Hey everyone. I haven't done cold approach since 2017. It didn't get me the results I wanted, and I realized that I have to work on being more social first, and one of the things that I have to do to achieve that is to start leaving my house more. I also have to talk to way more people. So, the question is: how do I start cold approaching again?
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How did you start approaching the first time around?
Where did the inspiration lie, and what did you have to do to overcome mental barriers?
Here's a helpful post by Pretty Decent on getting back into game.
Hue
Where did the inspiration lie, and what did you have to do to overcome mental barriers?
Here's a helpful post by Pretty Decent on getting back into game.
Hue
Hue said:
Well, I started saying hi to girls that I thought were cute during my day. I didn't want to jerk off to porn for the rest of my life, and wanted to have sex with actual girls. The longer I kept thinking about whether or not to approach a girl, the more of a chance there would be that I would not approach the girl. So most of the time, I approach a girl who I though was cute without thinking twice.
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Okay, gotcha. The idea I'm trying to bring out is why do you want to have sex with actual girls? Do you just love the feeling of your dick in a wet pussy? Is it something more intimate than that? Is it to prove to yourself that you can grow and conquer challenges? Find that source and hold onto it. That's where the inspiration lies. If you're uninspired to take action in a certain direction, it can be very difficult to get started again.
Sometimes I look back at my old writing just to remember why I'm doing what I'm doing in the first place - then the action of doing it and putting effort in becomes much more natural because I think I have a good reason for it.
Likewise, when I'm working on a tedious work project or typing up the less-than-enjoyable parts of a research paper, I have to remember that there is utility in what I'm doing --> this all sets me up for my dream job many years down the road.
When it feels hard to approach girls again for whatever reason, focusing on the utility of it and why you should be doing it, or want to achieve X can usually overcome things like being unmotivated or rationalizing your way out of something.
Hue