I’m friends with Shawn and talon and was like sort of, she asks me if I play for the high school soccer team (my shirt) and I say we’ll tryouts haven’t happen yet and I’m a freshmen sooo.. not yet, then she asks if I’m friends with Taylor and Ashley I said no (also truth) then I ask here why she’s so curious about who know and why these people are relavent to the situation.
She sort brushes off the question with something dumb, I don’t remember what, and asks me if I’m friends with mark(he’s very wealthy family) I say no she asks why I say cause mark is a bitch. That gets some gasps. I forget what we started talking about after that but she kept being in her phone and took a picture of me on Snapchat, and started typing for a long time (I mean like 30 seconds minimum) and I ask if she took a pic of me. She gives a slight smile while looking at her phone and says yes. Meanwhile the other two are pretending to study so I tell them,
Edit: the draft saved wired so there are a few parts missing only thing relavent was, they say why I went to them and me I said something about having to talk to new people if you want to meet new people” 1 and 2 agreed and were like yea gotta meet new people. 3 (I swear she was acting like she was emo or something) she was like why didn’t you go talk to them (points somewhere) I say their not really my type. They don’t really react, all feedback and advice for tommorw is much appreciates.
 

Big Daddy

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Help us out by putting some space between your paragraphs next time bro haha

Now fucking props to you my man for having walked over and sitting there like a boss. Require balls. That said, unless you are jacked and the quarterback of the football team, you are gonna get some shit being so direct and dry like that. The good part, though, is that if you keep doing this in a calibrated way people are gonna expect that somewhat and you will have an easier time doing that in the future. You just have to be careful not to burn your reputation walking over to 20 random tables 20 days in a row.

Here's what happened: you walk over to the table and boast that you are sitting there, and they have absolutely no idea why. They ask you if it's a dare, because why else would you be there...? If you want to go direct, you gotta make your intentions clear: "hey, I have to tell, looking around here your hair matches your eyes so well. They're incredible. I'm X" or you better go off indirect "hey girls, let's negotiate our lunch here. Actually, Y is my favorite food, so who's willing to trade?" then proceed to convo.

The reason why she asking you a bunch of questions is, she was actually testing you. You said she was popular, right? She wanted to see if you have some value yourself. So she started probing you to see who you knew. The way you want to respond to these tests is not respond at all, change subjects, flip it back at her and move the conversation to something productive.

Her: Do you know Trevor and Talon and Drew and Derek?
You: I'm gonna have a bad time remembering guys' names, I only hang out with girls
Her: Whyyy? OR So do you know Tiffany Taylor and Amanda?
You: I certainly do, I'm besties with Taylor Swift. What about you missy, who are your lovely friends here?
Her: Introduce friends
You: Move topics

You could tease her a little bit, pull the phone from her hand jokingly "let me see what you are writing" or "let me write something for you," create a "us vs the world" bubble, take a selfie with her and send to your Snapchap (or pretend that you will if you don't have one like me).

If she keeps giving you shit, you keep answering her questions like they don't matter, because they don't. At some point, ideally, you want to suggest a date and grab her number to let her know you are interested at least (especially if you went indirectly).
 

Start_ed_young

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Hey man, Thanks for the props and all your feedback.
Big Daddy said:
You could tease her a little bit, pull the phone from her hand jokingly "let me see what you are writing" or "let me write something for you," create a "us vs the world" bubble, take a selfie with her and send to your Snapchap (or pretend that you will if you don't have one like me).
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This bit is FUCKING BRILLIANT! I love it! Sooooo wish I would have thought of it at the time. (And coincidentally, your like the first other person I’ve met without Snapchat, and that’s barely an exaggeration)

And , on Monday, do you think it would be a bad idea to go over to that table again on Monday and maybe I could try some of this stuff I’ve learned, or just use it next time I just so happen to end up in this situation again?

