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How to ask a girl out from social circle or extended Social circle

Witcher

Cro-Magnon Man
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Hi everyone

Always on my path to self improvement.
I now need your help on a matter not too much discussed on GC , and this is seduction in social circle.
Even if we have a little serie of articles on the subject and that with them i'm imporiving a lot, i still have some question and interrogations and hope that i will get some pratical answer from you.

And the big question is : How to ask a attarcted girl from social circle out for a Date, in the GC way and (not the friendly way ) in a smooth manner.

You can tell me that i sould not focus on social circle, and going cold approache but i insist on it ofr 2 reasons :
1)I don't have probleme attracinting some girls from social cirlce.
2)Since i joined a big studient organisation in my country and polished my social skills, i meet a lot of pretty girls, and i find it a great loss to always let them fly away.


To go back to my question : i can't find a proper way to ask girls on simple date on direct way. The only thigs that got me results (dates not lays) are when i ask them to go togedher to a event of common interest, or the "I will be passing across your place/work i have something to do close to it". Etc etc...

But this is not the best hang outs for a progression to more sexual and romantic encounters. And most of the times, i get girls on auto rejection. I 'am about 3 girls lost now!!!

Any advices on how to ask girls out in smooth way?

thx guys
 
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Space Monkey
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Hello Witcher (Geralt? :)),

I've decided to write here just to join in this very well phrased question, the same thing I've been thinking about nowadays. If any of you guys would find a while to answer it, it would be greatly appreciated.

J.
 

Quantum

Space Monkey
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My two cents:

I would just follow the advice from the how to ask a girl out article. https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-a ... ys-get-yes

Make your intentions clear and be sure that they know that it's just going to be the two of you (date). Girls in your social circle will already know you a little bit so they're either interested or they aren't. Making a small mistake shouldn't send them straight into auto-rejection. You have a little bit more room for error. They were likely never really into you or you were already friend-zoned.

Girls from your social circle (or in general) will make it easy if they're into you. Just remember to keep things discreet.
 

Witcher

Cro-Magnon Man
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Quantum said:
My two cents:

I would just follow the advice from the how to ask a girl out article. https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-a ... ys-get-yes

Make your intentions clear and be sure that they know that it's just going to be the two of you (date). Girls in your social circle will already know you a little bit so they're either interested or they aren't. Making a small mistake shouldn't send them straight into auto-rejection. You have a little bit more room for error. They were likely never really into you or you were already friend-zoned.

Girls from your social circle (or in general) will make it easy if they're into you. Just remember to keep things discreet.

I used this one, but i don't find it very smooth, or perhaps i'am mistaking girls interested.

Anywasy DexelSccott posted an alternative laid back method :
viewtopic.php?f=4&t=10010

But when you say make your intentions celar, in you own term how would you do it? Some exemple?

last questions: how girls show interest in social cirlce , basicually i do'nt think that some signe would be Interest if done in social cirlce ratrher that coald approache.
 

Quantum

Space Monkey
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Making your intentions clear is making sure she knows that you're going out on a date instead of going out as friends. This is important in a social circle situation because she might think your reasons for hanging out with her are non-intimate. if you're unclear, things could get very awkward when you push forward. Especially if she's not at all interested.

It doesn't have to be complicated. If she likes you, she'll come out on a date. Girls from your social circle will display interest the same way they would outside of your social circle. Girls are still girls.
 

Prehistoric

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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I have a similar issue at the moment.

While I am starting to do lot of cold approaches, I live in a big city with a lot of organised events, some of them attended by a lot of pretty women (especially language exchanges).

I actually have much more problems making moves in these circles than I do when I cold approach, yet I am determined to find a way.

What I am trying to do is to deep dive a bit when we're still at the social event, so as to psychologically separate her from the rest of the group and then move her outside of the group (normally with the excuse of grabbing something to eat and choosing a location which is closer to my place) making it all look very casual. Normally I try to do that on the first time we meet or when I meet her again after a long time if it didn't work the first time. Unless I am staying at the event for a very short time, I try to escalate everything on the same day, without planning future dates.

I have attempted that 5-6 times.

One girl I managed to bed. Another girl I managed to bring out of the event to a small fast food and then a bar, but then she resisted my attempts to bring her home (although she wanted to go out the next week but I couldn't). The other resisted my attempts, most of them rather politely.

Other 2 things. First, after attending an event, I don't go to the same event for at least 2-3 weeks, meanwhile attending others. I have the impression that if you regularly go to the same event, it's much easier for women to friend-zoning you, something they always attempt to do in these circles. Second, I don't push a lot as I would do outside of a social circle. I did it once back in November when I was starting pick-up and I had a very bad reaction not only from the girl but also from other people, especially a couple of males in the group. Or maybe you can push but in a humorous way, I am not sure about that.



Still experimenting, like u. Sure we'll figure something out :)
 
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