How do you develop a sense of self-entitlement

[Smith]

I don't feel entitled to get a hot chick, even though I can go up, talk to them and go out with them. And I think this is subconsciously holding me back.

So how do you develop a sense of worthiness and self-entitlement without seeking external gratification to make yourself feel good?

- Smith

 

[Richard]

An entitlement mindset of any kind is a horrible thing to have - feeling entitled to bed a hot chick is a big reason of why advanced guys hit plateaus because they fail to remember that every girl is different and new. The day you start to feel entitled to pussy is the day you will no longer get any.

As for feeling a sense of self-worth, and valuing yourself - these both come with contribution, when you contribute either your time, energy, or resources into something greater than yourself, or something other than yourself. Both of these also develop naturally when you have confidence - and confidence comes from reaching goals and feeling like you can actually do what you think you can. Any hobby or sport where you can see yourself progress is great for building up your confidence, and thus your sense of self-worth.

P.S. I should have an article coming out on something that should help you immensely.

-Richard

 

[Smith]

Thanks Richard!

An entitlement mindset of any kind is a horrible thing to have - feeling entitled to bed a hot chick is a big reason of why advanced guys hit plateaus because they fail to remember that every girl is different and new. The day you start to feel entitled to pussy is the day you will no longer get any.

Ahhh good point! I knew I read something on entitlement on GC. Just did a little search and finally found it and read it again. It's starting to make sense to me.

What confused me before is that I saw a video of RSD and another video of James Marshall at 21C, both talking about the need to feel entitled to get hot chicks, because why would a girl wanna be with a man who thinks he doesn't deserve her? But I think they both missed out the fact if a guy has nothing to offer then it doesn't matter if he feels entitled or not, it won't make a difference.

P.s. Really look forward to your article! =)

- Smith

 

[Drck]

I see entitlement as a tool, one of many. IMO it is good to have it but like with everything else, it should be moderate, not just "the only tool you have".

Entitlement can also be seen as a part of self-esteem. If a guy has low self-esteem he will have troubles with hot girls because he kinda feels inferior to them, they have too much value in his eyes. He will think that he doesn't deserve hot girl.

On the other hand, once he increases his value (in his eyes) and his self-esteem, he will perceive them as more inferior. He can then develop the sense that he can have hot girl, that he deserves hot girl, that he is entitled to have her. Which is a good attitude, it strengthens his confidence.

Moderate sense of entitlement can also have a good effect on his frame, it makes the frame stronger and if he is persistent enough her frame might collapse into his, just because of that...

 

[Richard]

Ahhh good point! I knew I read something on entitlement on GC. Just did a little search and finally found it and read it again. It's starting to make sense to me.

What confused me before is that I saw a video of RSD and another video of James Marshall at 21C, both talking about the need to feel entitled to get hot chicks, because why would a girl wanna be with a man who thinks he doesn't deserve her? But I think they both missed out the fact if a guy has nothing to offer then it doesn't matter if he feels entitled or not, it won't make a difference.

P.s. Really look forward to your article! =)

Deserving and entitled are two different things though - and should not be used interchangeably.

 

[Smith]

Entitlement can also be seen as a part of self-esteem. If a guy has low self-esteem he will have troubles with hot girls because he kinda feels inferior to them, they have too much value in his eyes. He will think that he doesn't deserve hot girl.

Deserving and entitled are two different things though - and should not be used interchangeably.

So I guess my problem is low self-esteem when it comes to '10s' and '9s' lol even though I know some of them are not so special after going out with them. They still feel just a bit out of reach... a bad mindset I developed since high school.

 

[PrettyDecent]

So I guess my problem is low self-esteem when it comes to '10s' and '9s' lol even though I know some of them are not so special after going out with them. They still feel just a bit out of reach... a bad mindset I developed since high school.

Try giving a glance over these articles, brother:

Why to Throw Out the 1-to-10 Scale for Rating Women
How to Treat a Woman: Like a Queen, or Like a Whore?

~Nick