How do successful men not into cold approaching meet women?

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

PUA and the whole cold approach thing, for most men, is quite abnormal and not really the way to meet women. I find that it is PUA and guys on here that manage to pull it off but most men can't really do that.

For the guys past the college age and those in their late 20s to 30s who have built a fortune for themselves, likely through working a high paying job or starting a successful business, how do they end up meeting women?

Coworker dating is taboo because "don't shit where you eat".

Is it mainly girls they knew in the past that see them succeeding or what?

 

[kalyan]

so many different ways. the only different between men who study women/ seduction and not is the conscious learning. the methods of meetinr are often the same:

i know of a guy who is a personal trainer at the gym and uses his work to meet women. your quote about shitting at work reminds me of "dont talk to strangers"- its just something people say to scare you (i've successfully pulled a girl from work, right after work, cold approach style).

many guys do it through social circle: they party a lot and are up there, the hottest guys, seducing girls left and right.

online is another way.

cold approach is another. many guys are good at identifying approach invitation and approaching those.

some guys cold approach mass style too. i have a 61 year old friend who told me of years of approaching. he is not a follower of seduction in any way. he indirectly approaches the women he meets.

the possibilities are endless beo

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

From what I see among high finance guys in NYC, a lot of exclusive social events and being a part of those circles tends to help a lot. I am sure friends of friends as well as friends of coworkers play a role, women see rich finance guys in high end places and they want a piece.

 

[headsup38]

Hi,

I don't do cold approaching and still do pretty well with the ladies. I'm nearing 40 and don't even have a steady job. Also still live at home. Did I mention I'm only 60 inches tall and am not Caucasian looking?

So what is my secret? I relate to Disney Channel a lot even when I was a kid. The Little Mermaid was real to me and I wanted to have Lizzie McGuire as my best friend. So I conducted myself in such a manner where I would draw interest from those type of girls. I dressed like Cory Mathews from Boy Meets World and took honors classes in high school because that is where all the pretty girls were at. Since I was a Disney fan, it showed through my pores. I was/am into pop music; romantic songs fueled by ballroom dancing to the Ariel-type girl I was in love with. Megadeath and Iron Maiden may get acceptance with the guys but Taylor Swift and Nickelback gets you the chicks. I didn't worry about an emasculated image because I was/am clearly a sports playing jock, liked cars and was openly pursuing skirts.

The journey hasn't been smooth and obviously I have not landed a ring but my cupboard isn't empty. Once I finished school the workplace was/is my main pool of discovering talent. I didn't take the dating within the office taboo seriously. Did I run into trouble? Yeah, but it comes with the risk. A risk worth taking. Corporate doesn't care as much as you think especially when they are thinking of getting rid of you in the next round of layoffs so you might as well seize the opportunity to get a phone number.

As much as I tried to manipulate the system to land the girl of my choice up to 90% of scoring is based on luck. Women generally want authenticity so if you look like you're trying to be manipulative the smart ones will see right through it. I try to log as many years of friendship/communication as long as possible. The best ones I have been involved with for 12-20+ years. The irony is that they are not the ones I want to be with romantically but they are always in the picture. They are also the more good-looking of all the suitors that I have had so that tells me I'm doing something right. The only advice I would have is finding out what type of girl you want to be with and dress/act/have interest in subjects those girls would find attractive. You want to sell your idea, you have to know your buyer. I'd like to have a girl who wears tight jeans and has a lower back tattoo as a fuck buddy but what I have to offer doesn't do well in that market. Aside from the more innocent girls, I've been graduating to women in business suits with advanced degrees and not much interest in raising a family of late. I've had to alter my attitudes and make adjustments if I want to land those type of females. In any case I don't stubbornly insist women conform to my tastes, I'll bend to work with theirs.