FR++ Hinge Catfish Lol

[Kaida]

Spoiler: Writing More Reports

I’m gonna start writing almost all of my dates down. I realized I’m not improving as much as I was before because I’m not analayzing / getting feedback the same way I was.

Just got on a dating app for the first time too and getting 3-5 matches a day. Gonna be having a lot of dates. Already got one planned tomorrow the day after and 2 days after that. This FR is my second date ever from Hinge.

The date was at this walkable area with lots of food places, benches, and stores. Kind of like an outdoor mall.

As soon as I saw her I noticed she was a lot taller than I imagined. Also she was like a 7 in the pictures, yet was a smooth 5.5 in person.

No big deal, I thought. Maybe I can learn something / get my dick sucked (was not genuinely not trying to fuck tbh)

Spoiler: Further Thoughts

On review, I really should have just ended the date after some 30 min light conversation

Even if I managed to get her sucking my dick, would’ve just built resentment since I know I wouldn’t have texted her again.

And after fucking 40 girls in school, I don’t think I’ve left one better than I found her. Maybe about 85% neutrals in there, but none I can really say better.

And it hurts my reputation over there and hurts my heart knowing some girls regret being with me.

Actively trying to be a force for good

Conversation was light and flowed well instantly. Been on a few dates recently so I’m very comfortable.

We talk about her drive there (she drove 30 mins wow), if she played any sports (shes tall) and about where she’s from (Kenya).

I tell her I’m not super hungry anymore and would rather us just talk. She agrees and we sit on a bench for maybe 15 minutes.

I ask her what she loves go do for fun. She says she loves reading, working out etc. I’m touching her waist and thigh as I say this, my hand eventually finding a resting place there.

I use this opportunity to sexualize the conversation:

Me: So you be reading smut with vampires.

Her: *Laughs hard* I mean not anymore

Me: Riiight we can pretend. Werewolves then

Her: Haha I did use to read that stuff

Me: Thats normal. Lots of girls do, same way lots of other guys watch porn.

Her: Yeah

Me: I’m lowkey jealous of yall girls though

Her: Why?

Me: Its like God made sex so much more enjoyable for y’all. Like yall can come multiple times in a session.

Me: Like when I’m with a woman I tend to last a fairly long time. So maybe I’ll be going for maybe 45 minutes and she’ll have came 8 times already, and I’m still yet to get a nut off! (sexual prizing)

Me: Yall really got the good end of the stick.

Her: Lmao yeah.

*Bird lands in front of us*

Me: Man, dont you love nature? (Fractionation)

Her: Haha yeah

So I changed topics and fractionated out after the sex talk. My hand was on her thigh the whole time and she never resisted.

We talked about what music she likes listening to, built some commonalities in that area since we’re both african.

After some more general talk, I screened her a bit:

Me: so whats one sentence you’d use to describe yourself?

Her: Hmmm. I’d say I go for what I want and I’m independent.

Me: I like that a lot. People tend to hold themselves back from what they want with arbitrary rules and labels. Going for what you want unapologetically is attractive

Her: Well, I still have rules… you don’t?

Me: What do you mean? (She sensed the sexual frame in there)

Her: Like I’m not just gonna jump in with someone I like to take things slow

Me: Hmm. Give me an example? (Trying to get her to say it)

Her: Ummm I dont know. Hard to explain

Conversation carried on to something light again.

I wasn’t very attracted to this chick like I said before. So I just randomly suggested she show me her playlist (we were talking about music before).

She agreed, so I pulled her to my car so she can play it on the speakers.

We got in. I drove to the 2nd floor of the parking garage since it was secluded and parked.

I opened my phone while putting my hand on her thigh.
I moved her hand to my thigh as well so she’s escalating on me. Put on some slow music while we chatted.

Conversation went to how we looked as kids. She asked me to show her a picture.

I said sure, but used the opportunity to say lets move to the back. She asked why, and I said I like cuddling.

She agreed and we went to the back. After showing her the pics we were really just cuddling. Was feeling her ass with no reistance.

After like a minute of silence, I went for the kiss. She gave me a few pecks and ended the kiss. IME thats a sign theres gonna be LMR.

Waited like 2 minutes, and went for the kiss again. Its a little longer this time.

I gently moved my hand and started feeling her tits while kissing. She let me feel them for a few seconds before using her hand and moving them.

At this point I realized nothing was probably gonna happen (and tbh I wasn’t really pressed about it…)

Wanted to leave on a good note, S
so after just told her to put on some afrobeats and show me how to legwork (african dance) since I didn’t know how.

We just had a little fun with that for a bit, then I drive her back to her car.

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Pretty normal FR but I’m trying to make a habit to write more of these now.

I’m girlfriend hunting and I’m super picky so I need to get the skills to aquire the girl I want.

 

[ChrisXKiss]

And after fucking 40 girls in school, I don’t think I’ve left one better than I found her. Maybe about 85% neutrals in there, but none I can really say better.

And it hurts my reputation over there and hurts my heart knowing some girls regret being with me.

Actively trying to be a force for good

I feel that this is quite important. Why do you feel that?

You mentioned in the journal too, that you try to provide value, you are optimistic, not bitter, but can’t seem to get deep connections.

If there is a particular reason why you believe that you are not improving these girls’ lives by having sex with them, I can imagine that it will also be sub communicated during your interactions, as more of a vibe of taking something from them, compared to giving something to them.

Regarding this date for example, it would seem way more normal to me if you didn’t feel that she would build some resentment for you.

You are a hot guy, she is attractive enough to get you hard, you are not promising anything more, you are just giving her the best time of her life with a type of guy she may not have many chances with.

She gets to sleep with the King, she is already better than you found her.

This is more for the mindset shift. There is also how you treat these girls during and after the sexual experience, and how valued they feel as people.

At least for me I don’t see it as sleeping around with a bunch of chicks until I find one girl I like a lot that I will treat really well. I truly cherish all the girls I sleep with like they are extremely important in my life even if I know I won’t see them again.

And I’ll treat my future girlfriend the same, just with an extra invite to meet again, and then again, and again…