Finally, I can’t acreddit this completely to the approach on the 8th grade table, but today I was planning on going over there again but some of the girls from my grade, the hottest ones in that lunch period, invited me to their table. (The girl who asked is a sucker for pre-selection) I accepted, not readily, I made her beg a bit. I really like one of the girls at the table and I ended up sitting next-to her. I’ll make a seperate post on her.
Thanks again Big D
 

Big Daddy

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Haha great man, in high school pre-selection and being jacked are the two biggest factors you can use in your favor. So I wouldn't be surprised if both girls saw you sitting there with other girls.

One thing that you could do, if you imagine you can pull it off: sit with the hot girl from your class for lunch, then say you have to talk to someone and will be back in five minutes. Then you walk over without your lunch to the girl on this report and use a false time restraint: "I only have five minutes to before I get back to my friends (point discreetly back to the table with hot girls) otherwise I'll be late, but..." then you tell her a story, tell her how you just wanted to say her style is matching her so well today, etc.

This will relieve the pressure on you staying 20 awkward minutes with her, will boost your pre-selection both ways as both girls will see you talking to other girls, and will give you an opportunity to be more direct.

Start teasing this girl, eventually saying you will take a picture of her this time. Take a selfie and say "it's a cute pic, but unfortunately I can't use as my profile pic on Facebook. My girlfriend will kill me." She will either ask about "your girlfriend" or ignore it.

If she asks about it: you say that well, she's not really your girlfriend, but she wish she were and is super jealous and point to the hot girl on your table.
If she doesn't ask about it: you say she might be even at the girl right now... she's over there at the table, but don't be super obvious looking at her! And she's super jealous. Naaaw I'm kidding, she wish she were my gf, but I'm cool.

Then change topics. After 5 minutes of convo, you ask her out (hey what do you say we go grab some ice cream someday after school?), ask for her phone number and go back to your table. Both girls will see you talking to the other girl and that boosts attraction.
 

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Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Thanks again for the advice,
If like to start off by saying
Big Daddy said:
One thing that you could do, if you imagine you can pull it off: sit with the hot girl from your class for lunch, then say you have to talk to someone and will be back in five minutes. Then you walk over without your lunch to the girl on this report and use a false time restraint: "I only have five minutes to before I get back to my friends (point discreetly back to the table with hot girls) otherwise I'll be late, but..." then you tell her a story, tell her how you just wanted to say her style is matching her so well today, etc..
I’ll definiy be giving this a try. The only thing I could see making this difficult is my friends trying to call me a man hoe ors trying to get me to sit with them instead, but screw them if that’s the case.

Secondly, I’m a little skeptical on this part,
Big Daddy said:
I can't use as my profile pic on Facebook. My girlfriend will kill me." She will either ask about "your girlfriend" or ignore it.

If she asks about it: you say that well, she's not really your girlfriend, but she wish she were and is super jealous and point to the hot girl on your table.
If she doesn't ask about it: you say she might be even at the girl right now... she's over there at the table, but don't be super obvious looking at her! And she's super jealous. Naaaw I'm kidding, she wish she were my gf, but I'm cool.
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Only because it wouldn’t be too wired if they talked, but I guess if I don’t use any names it should be fine? Also I made a seperate post in the General board about the girl from my class and our background.
Pls check it out and let me know what you think, thanks again for all the help
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake

OldGuy

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I would avoid the fancy maneuvers, they are likely to fail.
You showed great confidence in walking over and joining them; showing that you were used to approaching and being accepted by hot women. They enjoyed that, and the other women noticed, and moved on you. Keep up the good work.
 

Big Daddy

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Don't follow it to a tee if it's not your style. I was just passing by over that part, it was not supposed to sound like the highlight. Over 99% of girls I talk to would never see me as being the bf type, so they are a little bit surprised.

All of that push-pulling is used to gauge her response. The point being, you throw some baits out there, and depending on how she replies, you adjust. I mean, if I walk up to a girl and tell her she is hot and she is responsive, then out of nowhere I say that I have a gf, she will be like WTF????

Not always you will get a reaction, but if you get a reaction like that you pretty much know she likes you. In this case specifically it might backfire if the word spread that you are saying shit like that, but I guess it's the type of stuff that comes more naturally to me as everyone would think I was joking, so use with caution.

Just going over to both tables will be a +1 in your books with both girls assuming you are able to manage potential jealousy outbursts.
 
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