Long-Term How far are you willing to bend for a girl's past?

[Aykan]

A girl I'm sleeping with has had sex with 3 people before me, I am the 4th.

And she dated her previous BF for 8 months, where they never had sex (he was super Christian). After questioning her and non-judgementally listening to her, she opened up and told me that she cheated on him once and felt nothing, no regret.

I'm not sure what to make of this info. I was considering GF-ing her as she is well educated, smart, hot/cute, fun and is heed over heels in love with me (I slept with her within a couple of hours of meeting her. Thank you GC for changing my dating life).

I remember reading a Chase Amante article that said you should NEVER consider a girl for the GF role if she has even cheated once before, but she wasn't even sexually active with the guy.

I also see other warning flags, like she reaaally values freedom and not being trapped. This attitude may come back to bite me. As an extreme example, what happens when I'm 35, balding and coming home tired from an office job all day.. she's going to feel trapped in the rat race and run off to a more exciting guy.

However she genuinely loves me and is practically beginning me for a relationship. She cried the other day saying losing me because of this reason is karma for cheating on her BF.

Anyway what would you do in a similar situation? How far would you bend to accept a girl's past?

 

[The Tool]

Everyone has different expectations of what they want/like within a relationship as well as the type of girl and her personality. So everyone's response will pretty much be a personal Bias.

Anyway what would you do in a similar situation? How far would you bend to accept a girl's past?

If I was within the same/similar circumstances I would try to dig deeper as to why she cheated exactly. Was he abusive? Not giving her what she wanted? Did she beg and plea for reasonable change but was not given it? (This is the big one)

I myself would not lock down with a girl that had admitted she had cheated in the past. (I say this because once the door is opened its easier for her to go through that door again without or with little remorse.) You don't want to be 45 years old and find out the kid you have been raising who is now 15 is not truly yours. And that shes been sleeping with your "best friend")

I prefer the soft, inexperienced, intellectual girls for a relationship. Requirements. At least a Bachelors degree in anything other than art,music, theater (the useless ones). No more than 3 sexual partners. As well as no more than 3 long term boyfriends. I dont want to get into too much detail because Chase has articles on it but this just makes things a lot easier with a girl. Also a lot less worry and drama on your end.

But. If your not looking for a wife, why not just give it a shot. Some relationship experience never hurt.
Although. You have to think about this. If you are just starting to see massive results from what you have been learning here, why get locked down with the first perceived "good thing" that comes along???? Explore a bit. Use your new knowledge base. Have some fun my man. Get more girls to chase you

 

[Aykan]

She didn't talk to him about the issue before cheating.. that is not a good sign at all.

But from another POV, technically it wasn't cheating because it wasn't even a relationship to begin with (they had not had sex). Or so I justify to myself haha. What do you think?

Your requirements sound so good and I know I want a similar girl too. I will try to aim for that before the settle down instinct kicks in lol.

 

[Fuck This]

A girl with only 3 sexual partners is still trying to find out what she likes. Now granted you may not have gotten the "Real number"

The good article is here: https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-m ... d-out-here