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Hope for Newbies (My first 9 Months)

foxman2

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I have been on this journey for about 9 months now. I just want to share my experiences so that many of you just starting can see the light at the end of the tunnel. When I first found Chase's website, I was a complete wreck. 21, and I had very limited experience with girls, never a girlfriend, only had ever gotten a few numbers by accident, and didn't know what to do when I got them.

I had asked out a couple girls in a about a week long span, and both of them rejected me. I was pretty depressed about my luck, so I decided to do a little research, and googled, "How to get girls?" and I found this website. Within a few weeks, I had read almost every article on this website. Chase has offered more than lessons in pick up, but life, and that is very important to remember- girls are only the result of living a healthy, masculine lifestyle, not the cause.

I still remember my first approach after reading this website, it was a daytime approach, and she was a hired gun working at a convenience store. I had basically worked up hours worth of approach anxiety just for this one girl because I had seen her there regularly. I got her number, and she was a nine. I didn't end up closing though, but the feeling when I left that store with her number was unbelievably awesome. While I am typing this, I can imagine that feeling to this day, I was ON TOP OF THE WORLD emotionally.

I remember my next few approaches were pretty clunky, I went up to girls in my cafeteria and sat at their table and would converse with them. I had no idea what I was doing, even though I read this site a lot.

When the New Year came around, I made it my goal to approach 50 women all year, that's how bad my anxiety was in approaching girls. I figured that if I could just approach one a week, that would be enough. I ended up blowing this out of the water, I approached left and right.

About 3 months into my journey, I ended up laying a girl, probably a 7 or 8 on a scale to 10. Then I laid another one, and another one, and another one. In a period of about 5 months, I had laid 7 girls, and these girls were all 7s, 8s, and 9s, the types of girls I never thought I could get.

I have approached well over 50 girls in the last two months alone, and I see noticable differences in my interactions with women. When I was at clubs, a couple times girls approached me, and I got makeouts within minutes.

Once you get started, you can pick up on what works pretty quickly. I just want to share with you the biggest thing I have learned thusfar, and it should motivate you to approach:

When you go to a club, look around, I bet you will observe that 90% of the guys are mingling with other guys, not talking to any women at all. Another 5% of the guys are out there with girls they probably came to the club with. If you approach, you are already in the top 5% of guys out there, and women will respect you just for having that confidence. Once you approach consistently, and more effectively, you will be in the top 1% of guys. You will be in a different class of male, whether you get rejected(so what?) or you succeed, the most important thing is that you simply approach. You can even approach girls and try to get rejected, and you still may succeed. You owe it to yourself, to give yourself this gift, and approach women, they want to be approached, chances are, you will make their day!
 

Franco

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Thanks for the post here, fox! I'm glad to see you're having so much success. I feel like many of us were on this same journey, so it's great to be able to share our experience and successes together. And in the process, it's been great to be able to help each other succeed in the areas we are struggling in as well.

Kudos!

- Franco
 

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Hey fox,

That is really encouraging, especially for some one who's biggest challenge is approach. Any tips for how to approach a girl, either in the daytime of the night?
 

foxman2

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xcrunner said:
Hey fox,

That is really encouraging, especially for some one who's biggest challenge is approach. Any tips for how to approach a girl, either in the daytime of the night?


During the night, any type of approach works pretty well, but I generally base it on the group dynamic. If the girl is alone, or looking out away from the group, I do a direct or situational approach. If she is actively engaged in conversation with the group, I would use an indirect opener about some relationship issue to engage the whole group. Having a few openers of each type tends to do you well, just be prepared to say them without hesitation.

During the day, I pretty much go 100% direct or situational.

As far as overcoming approach anxiety, it gets a little easier every time you do it, but it never goes away completely. Things that help me are to change the wording of it, I now try to call it approach excitement, it keeps you thinking positive.

And another thing is to look at approach in terms of pain and pleasure, as Tony Robbins suggests we do with all behaviors we want to change.

A while back, I went to the mall for two hours and had terrible approach anxiety- I could not strike up conversation with a girl at all. When the two hours were up, I literally felt sick to my stomach, I let this giddy feeling last forever, and did nothing about it, it was actually painful. On the other hand, when I approach, I feel really good about myself, no matter the result.

Take pleasure in approaching, and pain in not approaching.
 

topcat

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Thank You Fox! As a beginner, this post is super motivating. Hyped me up to start beating the streets! Bless.
 

Adventman

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Seconded, this is a really motivational post, thanks Fox!
 
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BarryS1

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Fox,

I am coming from the same place as you! Big motivation reading this type of success.
 

PrettyDecent

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Bump :)
 
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