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Alot are people are socially savy....I'm not. I dont even talk to my parents.
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Depends on how you define "socially savvy" to mean. But the best advice I can give you given the information I have is to talk to as many people as you can and be consciously aware of their reactions to you, then calibrate. Keep what worked and discard/change what didn't.
It takes time. Being socially savvy is dependent on social and emotional awareness. Being in many different types of situations and navigating those situations. It comes with practice and experience.
A book that has great advice and tips is Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People. I would read that book and absorb its principles. It's a good start.
It's just trial and error. If you can join social clubs, group activities, gatherings, attend parties, that's great. It gives you more opportunities to socialize and gain experience and reps. If you're still in school, that's even better. Befriend people in class, get to know them.
One basic principle that I've always lived by is being genuinely curious about people. Taking genuine interest in people. Getting them to talk about themselves.
The most important thing is to get out there and just start talking to people and making friends. All you really need is a warm smile and to say "Hi."
A book that has great advice and tips is Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People. I would read that book and absorb its principles. It's a good start.
It's just trial and error. If you can join social clubs, group activities, gatherings, attend parties, that's great. It gives you more opportunities to socialize and gain experience and reps. If you're still in school, that's even better. Befriend people in class, get to know them.
One basic principle that I've always lived by is being genuinely curious about people. Taking genuine interest in people. Getting them to talk about themselves.
The most important thing is to get out there and just start talking to people and making friends. All you really need is a warm smile and to say "Hi."
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Rusty has some pretty good advice there and the book recommendation is on point. I have a copy myself 
To over simply it, my definition of socially savy is being able to ID what a persons interests are and relate it back to them to show you share interests.
In the school days I think my number 1 question was, "how was your weekend?" Because you get a whole myriad of answers based on one single questions. I had no clue what I was doing at the time I just didn't want to sit in class talking to no one feeling like a loser... Back before there were smart phones.
But once you understand what types of people are generally into what things. It's much easier to pickup on what things they will be interested in talking about.
-Lotus
Merry Christmas!
To over simply it, my definition of socially savy is being able to ID what a persons interests are and relate it back to them to show you share interests.
In the school days I think my number 1 question was, "how was your weekend?" Because you get a whole myriad of answers based on one single questions. I had no clue what I was doing at the time I just didn't want to sit in class talking to no one feeling like a loser... Back before there were smart phones.
But once you understand what types of people are generally into what things. It's much easier to pickup on what things they will be interested in talking about.
-Lotus
Merry Christmas!