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How long do you wait for second date (after sex in the first)?

Ergon

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So I met this girl last week via cold approach, on the street. I got her number, we agreed to grab drinks on Wednesday.
We met on Wednesday and we ended having sex. Everything went pretty well. Just started working on writing the LR ;)

Anyway, when she had to leave I said goodbye with a kiss and a "See you around" (Don't know if this is all right or I should explicitly tell her I expect to see her again, or something)

I texted her today Thursday, with I had a great time yesterday and all of that. She responded well.

Now I don't know when to ask her out again... I would expect to keep seeing her once every week if we do keep seeing each other.
But should I wait a whole week for a second date at my place, or I see her this weekend and then once every week?

How many days do you guys usually wait for a second date with a girl if everything went well?
I know Chase wrote "a few days", but I'm not sure exactly how many are a few haha. I'd like to hear you opinions
Thanks
 

Fuck This

Cro-Magnon Man
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When do you WANT to see her again?

What is your goal for this Relationship?

Operate according to what you want to do...and do it.
 

Ergon

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:(

TwoRocky said:
When do you WANT to see her again?

My lust says this weekend.

TwoRocky said:
What is your goal for this Relationship?

Casual relationship.

I'm probably concerning myself with trivial details...
I guess I'll just go with my intuition then and let's see how it goes.
 

Seppuku

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Hey Ergon,

For a casual relationship it is best to meet once a week at most. And it is best to ask the date about two days before the actual planned date. Asking too far ahead is tricky. So logically I would ask about five days after the previous date or so.

However, in the case of a second time lay, it is ok to relax the rule and ask a little earlier. Securing the second lay is much more important than establishing a precedent in the "once a week" rule. It is usually after the second lay, sometimes the third, that she will start feeling bonded to you, and you can consider her "locked in" for regular meet.

Only once that lock-in is secured would you think about relationship management rules such as "once a week".

Seppuku
 
a good date brings a smile to your lips... and hers

Ergon

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Thanks Sepukku!

I proceeded that way, but we agreed to meet exactly one week after any way, lol.

Seppuku said:
Securing the second lay is much more important than establishing a precedent in the "once a week" rule.

I think this is the lesson I should have in mind for later.

On another question, for casual relationships, is it ok to go grab food, have at my place and then take her to bed, or always after (or it doesn't really matter haha)? I'm wondering what the usual plan for casual relationship dates is.
 
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