How to approach a girl with a guy who is not clearly her boyfriend/husband?

[Derick_Numbers]

Here is an issue I found many times: how to approach a girl accompanied by a guy who is not clearly her boyfriend/husband? I don't want to steal anybody's girl or get beat up by accident, but girls are often out with friend-zoned guys, brothers, or gay friends, and I feel it is a waste not to try to meet those girls.

I never found a good answer to that. What is the best way to do it?

I used in the past something like "Hey, excuse me, are you guys dating?" And if they say no, I proceed with a regular approach on the girl, if they say yes, I just compliment that they look great together and leave.

Indirect openers work too, but I just don't like going indirect because it makes me feel less authentic. But if that works for you, what is your way to do it?

Thanks!

 

[Jacksonville01]

Went daygaming with a guy once who just didn't give a fuck and just opened the girl and apologized after if she was with the guy. Not sure what the best way to do it is though

 

[bkw]

Open indirect. Somewhere in the conversation, just ask, "So, how do you guys know each other?". Simple.

You can also open direct, but it's not advised because if it is her boyfriend that'll probably not make him happy. Go indirect would be my advice. You can always transition to direct if you find out they are not dating. How you open (indirect/direct) is not set in stone and you can always transition during conversation.

 

[Derek da man]

As already said indirect is the "calibrated" way to go in my view, then either ask how they know each other or, my preferred line would be something that references her boyfriend by implying the guys she is with. Typically I''ll go to get a drink from the bar and stand next to her when she's also waiting and away from her BF, then ask "What've you done with your BF? They get a bit of que in the Gents here".

The point is that by referencing her BF she will then likely respond to correct your that "He's not my BF, he's just a friend" or whatever. The fact that she put's you right gives a really good indication if she is interested in you. If she's not interested she probably won't put you right, if she has an interest she will be keen to make sure that you're not put off.