I read an article in girlschase about why girls don't follow logic but how do I stop myself from using it too much? I end up boring the fuck out of girls by having logical conversation. I can talk with males just fine but logic seems to inevitably pop in with girls, no matter how hard I try to supress it. Nevertheless, how do I begin changing my perspective?
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What do you mean by a 'logical' conversation? and in what context? Give us an example?
Any time you're collecting a lot of facts from a girl, that's bad. always talk about her emotion and motives, and spread a little humour in it. Most importantly, you have to enjoy the conversation yourself.
Any time you're collecting a lot of facts from a girl, that's bad. always talk about her emotion and motives, and spread a little humour in it. Most importantly, you have to enjoy the conversation yourself.
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I would suggest reading any of the GC articles on conversation, deep-diving, what women like/want, and any other article on the female psyche. GC has so many that I'm not even going to bother looking ones up and posting them here.
Simply start adding passion and adventure into your conversations.
"Where do you love to travel? Where would you travel/live? Why? Because love culture, food, wine, etc.?"
"What is your greatest fear?"
"What's the most adventurous thing that you have ever done?"
"What's the scariest thing you have ever done?"
When you two begin talking about something, you can ask the cliche feeling/emotion questions.
"Really... so how did that make you feel?"
"She didn't raise her children? How do you feel about that?"
"Gosh, you probably felt devastated after that."
Add inspiration/passion/adventure/etc. Inspire her to desire you
Lastly, add interesting words/adjectives/metaphors in your statements, your stories, your descriptions, etc. This opens the senses.
"I love the beach. The splash of sea across my face. The warm sun embracing me."
"I do have a passion for my work.... I feel like Sherlock Holmes, but without the cocaine."
It can be as simple as saying "this food is delicious" instead of "this food is good."
Just add some spice.
Simply start adding passion and adventure into your conversations.
"Where do you love to travel? Where would you travel/live? Why? Because love culture, food, wine, etc.?"
"What is your greatest fear?"
"What's the most adventurous thing that you have ever done?"
"What's the scariest thing you have ever done?"
When you two begin talking about something, you can ask the cliche feeling/emotion questions.
"Really... so how did that make you feel?"
"She didn't raise her children? How do you feel about that?"
"Gosh, you probably felt devastated after that."
Add inspiration/passion/adventure/etc. Inspire her to desire you
Lastly, add interesting words/adjectives/metaphors in your statements, your stories, your descriptions, etc. This opens the senses.
"I love the beach. The splash of sea across my face. The warm sun embracing me."
"I do have a passion for my work.... I feel like Sherlock Holmes, but without the cocaine."
It can be as simple as saying "this food is delicious" instead of "this food is good."
Just add some spice.
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Good tactical stuff from Pinot here.
Rad, if you want an objective shift, do this: focus on changing your objective in conversations from "bond over things we both know" or "impress her with my stats and achievements" to, instead, "get her talking about her dreams, feelings, motivations, and reasons."
If you're viewing your own conversation as purely a means to continually put the spotlight back on her and getting her communicating with you emotionally, you'll start piecing together how to do this on your own (helped along by tactics like what Pinot shared and what you'll find on the site).
The goal isn't to connect over information, or to impress with achievements. Instead, it is to allow her to tell you about her emotions, her experiences, her passions, her wants, her deepest dreams and desires and fantasies. Get her talking about this and you will become the most interesting man in the world to her, even if she knows absolutely nothing about you. People find those most interesting who get them talking about THEMSELVES in interesting ways.
Chase
Rad, if you want an objective shift, do this: focus on changing your objective in conversations from "bond over things we both know" or "impress her with my stats and achievements" to, instead, "get her talking about her dreams, feelings, motivations, and reasons."
If you're viewing your own conversation as purely a means to continually put the spotlight back on her and getting her communicating with you emotionally, you'll start piecing together how to do this on your own (helped along by tactics like what Pinot shared and what you'll find on the site).
The goal isn't to connect over information, or to impress with achievements. Instead, it is to allow her to tell you about her emotions, her experiences, her passions, her wants, her deepest dreams and desires and fantasies. Get her talking about this and you will become the most interesting man in the world to her, even if she knows absolutely nothing about you. People find those most interesting who get them talking about THEMSELVES in interesting ways.
Chase