Hi friends!
Q. What are a couple of things that you guys have done to become comfortable with showing sexual intent? How do you display sexual intent?
Here's my background:
I grew up in a very sexually repressed household, and had no outlet to express my sexuality until probably around 19 years of age - I'm 20 now. Growing up, I was ashamed of my sexuality. My childhood environment fed into my impressionable belief that being comfortable with your sexuality was a bad thing, which is a load of bull. To some extent, I subconsciously still feel remnants of that past shame resurface and manifest in my seductions. Now, and still, the idea of being forward about my sexual intent seems foreign and elusive to me. When watching and reading about seducers who can so freely and uninhibitedly be open about their sexual intent I can't help but wonder how I can be like that, and why I'm not already like that. I find it difficult to relate to and comprehend.
Because of my lack of sexual intent, a lot of my seductions seem sloppy and awkward. As a result, the shift from complete lack of sexual intent to unequivocal sexual intent (by for example going for a kiss) is extremely jarring. This is the basis of my hesitation. For a little while I thought that this hesitation stemmed from limiting beliefs, where I thought that being short, skinny and a minority race was holding me back from being comfortable with making a move. It felt like an insurmountable barrier that I had to cross. But I think the main reason is in fact because I display so little sexual intent, that when it's finally time to do so (i.e. going in for a kiss), the shift in energy feels incredibly awkward and jarring.
Whenever I go in for a kiss without having established prior sexual intent, I kinda feel like that guy who acts like your friend in one moment, and then in a split instant goes in for a kiss. It just feels really off and... just weird to be honest. I feel like becoming comfortable with sexual intent will not only make transitions and escalation into sex much easier, but will also make the seduction process much more fun, smooth and natural.
- Jeff
Q. What are a couple of things that you guys have done to become comfortable with showing sexual intent? How do you display sexual intent?
Here's my background:
I grew up in a very sexually repressed household, and had no outlet to express my sexuality until probably around 19 years of age - I'm 20 now. Growing up, I was ashamed of my sexuality. My childhood environment fed into my impressionable belief that being comfortable with your sexuality was a bad thing, which is a load of bull. To some extent, I subconsciously still feel remnants of that past shame resurface and manifest in my seductions. Now, and still, the idea of being forward about my sexual intent seems foreign and elusive to me. When watching and reading about seducers who can so freely and uninhibitedly be open about their sexual intent I can't help but wonder how I can be like that, and why I'm not already like that. I find it difficult to relate to and comprehend.
Because of my lack of sexual intent, a lot of my seductions seem sloppy and awkward. As a result, the shift from complete lack of sexual intent to unequivocal sexual intent (by for example going for a kiss) is extremely jarring. This is the basis of my hesitation. For a little while I thought that this hesitation stemmed from limiting beliefs, where I thought that being short, skinny and a minority race was holding me back from being comfortable with making a move. It felt like an insurmountable barrier that I had to cross. But I think the main reason is in fact because I display so little sexual intent, that when it's finally time to do so (i.e. going in for a kiss), the shift in energy feels incredibly awkward and jarring.
Whenever I go in for a kiss without having established prior sexual intent, I kinda feel like that guy who acts like your friend in one moment, and then in a split instant goes in for a kiss. It just feels really off and... just weird to be honest. I feel like becoming comfortable with sexual intent will not only make transitions and escalation into sex much easier, but will also make the seduction process much more fun, smooth and natural.
- Jeff
