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Was at the mall yesterday shopping for new clothes when I decided to stop into Buckle to look at some of their jeans. After about 5 min of looking at jeans, one of the feamle workers (Jess) came over and asked me how I was finding everything and blah blah blah. There were no other customers in the store at the time and she didn't come over until after 5 min or so, when usually workers (female) will come up to me right away unless they're busy assisting someone. Wasn't sure if that meant anything but thought I'd note it in case.
Anyways, she was pulling out different jeans for me to look at and we made some small talk and what not. She then asked me about my necklace and complimented me on it (which was the blue wolf fang pendant, I got it recently after reading a thread where Franco and some others mentioned it so props to you guys for that rec). I took that as an IOI and then asked her about her necklace which she got from the store cuz of her discount. She said how it was really fake and blah blah blah and I told her to let me see it (told, not asked) and she let me without any hesitation. At this point I'm telling myself she's definitely interested and am starting to think of the best way to get her number.
I try on the jeans and she asks me how I liked them,etc and told her to hold one pair for me so I could think on it. They hem their jeans for free so I asked if the lady who hems had to be there to pin them, and Jess said she could do it. Her coworker then said "Joe, we can do whatever you want" and then Jess said "well, not anything but anything when it comes to denim" and they both started laughing. At this point, I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that they both think I'm cute or something cuz of the way they were acting. The coworker than asked what my plans were for the night and I responded that they're usually spontaneous and not ever really set in stone (which is true). She said amen to that blah blah. I then asked both of them what they were doing. The coworker said her bed cuz she was tired and I busted her stones a bit about not going out. After a bit more talking with both of them I told them I had to get going and that I would be back tomorrow. Jess said she'll be there all day and said she'll see me tomorrow.
In the middle of that conversation, I asked Jess if she had all of my info that she needed to hold the item for me ann asked her if she needed a number or something. She said yeah she can take one. I genuinely wasn't trying to go under the radar with that one and wasn't trying to hint I was interested or that I wanted her to text me or something. However, I don't know if she took it as that. I tried to cover up by saying that if she already had my name then a number wouldn't be necessary but she said no it's cool she'll take it anyway.
Lessons Learned:
I realized that I'm actually pretty decent at talking to girls without feeling overly anxious or what not. I've been told many times that I have good conversational skills and can keep a conversation going.
I also realized that my fundamentals must be good or at least a lot better than I've been thinking, because I've been getting signs of interest the past couple outings where I interacted with hired guns. My problem is two-fold:
1) I don't pull the trigger and go for the number because I either think it's too soon, or some of the girl's coworkers are around and hesitate.
2) I can't seem to approach random girls properly. I'm sure there is some AA in the mix, but I feel it's more because I don't know how to open. If I had a pre-determined opener I feel like it would be easier for me cuz I don't have to worry about thinking on the spot with AA acting up. Yet, I seem to do well with hired guns or in situations where the ice is broken already.
Do you guys got any tips on how to fix 1 and 2? Also, what do you think I should've done differently in the interaction above? I'm getting ready to go to the mall now to pick up my jeans and I plan on telling Jess she's cute and what not and I'm gonna go for the number. Don't give a fuck at this point if she shoots me down or if attraction expired, I just really need to build momentum. Anyways, I'll let you guys know how it goes when I get back later.
Anyways, she was pulling out different jeans for me to look at and we made some small talk and what not. She then asked me about my necklace and complimented me on it (which was the blue wolf fang pendant, I got it recently after reading a thread where Franco and some others mentioned it so props to you guys for that rec). I took that as an IOI and then asked her about her necklace which she got from the store cuz of her discount. She said how it was really fake and blah blah blah and I told her to let me see it (told, not asked) and she let me without any hesitation. At this point I'm telling myself she's definitely interested and am starting to think of the best way to get her number.
I try on the jeans and she asks me how I liked them,etc and told her to hold one pair for me so I could think on it. They hem their jeans for free so I asked if the lady who hems had to be there to pin them, and Jess said she could do it. Her coworker then said "Joe, we can do whatever you want" and then Jess said "well, not anything but anything when it comes to denim" and they both started laughing. At this point, I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that they both think I'm cute or something cuz of the way they were acting. The coworker than asked what my plans were for the night and I responded that they're usually spontaneous and not ever really set in stone (which is true). She said amen to that blah blah. I then asked both of them what they were doing. The coworker said her bed cuz she was tired and I busted her stones a bit about not going out. After a bit more talking with both of them I told them I had to get going and that I would be back tomorrow. Jess said she'll be there all day and said she'll see me tomorrow.
In the middle of that conversation, I asked Jess if she had all of my info that she needed to hold the item for me ann asked her if she needed a number or something. She said yeah she can take one. I genuinely wasn't trying to go under the radar with that one and wasn't trying to hint I was interested or that I wanted her to text me or something. However, I don't know if she took it as that. I tried to cover up by saying that if she already had my name then a number wouldn't be necessary but she said no it's cool she'll take it anyway.
Lessons Learned:
I realized that I'm actually pretty decent at talking to girls without feeling overly anxious or what not. I've been told many times that I have good conversational skills and can keep a conversation going.
I also realized that my fundamentals must be good or at least a lot better than I've been thinking, because I've been getting signs of interest the past couple outings where I interacted with hired guns. My problem is two-fold:
1) I don't pull the trigger and go for the number because I either think it's too soon, or some of the girl's coworkers are around and hesitate.
2) I can't seem to approach random girls properly. I'm sure there is some AA in the mix, but I feel it's more because I don't know how to open. If I had a pre-determined opener I feel like it would be easier for me cuz I don't have to worry about thinking on the spot with AA acting up. Yet, I seem to do well with hired guns or in situations where the ice is broken already.
Do you guys got any tips on how to fix 1 and 2? Also, what do you think I should've done differently in the interaction above? I'm getting ready to go to the mall now to pick up my jeans and I plan on telling Jess she's cute and what not and I'm gonna go for the number. Don't give a fuck at this point if she shoots me down or if attraction expired, I just really need to build momentum. Anyways, I'll let you guys know how it goes when I get back later.
