How Important is Being a Good Kisser?

[Smurf]

Hey guys,

Don't know if this is a stupid question or not but I was wondering if being good at kissing is important. I've read a few FR's where guys have gotten laid because girls have talked about their performance in bed. So does kissing have anything to do with that? And if so does anyone have any tips possibly?

Jake.

 

[Franco]

Jake,

I'd say it isn't as important to be a good kisser as it is not to be a bad one. You don't have to be one of the most amazing kissers for a girl to be willing to sleep with you -- especially if you give her amazing sex -- but you certainly don't want to turn her off while you're trying to prime her for sex.

It's tough to verbally give tips on this topic, but here's a few things that might help:

• 1) Don't push your face into hers. The contact between your lips and her lips should be very light and soft, especially when you are first leaning in to make contact. If you push your face into hers, it feels kinda clumsy, and you can sometimes bump teeth with her (which is generally considered a "newbie" mistake).
  
  2) Your lips should have synchronized movements with hers. When she opens her lips, you should be opening yours simultaneously. Ditto with closing your lips. Essentially, your lips should be "dancing" together in simultaneous harmony.
  
  3) Let her be the one to initiate "french" (tongue) kissing. If you're doing things right and turning a girl on (which includes moving your hands up and down her body), the girl will almost always begin to initiate french kissing. Once this happens, this is usually your "green light" to start sliding your hands to more sexual areas like her pussy.

So a good way to summarize what a good kissing session looks like is you initiate the kiss and "dance" with her lips while stimulating other areas of her body. Then let her be the one to become "turned on" and give you the green light to move things past kissing.

There's small things you can do when you become more advanced to increase the passion of your kiss, but I would say these are the fundamentals of kissing that I would hammer down, first.

- Franco

 

[Grand Pooba]

Jake,

Franco has covered a lot of this in his reply already. Ask most girls what they really value in a boyfriend sexually or what they think is important in bed with a guy they're with, and a significant percentage if not outright majority can agree on good kissing.

I'd say kissing is huge. Like Franco said, you don't need to be THE BEST, but you should definitely strive to be good, if not really good. It demonstrates very early on that you know what you're doing and that you're someone that she wants to explore the sexual realm with further. A bad kisser with no rhythm that doesn't really know what he's doing can indirectly put the idea in her head that you don't know how to please her sexually either, whereas a good kisser will turn her on and leave her wanting more. If you combine good kissing technique with touching in the right places and with the right pressure early on, it will prime her even better for amazing sex a little later ;-)

 

[Smurf]

Thanks Franco and Ozz. Those tips really cleared that up for me. I asked because I once lost a girl because I didn't know how to make out with a girl, plus I was a little drunk so it was really bad. I even heard from some people that was why she didn't like me anymore. There were other factors but I wanted to get that cleared up finally.

Thanks guys!
Jake.