How do you approach groups?

[Dern]

How do you guys approach two or more girls and isolate the one you like?

I don't usually do this in the day time, but recently, I've been doing night game, and all the girls go there with their friends so I've been just like direct approaching the one that I find hot and introducing myself to her friends. Talk to the girl that I like and try to isolate her. Not really having any success though. I dunno what I should do. Like should I be building more rapport with the group, instead of only focusing on one girl? Should I be building more rapport with my target before trying to move her? I was trying out some funny shit tonight like: telling a girl that I was going to steal her friend for a second; telling a girl to come dance or sit with me.

How do you guys do it?

 

[trashKENNUT]

Dern,

and all the girls go there with their friends so I've been just like direct approaching the one that I find hot and introducing myself to her friends. Talk to the girl that I like and try to isolate her.

Never introduce yourself, i think. There seems to be this pattern but i hope to confirm this. Talk to the group a little bit and then talk to the girl. (if the environment isn't favourable.)

Zac

 

[Dern]

So what do you mean exactly?

Something like this?

1. Direct approach girl (introduce yourself to her)
2. Talk to the group as a whole (build rapport so that they don't cockblock you, especially the leader)
3. Focus convo on girl you want
4. Isolate

 

[trashKENNUT]

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[trashKENNUT]

Dern,

I've been just like direct approaching the one that I find hot and introducing myself to her friends.

What i assume is that you approach the hot girl and then introduce yourself to her friends? That doesn't work because i done that on different settings and it doesn't work so favorably well.

instead of only focusing on one girl? Should I be building more rapport with my target before trying to move her?

You should build a light rapport with the group before talking to the girl you like. It depends on environment. As a past Chase article noted, if girls are sitting in a close circle setting, it is most likely a no. Even in clubs too, groups prefer if they are just chilling and enjoying too.

1. Direct approach girl (introduce yourself to her)
2. Talk to the group as a whole (build rapport so that they don't cockblock you, especially the leader)
3. Focus convo on girl you want
4. Isolate

Talk to the group first if it looks like a "fortress". Drop some small jokes without trying too hard. Ask how they get to know each other. Basically, having small talks and then shift yourself and then talk to your preferred girl.

This is what i do. TIll then, i will try find something better.

Zac

 

[Mr.Rob]

Whats up Dern, saw your PM.

Yeah nightgame can be a little annoying because just about every girl there is with a group of friends, however in the past two days I was able to move a few girls that were with others.

First off the girl you approach has to like you, obviously otherwise she's not going to want to move with you in the first place.

I personally haven't been addressing the friends at all except for a warm smile and a "hey". A lot of times the friend will introduce their friends to you in which I say hello, maybe make a comment, and then turn my attention back to the girl.

Yesterday I approached two sisters and the girl I approached liked me right off the bat and we started flirting. Her sister was sort of just bystanding, and got pissy and was like "If your going to flirt with my sister can you introduce me to one of your friends!". I pointed at my homie who's like a hoodrat skater dude with like baggy pants falling off his ass, an old T shirt, and ratty loafers... plus he smells lol. He's actually got pimp skills and rocks his style with a lot of swag, the only reason he can pull it off is because it's soo congruent to him.
The sister scoffed at the idea and said he looked like he lives in a dumpster, who then went off to play pool with some creepy old dude. I was then able to isolate the sister I wanted, built some compliance, took her outside, and was very close to escalating before her sister cockblocked.

So Idk Dern, are the girls that your trying to isolate are actually into you? Most girls I talk to aren't into me to be honest. Like I approached 15-20 girls the other night and I'd say 2-3 were into me.

Also, my theory is that coolness/congruence has a lot to do with how willing the friends will be letting you move her. If you're really congruent and pass shit tests, and are being super "real" while also being cool and chill (not like all the other 20 chodes that come up to hit on her... add value to the interaction by "bringing the party" rather than trying to weasel your way into theirs) I think that goes a long way.

A couple girls I approached the other night liked me but their friends didn't and you know a girl isn't usually going to go off with some dude their friends don't like because they'll judge the shit out of her.

My two cents,
comment/question by all means. I'd like to hear what your thoughts are.

-Rob