"How a girl shows interest" and "auto-rejection_ articles

[whitegato777]

Chase, I just wanted to say I love your articles and they help put some things into perspective that I was trying to figure out for a while. After reading both of your articles "how girl shows interest" and "Auto rejection" I've realized I need to just push forward in the absence of red lights I just assume they're interested the move faster so they don't going to auto reject mode. but I still continue to run into the same problem that I have been dealing with for over 3 years and have not been able to get past. the girl will show mass interest so I'll try to make things happen. But one of two things end up happening. The first result is she'll act surprised that I try to make plans or get her number and she act like she was in shock, like she didn't see it coming. But that very rarely happens. The second results which happens a lot more is usually with somebody I run into or work with a lot and I'll get their number and they seem interested but as soon as I start texting them in trying to make plans they act cold and aloof. Making it just about impossible to seal the deal and keep them out of order rejection. So after getting nowhere with making plans or through texting I'll run into him again and not act as interested as I was before. Then they will try to get my attention and act more interested when its face to face. So I'll start trying to hit em up to make plans and they will start acting cold and aloof again. So I end up just giving up and I'm tired of wasting my time. And then I watch them go into auto reject mode after I start ignoring them and stop trying to push things forward. how do I get out of this repetitious cycle? It's getting to the point where I don't even try because it's the same results over 3 years in a row. and I don't act interested anymore. And I watch girls continually give me signs of interest until they eventual become bitter towards me. which really sucks since this affects my work environment. I'll get individual girls and women acting really bitter and rude towards me. I'm starting to realize that women, even beautiful women, are a lot more sensitive and have less self esteem and we men think they do.
So how do we push forward if we can't get them to hang out even though
there acting interested but wont lock down a time and place to build comfort?

 

[Godsninja]

Hey man, it's hard to understand your situation, but it seems like maybe you are attempting to build a connection with the same few girls? Also, I'm not sure if it's me but it seems like there's a pretty big loss of communication between you and the girl. Have they ever asked you to just be friends?

Also, be wary, some girls don't seem to have the ability to make there minds up, but I'm pretty sure this is something that happens when you don't lead properly, so they may not even say anything. They may not know what your intentions are, so if you don't make it clear one way or another, there's gonna be a loss of communication and you'll get confused.

Make sure you go out as often as possible and maintain an abundance mentality, which from Chases perspective, as an intermediate, I believe is 20-30 new woman a week, if your going out a few days. I think that's pretty nuts myself, but it's reachable to do that every day if you lay your logistics out properly and have the time. You must also shoot first and ask questions later (you can't hesitate, if you thought she was cute, interesting, or w.e., talk to her!)

Keep your life interesting. The only way to get results, and the only way to learn, is to constantly be interacting with the opposite sex, and keep refining yourself! Know what you want, and go for it.

What happens in the short term is irrelevant in the grand scheme of things. You'll get what you want if you keep trying. The bullets in your heart aren't real, they'll heal with time and make you stronger.

G

 

[whitegato777]

I'm thinking about being a lot more direct. I've never had a girl try to put me in the friend zone. for a while I had the mentality of being just friends to get to know them better because I'm trying to be picky. but I'm pretty sure women don't like being put in the friend zone. they take it as being rejeceted. and when it comes to an abundance mentality I think I live it too much. Which makes it seem like I'm not interested or I don't show enough interest. And as for going out, I don't need to, I work at a grocery store and a gym. the grocery store in itself has very little competition and more women than a club or bar. the only thing I can think of to do is try and qualify moreand be way more direct in my intentions so there's no confusion and they don't feel a need to question if I'm interested or not and if they should stick their neck out or not. and I've had problems with jealousy plot lines on accident. because I'm so social, I talk to so many people, it's hard to not run into a girl that I flirted with before while talking to another girl or hanging out with another girl and have them shut down and get jealous. jealousy I've noticed during the day game is a very double edged sword.

 

[Godsninja]

Sounds a little beyond me, because it sounds more like a... fundamentals problem I want to say? Like conversation flow, sexual vibe, being sexy in general, escalation, that sorta thing. There's a whole line of articles for that, which seems like might be your issue. They're pretty good and I think have the most links to other branches of fundamentals, and just other things that might be an issue.

That's just my input, being as I can't see your approaches, but I'm sure if you simply filmed a few approaches, you could see for yourself and/or learn something really important about yourself.

G

 

[whitegato777]

I've been reading chase's article called "What to Do When Girls Act Superior, Rude, and Aloof" and I think it answers: why I keep running into the situation.but how do I give a woman assurance or get around thisinsucurity?