How do guys in their 30s even play the game?
Simple answer: date younger women.
The prime age for attractiveness in men is about late 20's/early 30's to roughly mid-to-late 40s.
I meet younger women literally
everywhere, but the
absolute best way to meet them is cold approach. Then there are no social barriers for her to overcome, like friends or parents telling her that you're too "old" for her.
I meet shit tons of women out at bars, many of them barely legal age to drink, and they get super fucking turned on when they find out I'm 35. I swear it's like an instant attraction booster.
This concern:
and you're at an age where people will consider you to be older
What you're talking about is being "othered", and age doesn't have anything to do with it unless
you think it does. When you consider yourself to be part of an
outgroup instead of part of the ingroup, then you'll be treated as such.
Don't let other people cast you out or shame you because you're a little bit older than they are. The
Benjamin Franklin effect shows that we have a startling tendency to come to hate people who we treat badly. If we’re experiencing guilt about our treatment of some person, or group, or class, and having trouble reconciling that guilt with our notion of ourselves as good people, our brains are extremely adept at resolving the situation by othering the people we feel that we’ve wronged. If we dehumanize someone, and distance our empathy with them, then we won’t have to feel bad about the shabby way we’ve treated them.
This is why it's so important from a social standpoint to cast people out who don't treat you properly.
I'm getting a bit off track, but wanted to explain why you feel the way you do (and why you shouldn't feel that way, since it's a pretty damaging cycle to find yourself in). I quite literally have friends of all ages, and this is possible for anyone to accomplish.
So yeah, as far as younger women go:
- Women mature faster than men, and older women aren't usually as fun anyway. I have a way better time with women who are around 10 years (or more) younger than I am than I actually do being around women my own age.
- I think on average women are like 4-5 years (don't recall the number exactly) younger than their spouse, and I find an age difference of even 15-20 years to be quite meaningless, in my own experience.
- Be your own man, a lone wolf if you will. Like James Bond. I've found that women think it's pretty sexy that I just show up by myself and by the end of the night I'm friends with everyone.
- An extreme age difference really turns young women on. It's like a taboo, possibly. Some of the 18, 19 year olds I've had just could not wait to fuck me once they found out how old I was.
- Utilize cold approach to meet the bulk of them, but bars/clubs are also chock full of younger chicks who are DTF
Here's a couple articles that should help, too:
I'd guess about 80% of the women I sleep with are under 24 or so. The other 20%, they don't get much older, maybe late-20's. An occasional sexy MILF for good measure, but you'll have that.
Cheers,
J.J.
