How come young girls are undersexed and lose interest in sex

[Skills]

Yes. He took the girl to a luxury hotel. Where drinks are going to be extremely overpriced. Unlike a dive bar. Common sense

In my area drinks average 25 bucks.

 

[Teevster]

You missed earn group

Yes of course, if she is in a group setting.

 

[Velasco]

In my area drinks average 25 bucks

Drink menu from one of the bars in your area. High noon sells for $7.50

 

[Skills]

Drink menu from one of the bars in your area. High noon sells for $7.50

I have not met 1 gen z girl that drinks beer.. This not Germany brother...

 

[Velasco]

High noon is not a beer

 

[Skills]

High noon is not a beer

Again the girls that i was in a situation were it was a sure thing and I got into a position to buy a drink the least I paid was 15 plus tip, the most 20 plus tip... My overall point is drinks are expensive which is a common complaint i hear when I ask girls why they don't come out anymore... Notice how even a bunch of gen z dudes from forum drink way less to none is the same with women... There is no way they are drinking the same in my area.. some put money together and get a table...i don't see many girls drinking as I uses to see before... they still drink usually similar drinks to what you posted... I don't know much about drinks so I can tell you why they order i usually have them repeat drink to bartender directly...

 

[Atlas IV]

Was wondering this as well.

I meet a lot of girls these days who haven't had sex in months - sometimes over a year. Usually it's girls in their early-mid 20s.

It's not for want of opportunities, they're definitely attractive enough that they could get it if they desired it.

And when I ask about it, they'll usually say they just haven't met a guy who makes them feel like they really want it with him.

So I think the answer is a combination of the fact that social media provides endless validation and the reassurance that sex is available for them anytime if they want it, and the fact that most guys lack the skills to actually make a girl desire sex with them in a face-to-face non-virtual interaction.

 

[JasonH]

Agreed with @Teevster, @Will_V and to a certain extent @Spike.

The tiktok culture and culture in general mixes the masculine and feminine, confuses things - and confuses how we externally should feel and behave (socially).

For younger girls -their type is driven by what they see on tiktok, social media etc, their immediate social circles, the types of guys their friends are crushing on, and also the type of guy they most recently dated/fucked. So their immediate visual reaction will be to these types of guys, because they connect and have emotional association with this type of guy.

However, say she isn't giving you IOI's or you don't immediately stand out as her type visually. If you have good fundamentals, build similarity with, and still have the personality characteristics she emotionally associates with then like Teevster said, it is more about building sexual comfort and holding back on providing validation.

I don't completely agree Instagram fills the validation tanks anywhere near as much, I feel and observe that it is low quality validation. I think Instagram is inferior to the below
- Attractive guy who she emotionally associates with as her type OR if not her immediate type one who she emotionally engages and associates with after getting to know him
- Attractive guy in her social circle who validates her in person
- Attractive guy she meets via cold approach

 

[Atlas IV]

I think Instagram is inferior to the below
- Attractive guy who she emotionally associates with as her type OR if not her immediate type one who she emotionally engages and associates with after getting to know him
- Attractive guy in her social circle who validates her in person
- Attractive guy she meets via cold approach

Correct.

How many girls have men like that in their lives though? Few, and increasingly fewer.

Sure social media doesn't fill the tank like a real emotional connection. But I'd say it gives them enough validation to create a feeling of apathy towards sex, which explains why they're having less sex than the pre-social media generations.

 

[Skills]

social media validation is overblown, talk to the women that get bombarded on apps or insta, they don't see those dudes as giving them validation at all, those dudes are a nothing (npc) or whatever they call it or pests...

problem sometimes i see with that is the distraction that don't let them engage in other things/activities...

Post corona shit got weird, even when clubs are popping is just a different vibe (and is not hook up, but social).... is like the hyper social generation... The isolation really set back the gen tbh... that is my theory...

 

[Velasco]

problem sometimes i see with that is the distraction that don't let them engage in other things/activities...

Yeah... Social media lol

 

[mirror]

what are they upto?

Maybe they value other things as much as sex? And see sex as an extra, not as a need... females have way less testosteron and I think just like guys with approach anxiety girls can have it too.

 

[empath]

The girl who triggered this question for me responded with.

She don’t want to be pump and dumped anymore.

so she is consciously slowing down sex. Her body wanted to have badly with me but her brain was controlling her not to have it.

when I digged more it was due to feeling guilty after sex.

which was due two reason, one being slut shammed by her friends and not being able to retain the guy she wanted in past.

she is in early 20s

 

[Skills]

The girl who triggered this question for me responded with.

She don’t want to be pump and dumped anymore.

so she is consciously slowing down sex. Her body wanted to have badly with me but her brain was controlling her not to have it.

when I digged more it was due to feeling guilty after sex.

which was due two reason, one being slut shammed by her friends and not being able to retain the guy she wanted in past.

she is in early 20s

that is an easy objection to address.... is embedded on my sex talk before they bring that up....

