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A couple of years ago, I found a great psychotherapist and went through a transformative process. We focused on inner child work and I came out of the process 5 months later discovering an authentic version of myself and an unconditional love for myself.
Then something unexpected happened: my relationships with other people were transformed as well. It was almost like I gained superpowers: my body language became better (started smiling more because it made /me/ feel better), I knew what to say to strangers (just play with them, because it made /me/ feel better), my anxiety around approaching women or anxiety around disagreeing with people reduced (what's important to me is how _I_ feel about myself, and I think I'm awesome).
I didn't have to read about these in a book or learn them: they happened organically. Because they were organic, it felt like zero effort.
A few days ago, I discovered to my surprise and disappointment, that I am inherently very feminine. It's whom I am most comfortable being and I am attracted to people with those qualities. I don't know what to do or even think. There is a lot of information about masculinity on this website that resonates with me -- but I don't know how to combine the information there with my therapy. For example, I _enjoy_ being a really good person. I respect others like that. But masculinity challenges that view.
Has anyone been through a similar process/faced similar questions?
Then something unexpected happened: my relationships with other people were transformed as well. It was almost like I gained superpowers: my body language became better (started smiling more because it made /me/ feel better), I knew what to say to strangers (just play with them, because it made /me/ feel better), my anxiety around approaching women or anxiety around disagreeing with people reduced (what's important to me is how _I_ feel about myself, and I think I'm awesome).
I didn't have to read about these in a book or learn them: they happened organically. Because they were organic, it felt like zero effort.
A few days ago, I discovered to my surprise and disappointment, that I am inherently very feminine. It's whom I am most comfortable being and I am attracted to people with those qualities. I don't know what to do or even think. There is a lot of information about masculinity on this website that resonates with me -- but I don't know how to combine the information there with my therapy. For example, I _enjoy_ being a really good person. I respect others like that. But masculinity challenges that view.
Has anyone been through a similar process/faced similar questions?