How to approach a girl that's to nervous to be near you?

[weekendwarrior]

Hi guys I'm not sure if I'm stuck in my own head but I need advice to handle a chick that's "besotted" with me. I didn't go out this weekend and received a few texts from my wing woman Miss Tall:

• She text me about midnight Saturday asking if I was out. I wasn't
• She text again about 2am telling me one of the twins told her she likes me
• She text at about 4am saying "she's totally besotted with you, she hasn't stopped talking about you all night!"

This is the same chick who's twin sister told me that her sister liked me. She used to always pop up near me on the dancefloor though she quickly ejects when shes near me no matter what I do and always seems to be in a group of 4 or 5 as noted by @DoWhatWorks guide to night game are difficult sets which puts me off directly approaching again. I tried it before and got ignored by her

I've tried:
Looking at her, trying to make eye contact, forcing an AI, being aloof and not noticing her, body rocking, incidental touch and can't seem to get an opening.

I can't help but think this should be an easy set up, I should have so much confidence knowing she's interested but I can't see a way to approach. Any ideas? Thanks guys

Warrior

 

[Chase]

@weekendwarrior,

Have you tried asking your wingwoman something along the lines of:

Hey, how do you think I should approach Janice? Because every time I've tried talking to her so far she's ignored me so I figured she just wasn't interested..!​

I'm sure that information will filter back to the twin if you phrase it to your wingwoman that way (i.e., tell your wingwoman that way, and at some point she is going to talk to the twin and tell her, "weekendwarrior thinks you aren't into him! He says every time he tries talking to you you ignore him and act like you aren't interested in him!").

The twin is probably overcompensating for her interest, trying to not look too obvious, and doesn't realize she is totally shutting you down. Once she gets the info she's coming across that way, she will likely try to be more welcoming.

It's also not outside the realm of possibility your wingwoman might have an idea or two on how you can talk to her... or may even offer to set something up...

Chase

 

[weekendwarrior]

Thanks @Chase that phrasing is brilliant, I'll be using it!! I tried something similar months ago but it must have been far to subtle and judging from the messages from the weekend she might not have known which one liked me to point her out or help at all.

Really bad timing, my wing woman is going on holiday. I wanted to ask her this in person when we were out, is it worth asking over text or wait it out until she's back? I'm all for striking when the irons hot, but when she's there I could have an "in"?

Really appreciate the advice!

Warrior

 

[weekendwarrior]

Hi guys, so I used this phrasing with my wing woman and it turns out she's absolutely clueless. We're out out for the bank holiday, the twin chicks are out, and my wing woman thinks the way I should approach is by adding the twin on Instagram..... Facepalm

She failed to introduce us when the chick bumped into her and said hi. I exchanged smiles with her but she went to her group of friends immediately after saying hi.

We were stood yards apart and I couldn't approach. I'm pathetic.

I couldn't find a way to walk up to her and talk while she was in a group of 4 other chicks all standing in a very close circle dancing. Her friends were all looking over and whispering at one point, I think I overheard one of them say "go over to him" I approached hotter chicks earlier on the night without hesitation but this crippled me.

Warrior

 

[DarkKnight]

Basically she is not a wing. In cases like this YOU do the introducing. "Hey I dont think we have been introduced yet..im blah blah".

I think in this case you are trying to wait for a perfect situation, but sometimes forcing it is the right call and when you can come across as authoritive and are at ease with yourself it becomes the perfect situation.

This is another similar case of giving power to the environment indirectly.. something I really hate.