How to act after rejection in a social circle?

[Fluxcapacitor]

Dudes how do ya deal being rejected in social circles?Usually a never reengage with a girl if she cancels a date unless she offers an alternative or reschedules an will only bother if they come back to me cause a won't chase an got other options. A just cut contact unless they come back.

In social circle am not sure how this works? If a interact am a chasing or socially clueless? An if a keep contact cut do a appear bitter an upset? Are ya better still begin social with them to appear unaffected or are ya better being aloof an distant? (Am meaning interacting in person) Thanks dudes!

 

[radeng]

Most likely just ignore it and don’t worry and interact in social circle as if it never happened. But would probably need a little more specifics around the rejection to determine the best path forward for sure. Like can recoup if you build social proof and get her at a later time.

Cheers,
Radeng

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

Thanks radeng dude! Specifics was we hooked up one night when we were out, a couldn't escalate further for a few reasons. Set up a date with her that she was excited about an told all her friends from the circle. The next morning she cancelled the date an said she couldn't do it.

A thought it was either to protect her reputation(yet she told everyone?) Or out of fear/auto rejection cause she seemed to perceive me as being much higher value (asking if a was sure about her an why a was with her) another reason a was told her best friend was very jealous an was giving me daggers while a got with the girl? So far a have seen her twice since an we haven't spoke or even acknowledged each other.

This wasn't intended but she seemed to keep further distance to usual so a just kept away as not to go out my way to close the gap cause to me that's not being warm and would be chasing?

 

[Fuck This]

Living in a small town I had to deal with that a lot. The important thing to convey to her is your sense of DISCRETION. Let her know that you valued the time you two spent together, and that is strictly between you two. She is welcome to share whatever and with whomever she would like (because you have nothing to hide) . However you won't be "telling tales out of school" aka gossiping.

You can't act jealous
You can't act hurt.

And then act as if nothing happened. No hookup, no flake. Business as usual. If she is still attracted she WILL reengage you. You don't go NO CONTACT, but minimal contact...When you meet in person acknowledge her. But don't text or call unless she initiates it.

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

Fuck this, thanks dude! A talked to her tonight, very minimal contact just to break the ice an to break the no contact that we've had for a couple of weeks just to acknowledge her. A run it business as normal an she was very receptive an a got a little bit of investment an compliance from her.

She seems a little socially awkward so a dunno just how much she will reengage? Can ya clarify what exactly ya mean with reengage do ya just mean she'll reach out for contact or do ya mean she'll make it obvious she wants to be asked out on a date or even ask herself?

Have ya got any advice to convey discretion? Or would a imply this if a isolated her before setting up a date with her again? Thanks dude!

 

[Fuck This]

I mean she will show interest. Eye contact, smile, engage you in a conversation.

She will find a way to be alone with you if she is interested.

Don't put her on the spot with a date request in public.

Discretion is demonstrated by NOT talking about it with your mates. When she asks about "what would our friends think?" say something to the effect of "It's none of their business and I don't mind if you share details of what goes on between us, but I won't be."

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

Thanks fuck this dude!

A have never noticed eye contact or smiles from her from a distance before, before the hook up. Only when we were talking really. A picked up on little signs from body language, compliance an little bits of investment. Ultimately a just assumed attraction an went for it. So not sure if a will notice them now. (Am not clueless with this, more on circumstances)

Due to the context of our social circle being a martial arts class (where am a professional fighter in the elite group - circumstance..) there isn't really alone time. The only opportunity we had alone was during the hook up so possibly not gonna get a golden opportunity like that in this setting... a think ma best bet other than a social outing is to isolate her maself an set up a date, thoughts?

A wouldn't put anyone on the spot like that an that's ma typical response bout discretion. A was meaning now that she's bailed possibly on everyone knowing (yet she told everyone not me) is there a way to say am not gonna talk bout us if we were to happen an that's on her? Or ya reckon this as been implied? Thanks dude!