@DarkKnight,
This is a pet peeve of mine. From time to time I encounter a chick who I sense likes me, but she will avoid me at all costs, only look from far distances, you would be inclined to believe there is a strong dislike. Then they end up with some nerd, and then the signalling becomes stronger.
Some girls like these after they ended those relationships engaged me like a boomerang. But yeah not exactly a fresh deal so..
I never quite figured how to make myself attainable to these types especially as they tend to make proximity hard. Got to say these girls tend to be youngish as well.
Perhaps run after them in awkward social environments (im joking)
I know exactly what you mean!
She wants you, but you're too 'unsafe', so she runs for the guy she likes less because he feels safer.
Then when she gets bored with him she starts signaling you again... but by that point you are like "Eh... I don't think I'm interested anymore."
There's really not a good way to reliably get these girls unless you're willing to bring your game/fundamentals down to a level where they feel 'safe'. Of course in doing that you sacrifice your results with other women. These girls tend to be pretty cagey about not going for 'out-of-their-league' guys, too.
You can always be the rebound guy who catches her when she's grown bored with the safe guy. If you met her earlier and she snubbed you to run off with the safe guy though, you probably need to not really have an ego about it at all to be fine being that guy. I know some guys who are that way, and are happy to scoop these girls up once they bounce back on the rebound. Personally, by that point, I'm just over it...
I can tell you what I do with these types: as soon as I start detecting this "I'm interested! But I'm running away. But I'm interested! But I'm running away," dynamic from a woman, I just decide she is a scatterbrain and has some insecurity I don't want to deal with, and I switch my focus to other women. Meanwhile she will still be watching on, interested then running then interested then running... she can watch all she wants, lol, I'm not getting caught in some flaky loop with her.
Maybe there is a way to consistently get these types of women without either a.) buckets of persistence (which I have used to get them in the past, especially when I was a novice seducer) or b.) right place, right time (e.g., catching her just as she's rebounding from a boring nice guy), but if there is I will need to leave it to someone else to figure that out.
Me, I just cut them out when I detect that back and forth flux -- if she can't make up her mind, she can maybe circle back to me later when she has, otherwise I will just find someone else.
Chase
