How do non-famous guys that get into LTRs with hot girls meet them?

[Glitch]

PA,

Don't sweat it.

To me it doesn't seem like a totally big deal. Yes, I do agree with it being great when you get a real head turner. It's a big reason why I do it myself and I free acknowledge it.

I guess each to their own to be honest. I'll take the hot internationals while I'm at it. For me I don't see what the typical fuss is about when peope obsess over a particular sub-set. If OP wants a blonde-bombshell what has OP been doing to attract those types?

To be honest there is always a driving reason whether it be subconscious or not. For you, you've stated why you go for S-Girls because they're hot, it's a reason. I go for mainly internationals because their hot and I can learn stuff, for me I'd rather get first hand experience.

I guess I can't really understand it, I came from worse than lower middle. I've made it up so can't see why other can't. There's always something you can do about, yea things are difficult but you keep at it till it turns around.

There's just two different viewpoints, no attacking or bad blood. Can't sweat the small stuff so it doesn't even matter.

Glitch

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

I too am interested in knowing what OP has done. He does have the desire to go for the blonde bombshell as shown by his consistent posting on here but I want to know what he has done. Now in his defense, society gives a lot of terrible advice when it comes to attracting women:

1. "be yourself"
2. "Be nice to her and buy her stuff"
3. "don't worry you will find the right one"

What I do feel is that he doesn't have the road map or any method when it comes to getting the kind of woman he wants. I tend to be straightforward rather than politically correct, your average "blonde bombshell" or sorority girl is going to have much higher standards than some hipster girl, international girl, or any girl from a minority group (other than maybe middle eastern). These girls are more image conscious and concerned about how their friends and social circle views them more so than other kinds of girls.

My advice to OP starting out would be to hit the gym bro, get those abs, those biceps, and that muscular build. Plenty of brown dudes I see are either really scrawny or skinny fat. We should all be giving OP legit advice on how to make himself into a better man rather than dissing him or telling him some PUA nonsense. He can approach all the sorority girls he wants but if he is your typical brown kid with terrible style and a bad body then he will get rejected over and over again and come on here to whine to us, we can all agree with that right?

 

[lux7]

I mean, What more can we tell you? Do you even read the articles on this site? If any of us here were famous or rich or looked like a male model or had all this status you talk about, we would never have needed to wind up here in the first place.

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Proactivity has posted some good advice throughout and not only in this thread. Others have asked what I have done, quite frankly I have not done as much as I would have liked but I have done some things. I have been lifting in the past month to get a better body, brought clothes that help me fit in with the given culture, and I have became more social and talked to more strangers though that has led nowhere. Estate and Glitch seem to completely misread my threads all the time even though Estate has the best intentions with his replies.

 

[Estate]

Op Pry,
Not meaning to get on you too much man. But I think most guys here can identify with the things you say. When a lot of us started we all thought we had problems like how we looked or talked or acted or whatever. Of course, it always seems like the cool guys and rich guys and popular guys get the girl. And there's no doubting that they can.

But the point of a site like this is that we all found it at one thing because we felt a bit lost and not knowing how to really get cool women in our lives. Now, while being rich or famous might well work to get women, it's not the ONLY thing that counts. That's the piece that needs to hit home.

I think you mentioned your skin color being a problem. Look, lets face it, some women might not be attracted to you because of that. But screw them! Some women might not like that I'm much taller than them, or my eye color, or my pasty white Irish skin tone, or that I have fairly boyish features.... it could be ANYTHING that SOME women will not like about you. But other WILL LOVE IT if you just come across like a cool guy. Read up on the fundamentals articles and the conversation ones too.

I mean, a lot gets made of my accent in Boston (Irish). But I can honestly say, there are times I only have to say Hello and girls eyes light up asking me to say things in Irish. But for everyone one that does that, I have barely said Hello to a women and she's said things like "Ugh, You're not Irish as well are you? Not very original in Boston is it?"
You just can't make everyone love you.

So the bombshell that's all about money and status isn't quite the girl for you maybe, but there are tons of beautiful blonde girls who don't party or go for the rockstars, they're normal girls like you and me, they might not go to bars every weekend and struggle to find cool guys. And if you come across like a cool guy, your phsyical features, financial status, or any of that really won't matter, she's the girl you want!

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Estate.

I have to say, your point it hit home and it hit home with me hard. Powerful piece of advice man and I mean it. I get the point you are trying to make and it is something I have been trying to work with. As an American college kid it is very easy to lose perspective of things when you see frat boys who don't even look as good as you do and are usually loud and drink 95 percent of the time on dates with decent looking girls while you cannot get those kinds of girls. You see I have to admit that I suffer from a victim mentality and as annoying as it might be this is something I need to post a separate thread about because I feel like over the past few weeks I have managed to write things down and broke down my victim mentality and what is causing it.

Though you are a White male and that can be a disadvantage in some cases, you have White guys you can look to and say "man he is doing well with ___ race". I have seen White guys both young and old with hot girls of every race out there, not even going to mention seeing them with the bombshells I have a thing for. Unfortunately for my background (brown), I have not seen men of my race date the kind of women I like, ever! Most of the times I feel like I am the one setting the trend because I have managed to get attractive girls of other races and occasionally even some decent looking White girls interested in me. My problem is the mindset because I do feel a victim's mentality. I feel like if I do pursue that blonde bombshell, society is going to come after me hardcore and make my life difficult. The reason I feel this way is because I was asked what kind of women I prefer and I said blondes, that ended up causing some issues with people that were minorities and might have known me. Many of them tried to talk me out of going with a white girl often telling me how evil they are and a lot even tried to interrogate me about this kind of thing which just threw me off my feet.

As a White guy, you have other guys who look like you dating hot girls of all races that you can look to as a reference and tell yourself "hay, it isn't my appearance that is the issue". As a brown guy, I don't have that. I could go to London, Toronto, or Washington DC and live there for a year and still won't see the kind of women I desire with men who have remotely the same kinds of features as I do (black hair, brown eyes, and darker skin but aren't black guys).

It can be a tough tough demon to deal with.