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Ragnar

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@Atlas IV I have this issue too, so you aren’t alone. It’s gotten to the point where I had to lock my laptop in my car and try to resist the urge to go out to my car and retrieve it. I’m trying to use the out of sight out of mind method to eventually cure this.

thanks for all the advice everyone provided in this thread
 

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I second Chase's recommendation for focusme.

For me, that thing just annihilated watching porn and I was also hooked on reading too much soccer news-- it killed that too.

The cool thing is you can block specific sites and keywords. So you can tailor it to your specific situation.

So it literally is just:

1. Look at your history (or use some tracking tool) to see the sites you most frequent (or even search terms you use most)
2. add those sites to focusme
3. Put a long-ass password like Chase said (I never thought of this one-- I just use some random password and put it on a note or screenshot. But this seems like it'd make it bulletproof.)
4. Voila

I applied this to everything, not just porn and at my peak I was using my phone like 30-40 minutes a day. These days I pretty much ONLY use my laptop for work.

I will say one thing and it is that, I noticed your intention also counts. Even though using focusme and other tools well (i.e. creating a setup specifically for you) will kill those addictions, it's almost as if you have to make the decision internally, or you won't do it.
 
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I have a pretty bad pot addiction. Like I have no problem getting high at 7am on a weekend if I'm up. I started at 14 years old, so it's been over half my life. It wasn't a big deal early on. I could get baked at lunch in high school, go to physics or math class, and get like a 98 in the course. I think it did something weird to my nervous system in late high school, but it coincided with trying chakra meditations and I thought it was a premature kundalini awakening. Through university I was all about harm reduction, meaning organic mail order weed before legalization, landrace strains, homemade edibles, convection vaporizers, etc.

It has only recently become an issue because I realized I can't cold approach stoned. It's pretty retarded to put a little blissful feeling above your mating success, so the priority's finally shifting. Luckily I nipped alcohol early. In first year uni, I was drinking a few nights a week in the dorms, then read it interfered with gym recovery and boom cut it out for life. Priorities.

Anyways, I randomly stumbled upon this video. There's probably better stuff out there, but it's with a professor at Stanford. I really don't watch youtube unless it's a Chase or Mystery interview, so I skipped to around two hours. I just wanted to note she said you have to get past the two-week mark of a dopamine fast before things start to shift, and you have to reach 30 days for meaningful change. There's some porn specific stuff in the timestamps. She also said based on rat studies with cocaine, addicts are rewired for life, meaning relapse goes from 0 to 100 real quick. And you need barriers, like locking your addiction away, etc. So if online dating is a "cue" then maybe it will help to put those apps away.

 

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Maybe this might help a bit as well:

 

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Recently I am directly going to porn site when tired from work and not getting sex.

Once I cum, I sleep.

It’s hard to control this when tired, burned out from work and feeling drained.

Any idea how to control this impulse when tired?
 
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