How much eye contact to keep on a girl during a date?

[johndoe]

Hey guys,

How much eye contact should I keep on a girl in a date? I usually keep steady eye contact on a girl when she is talking, but I'll look somewhere else when I'm doing the talking (except when emphasising a certain point). Is this a good general rule to follow Even for girls who don't look at you much when you talk? Because if a guy looks at his date more than she does, it signals more interest on his part than hers, which might not be good.

Also, for the more experienced guys around, what do you do to get a girl to have that passionate look in her eyes where you can lean in to kiss her on the first date? I know its important to build a strong emotional connection through good conversation, but then afterwards is there a routine that you do that, if she follows, will allow you to kiss her to finish it off?

 

[NarrowJ]

Hey John,

How much eye contact should I keep on a girl in a date? I usually keep steady eye contact on a girl when she is talking, but I'll look somewhere else when I'm doing the talking (except when emphasising a certain point). Is this a good general rule to follow Even for girls who don't look at you much when you talk? Because if a guy looks at his date more than she does, it signals more interest on his part than hers, which might not be good.

As far as how much eye contact, I try for about 90%. Most guys don't even get close to 50%. Girls thrive off of the emotional connection about 100x more than men do, and keeping strong eye contact with her will make her feel almost like she's in a bubble with you, and you guys are alone even when you are not.

On the concern regarding girls who don't look at you much when you talk, in my experience they do this if you're not offering them enough eye contact yourself. It's good to break eye contact occasionally, of course. If you're just staring, never breaking eye contact, that's a bit off putting.

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Also, for the more experienced guys around, what do you do to get a girl to have that passionate look in her eyes where you can lean in to kiss her on the first date? I know its important to build a strong emotional connection through good conversation, but then afterwards is there a routine that you do that, if she follows, will allow you to kiss her to finish it off?

I used to think there was some magic look I needed to wait for before I could kiss a girl too, until I started to just do it anyway when I thought the time was right, and low and behold I found out that I actually was right about 90% of the time. The best time for a kiss is immediately upon entering your seduction location (the private location here you pull her to). If you feel that she isn't going to be ready for it immediately, it is fine to wait 5 or 10 minutes for her to get comfortable with her surroundings, but don't wait any longer than that. If a girl allows herself to be alone with you, she's probably expecting you will escalate at some point.

Also, kissing in public isn't good because it gives her some of those good feelings in advance of you isolating her (which can actually make it harder to isolate her), and removes a bit of the intrigue, and then if you do get her back to your place then you have to start the process all over again, and that rush she gets from the first kiss has long passed.

Note: I never kiss girls in public unless the logistics are favorable for public sex.



Hope this was helpful!

J.J.