Got her number - but when to call? It is confusing, some say the same day, anothers 3-5 days later, another one claims even 10 days later.
All are good under certain circumstances, but it is much easier if you know what exactly do you want and how you want to present yourself to that girl.
Say you want to be more Alpha-style. Laid back, calm, emotionally colder, quite dominant. You don't really give a damn about her, she is not that important, but of course there are good vibes although she doesn't get quite excited. You like her and she likes you. You are more distant, she can't influence you with her emotions. You present as more mature, perhaps even as a fatherly figure. It's your way or highway, she really has not much space do decide. On importance level, she is #3 to you: First it is a dinner with your friends, second it is your filthy socks that you have to wash, and only then she might be considered as important.
So this would basically be your frame, this is how you behave. Now you meet a girl, talk to her, and you present exactly as described. She'll give you her phone number. You can call her 3-5 days later or 10 days later, and still have a great response because you show a great interest even after days, you show that you are not needy and she is really not that important to you. It's probably wise not to call the fist 1-2 days, unless, for example, you are on a trip and leaving the city. Basically you can move slow if you want to because it is expected, i.g. she doesn't expect Alpha to jump on a hot date right away as he has more choices.
Lover style is little bit different. There are greater vibes, more emotional context, perhaps you don't want to be that distant like Alpha. You probably don't want to present as fatherly figure. Maybe you want to be more equal, yet still more dominant, more fluent with emotions, definitely more leading. There is more compromises between you and her, you can show more flexibility, you can let her lead occasionally. You look more sexy and you probably want sex quite fast, so you got to move fast(er) otherwise the excitement will parish. You probably want to call within 2 days, no longer than 3, and can call the same day as this should be more dynamic interaction. She is #2 as you have your life to live. The best is, of course, if you can get her to your place right then, but again, to be a true Lover you need quite a lot of experience. So don't fake it if you don't have any.
If you want to be a BF you could adopt more of Alpha style. You don't want to appear needy and clingy, so you could show that you have more time and she is not that important as you are - obviously - dating more girls and thus have more choices. You have rules and she can't bend them. She needs to adjust to them. Say you exercise every Mo-We-Fr between 4-5pm, well, she will never see you at this time - unless she goes with you to the gym. But you will never miss those times to go see her or do things for her, implying that gym is more important than her. She is #2, right after your gym. You could call say within 5-9 days, but you probably don't want to call within the first 2 days as it shows neediness and impatience. You want to show patience, you want to show that you are having more choices, and that you care about her. At the same time, if you can get her to the bed the same day, good for you.
Asshole style should be more dynamic, thus you could use more of Lover approach. Could be cocky, overconfident, who gives a damn attitude, perhaps just pump-and-dump style. You just don't care, she's #3 or even #4. You probably want to be exciting, fast, get the emotions high and then disappear. You want to move fast, call her say within 2-3 days, even the same day. If you can nail her fast, good. If not, oh well, move on.
Regular guy, not much (if any) experience. You probably want to take it slower. You just can't get her to the bed anyway thus pushing for sex without experience would seem quite awkward. You don't want to look needy either. You want to be more genuine, understanding, interested in relationship and sex. You care about her. You don't want to be much of an asshole although showing some balls occasionally won't hurt you. You don't have the experience to be a Lover who gives her the best sex ever, so don't pretend. You probably can't be a real Alpha either. You don't want to look overconfident, too sexy or too dominant. At the same time you want to appear stronger, perhaps more like BF material - long(er) term relationship so you can learn a lot from that girl. You share with her mentally and emotionally so she can share (her sexual experience) with you. You are open to her suggestion, she can lead here and there. You also work a lot on abundance mentality, meaning there are plenty of girls you are focusing on, thus you shouldn't even have time to call her within the first 2 days. Today is Wednesday afternoon, and you talk to her. Call Friday as on Thursday you are busy with another girls. There is also a trick, you want to be (ok, at least look) busy on Friday and Saturday night, so you don't want to take her out on these days. Take her out on Sunday or Monday, because you are dating (or at least appear like you do) other girls on Friday and Saturday. This way she is #2, right after another girls that you are busy with...