 

[empath]

that is an easy objection to address.... is embedded on my sex talk before they bring that up....

How do you go about it?

Have you posted it?

I experimented sex talk, it works but not my cup of tea… for this objection I should be using it.

first time I saw a girl lash out for trying to kiss her.

Talking about consent and shit.

 

[Skills]

How do you go about it?

Have you posted it?

I experimented sex talk, it works but not my cup of tea… for this objection I should be using it.

first time I saw a girl lash out for trying to kiss her.

Talking about consent and shit.

look at me live doing it, minute 15:16

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[Levo]

I know that’s what the stats say. You’re just repeating yourself. But what my eyes tell me. Is that it hasn’t changed. The only ones that drink less are girls over 23 (several of the girls I work with that are over 23 hate alcohol. When they used to like it when they were younger).

I don't know who youre surrounding yourself with but in my area there is a certain social group, usually grew up lower-lower mid class and didnt achieve any or much higher education, and have dead end job they hate who all smoke weed and drink white claws and complain about their lives nonstop. So obviously if you target those types of women then your experience will be that they all have those traits.

Just because you have found the drinkers does not mean that the stats are wrong. As an older guy who was big into the club scene in my 20s its shocking to see how conservative women are these days. The last two girls I had relationships with did not even drink.

Also I think theres an age gap in these conversations. When I hear "younger women" I think twenties and keep forgetting that a lot of people in these spaces are college kids.


As for the original topic, Ive met a lot of women who seem depressed, particularly by the collapse of traditional social structures and places to hang out. And when they have met men through non traditional means like the apps they have bad experiences so a lot of them just give up on it.

Like another poster said, if you have solid game its pretty easy to lay them since they actually do enjoy sex and intimacy, and then they will open up to you about this stuff. But its very easy for a modern woman who is self sufficient to just watch netflix and scroll all night and sit around in her pjs moping and put no effort into dating. With no social interaction except maybe at work they just fall into a rut. And like everyone else is pointing out here its hard to even get a friend group together to go to the club because even if they did drink no one wants to go pay 10$ a drink on a night out when you can buy white claws at the store for $20 a 12 pack and sit with your friends at your apartment.

 

[Velasco]

lower-lower mid class and didnt achieve any or much higher education

There’s two groups of girls I'm talking about. The girls that are in university (under 21) and a couple girls from where I work who finished their undergraduate program and are going into getting their masters (over 23). The over 23 girls don’t drink as much if any alcohol as they did when they were younger. The under 21 crowd does like to drink. I’ve pregamed with them and see what they’re drinking when I approach them.

 

[Skills]

I don't know who youre surrounding yourself with but in my area there is a certain social group, usually grew up lower-lower mid class and didnt achieve any or much higher education, and have dead end job they hate who all smoke weed and drink white claws and complain about their lives nonstop. So obviously if you target those types of women then your experience will be that they all have those traits.

Just because you have found the drinkers does not mean that the stats are wrong. As an older guy who was big into the club scene in my 20s its shocking to see how conservative women are these days. The last two girls I had relationships with did not even drink.

Also I think theres an age gap in these conversations. When I hear "younger women" I think twenties and keep forgetting that a lot of people in these spaces are college kids.


As for the original topic, Ive met a lot of women who seem depressed, particularly by the collapse of traditional social structures and places to hang out. And when they have met men through non traditional means like the apps they have bad experiences so a lot of them just give up on it.

Like another poster said, if you have solid game its pretty easy to lay them since they actually do enjoy sex and intimacy, and then they will open up to you about this stuff. But its very easy for a modern woman who is self sufficient to just watch netflix and scroll all night and sit around in her pjs moping and put no effort into dating. With no social interaction except maybe at work they just fall into a rut. And like everyone else is pointing out here its hard to even get a friend group together to go to the club because even if they did drink no one wants to go pay 10$ a drink on a night out when you can buy white claws at the store for $20 a 12 pack and sit with your friends at your apartment.

Correct

 

[Skills]

There’s two groups of girls I'm talking about. The girls that are in university (under 21) and a couple girls from where I work who finished their undergraduate program and are going into getting their masters (over 23). The over 23 girls don’t drink as much if any alcohol as they did when they were younger. The under 21 crowd does like to drink. I’ve pregamed with them and see what they’re drinking when I approach them.

See i see the total opposite... The older drink..the younger drink but not as much as previous gens...

You are thinking no drinking vs no drinking as much...

My theory is the older ones probably have more money than younger to spend and go out less frequently
..

What i do see different drinking is bachelorette and birthday party girls or group of girls putting money together and getting tables.. those drink but even them not as much