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How do you tell her this wont be more than a ONS ?

Metalus

Space Monkey
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Im really kinda stuck at this. Maybe its some sort of white knight mentality that i have to get rid of.
But how do you actually communicate to a girl that this wont be more than a one night stand ?
You just date her, get her in bed, and then the next day you just do ... what ?
I dont want her to feel used or something and if I remember correctly in one article Chase says the same.
I just met a girl that really likes me and she is ok looking. But I feel like a total asshole if I just
date her to get her in bed, and tell her the next day "oh you know what? That aint gonna work for me"...
 

Franco

Tribal Elder
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Metalus,

Communicating this isn't too difficult, but some guys aren't sure how to go about it.

The next day after you hook up, send her a text sometime in the late morning saying, "Hey Anna, I had a great time last night. I hope you did as well :)"

The girl will usually respond with something positive if it was a mutual feeling. After that, you simply don't contact her again for another meetup. She might try to contact you and set something up, but you need to keep your conversations very short and platonic and not be sexual at all but still be nice to her. If she tries to set things up, you just need to be busy and not have time. After awhile, she might be disappointed, but she'll eventually get the hint.

Some girls will understand right away, reply to your message, and then never message you again. Sometimes it depends on the circumstances of how you met (like if she was on vacation and understands it was a ONS) as to how she'll respond, but you basically just want to be very friendly and platonic with them afterward, but then you must never actually initiate contact with them after that last text message the next morning. If you do, you'll give her a sliver of hope that it might be going somewhere, which is not what you want to do.

- Franco
 
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