There are of course different styles and combinations, thus there is no need to go OCD over the numbers, but as a general guidance its IMO good enough...
All are good under certain circumstances, but it is much easier if you know what exactly do you want and how you want to present yourself to that girl.
Say you want to be more Alpha-style. Laid back, calm, emotionally colder, quite dominant. You don't really give a damn about her, she is not that important, but of course there are good vibes although she doesn't get quite excited. You like her and she likes you. You are more distant, she can't influence you with her emotions. You present as more mature, perhaps even as a fatherly figure. It's your way or highway, she really has not much space do decide. On importance level, she is #3 to you: First it is a dinner with your friends, second it is your filthy socks that you have to wash, and only then she might be considered as important.
So this would basically be your frame, this is how you behave. Now you meet a girl, talk to her, and you present exactly as described. She'll give you her phone number. You can call her 3-5 days later or 10 days later, and still have a great response because you show a great interest even after days, you show that you are not needy and she is really not that important to you. It's probably wise not to call the fist 1-2 days, unless, for example, you are on a trip and leaving the city. Basically you can move slow if you want to because it is expected, i.g. she doesn't expect Alpha to jump on a hot date right away as he has more choices.
Lover style is little bit different. There are greater vibes, more emotional context, perhaps you don't want to be that distant like Alpha. You probably don't want to present as fatherly figure. Maybe you want to be more equal, yet still more dominant, more fluent with emotions, definitely more leading. There is more compromises between you and her, you can show more flexibility, you can let her lead occasionally. You look more sexy and you probably want sex quite fast, so you got to move fast(er) otherwise the excitement will parish. You probably want to call within 2 days, no longer than 3, and can call the same day as this should be more dynamic interaction. She is #2 as you have your life to live. The best is, of course, if you can get her to your place right then, but again, to be a true Lover you need quite a lot of experience. So don't fake it if you don't have any.
If you want to be a BF you could adopt more of Alpha style. You don't want to appear needy and clingy, so you could show that you have more time and she is not that important as you are - obviously - dating more girls and thus have more choices. You have rules and she can't bend them. She needs to adjust to them. Say you exercise every Mo-We-Fr between 4-5pm, well, she will never see you at this time - unless she goes with you to the gym. But you will never miss those times to go see her or do things for her, implying that gym is more important than her. She is #2, right after your gym. You could call say within 5-9 days, but you probably don't want to call within the first 2 days as it shows neediness and impatience. You want to show patience, you want to show that you are having more choices, and that you care about her. At the same time, if you can get her to the bed the same day, good for you.
Asshole style should be more dynamic, thus you could use more of Lover approach. Could be cocky, overconfident, who gives a damn attitude, perhaps just pump-and-dump style. You just don't care, she's #3 or even #4. You probably want to be exciting, fast, get the emotions high and then disappear. You want to move fast, call her say within 2-3 days, even the same day. If you can nail her fast, good. If not, oh well, move on.
Regular guy, not much (if any) experience. You probably want to take it slower. You just can't get her to the bed anyway thus pushing for sex without experience would seem quite awkward. You don't want to look needy either. You want to be more genuine, understanding, interested in relationship and sex. You care about her. You don't want to be much of an asshole although showing some balls occasionally won't hurt you. You don't have the experience to be a Lover who gives her the best sex ever, so don't pretend. You probably can't be a real Alpha either. You don't want to look overconfident, too sexy or too dominant. At the same time you want to appear stronger, perhaps more like BF material - long(er) term relationship so you can learn a lot from that girl. You share with her mentally and emotionally so she can share (her sexual experience) with you. You are open to her suggestion, she can lead here and there. You also work a lot on abundance mentality, meaning there are plenty of girls you are focusing on, thus you shouldn't even have time to call her within the first 2 days. Today is Wednesday afternoon, and you talk to her. Call Friday as on Thursday you are busy with another girls. There is also a trick, you want to be (ok, at least look) busy on Friday and Saturday night, so you don't want to take her out on these days. Take her out on Sunday or Monday, because you are dating (or at least appear like you do) other girls on Friday and Saturday. This way she is #2, right after another girls that you are busy with...
There are of course different styles and combinations, thus there is no need to go OCD over the numbers, but as a general guidance its IMO good enough...
