How reliable are vibes and "feelings" when attempting to seduce a girl?

[normajean106]

Is it possible that you can miss escalation windows by not making a move when your gut is telling you something and you ignore it? Or you get that vibe and want to escalate but you haven't seen any signs of attraction from her so you ignore the vibe? I think I know the answer to my question, but I'll go ahead and give my example anyway.

I was at a party, and there were just a handful of girls that were there, and even less that were at least mildly cute (unfortunately, the party turned into a total sausage fest. lol I guess :\ ) Despite the odds, one of the cute girls started up a conversation with me. At first I didn't think she was that interested, so I sort of brushed her off a little bit. But after some persistence I noticed she seemed fairly genuine to me, and I did get a very slight boner and a vibe from her that turned me on. But, I didn't trust my feelings and I ignored the vibe and my gut feeling that she was into me. I figured that eye contact, smiling, and her initiating the conversation weren't legitimate signs of attraction (and I'm not entirely sure that they are or not). Not that it necessarily mattered in the end since my friend cock blocked me anyway (wasn't expecting that from him, so he outplayed me unfortunately).

So, when you get that distinct vibe or gut feeling a girl is into you, should you trust it over you're own analysis of the situation and try to escalate anyway?

I'm not saying that you should take a sign of attraction and blow it out of proportion. For example, you definitely shouldn't assume a girl likes you just because she plays with your hair [not that it isn't nice though ]. That definitely is not what I'm asking.

What I am asking, however, is when you get that "feeling" that just hits you in the gut hard in the middle of a conversation with a girl that screams at you "she's into you!", should you trust that specific feeling over you're own logical judgement? Or is that feeling a byproduct of you're own personal desires and is it just a useless emotion you get when you're too excited?

 

[foggy]

Always assume attraction. The fact that this girl initiated a conversation with you is a very strong sign she was interested in you. Even just the fact that she's willing to look at you is a good sign. You won't take a second look at any girl you're definitely not attracted to, right? Especially at a party where there's tons of other options....

Yes, you should be trusting your instincts. Even if your instincts end up being wrong, it's still advisable to follow them. It doesn't matter whether they are reliable or not, although they will be getting pretty reliable once you get some experience under your belt (haha wow i made a pun i think). You're going to get laid a lot more by following your instincts rather than ignoring them.

Girls are emotional creatures. They aren't going to be thinking logically when you make a move on them.

 

[Drck]

"when you get that distinct vibe or gut feeling a girl is into you, should you trust it over you're own analysis of the situation and try to escalate anyway?"

Yes. Agreed with backstory. Once you feel attraction in your guts push things forward. Girls are usually good in mirroring your emotions, chances are high that if you feel attraction she feels the same (perhaps she feels it more intensively than you).

There are some exceptions though, you might feel great vibes with her while she is not really interested. Those are usualy pretty girls who have lots of social experience. She knows/feels that you don't have much experience with attractive girls so she sorts of leading you on, maybe even thinking that she is helping you. She is enjoying the attention you are giving her, while at the same time you can gain confidence while being around her...

Either way, you will not know until you try to move things forward. A girl that is really into you will make things easy, she may play hard here and there but if you have a good frame she will come back fast. A girls that is giving you hard time, flaking, postponing, making excuses - she is just too much work. The harder you work then, the more you appear desperate, which means the lower your value us... Once you have low value she will lose any possible interest anyway... As always, it is not what she says, it is what she does...

 

[normajean106]

Thanks for the responses guys. Guess I'll put this into practice then and start trusting my intuition.