How to be always in the state ?

[RedNeck]

Hello guys,

Long time, no tak. How to be always in the state? Sometimes, on way to work or during the break girls give me AI's but i either miss the signs or I do not apporach because I am not in the state.

Is there a way to be always on?

 

[Bill]

I haven’t done it myself but you could try using NLP anchoring for it. Meditating prior to going out and talking to people as you are going to the location can make it come faster.

 

[Will_V]

Hello guys,

Long time, no tak. How to be always in the state? Sometimes, on way to work or during the break girls give me AI's but i either miss the signs or I do not apporach because I am not in the state.

Is there a way to be always on?

The best way to stay ready for something is to keep a calm and clear mind, always.

Something I like to practice is a short meditation in the morning, and then I try to return to it again and again throughout the day, just recapturing the state for a moment or two, without 'meditating' again.

When I'm present like that, it's very easy for me to be moved by my desires, to stay in silence or tension, to put myself into something new and unexplored, to express myself and enjoy little things.

Whereas when I'm not present, all of that seems far away from me, not connected to me, I can't experience it properly. And when something seems very far away, it feels easier to just stay where we are, in whatever loop we are in.

If what you're doing during the day requires a very different state from the one you need to be in to approach, I definitely suggest meditating to make the switch.

And .. just go! You'll only find out when you get there what you need to do.

 

[RedNeck]

The best way to stay ready for something is to keep a calm and clear mind, always.

Something I like to practice is a short meditation in the morning, and then I try to return to it again and again throughout the day, just recapturing the state for a moment or two, without 'meditating' again.

When I'm present like that, it's very easy for me to be moved by my desires, to stay in silence or tension, to put myself into something new and unexplored, to express myself and enjoy little things.

Whereas when I'm not present, all of that seems far away from me, not connected to me, I can't experience it properly. And when something seems very far away, it feels easier to just stay where we are, in whatever loop we are in.

If what you're doing during the day requires a very different state from the one you need to be in to approach, I definitely suggest meditating to make the switch.

And .. just go! You'll only find out when you get there what you need to do.

Thanks Will_V

 

[DarkKnight]

This is hard man, because life gets in the way and during the day you are already mentally occupied with something else I guess. I think it all comes down to training. Training yourself with micro calibration, to de-prioritize what you are currently doing mid-activity and prioritize the girl. It is like a small muscle that needs to be trained so you can just switch.

For the rest dont jerk off, make conversation with fellow humans during the day, and keep a tab on your diet and sleep.

For me I had to have a few times that a girl goes into autorejection due to me missing a super small window while I am barely aware (still happens as these days more people want my attention than in the past), but it thought me that I need to adapt micro calibration.

What else is there to say?

 

[KJ Francis]

Is there a way to be always on?

I don't know... I think even the top guys use warm up approaches at the start of each night. Style at his peak would go to the pub knowing the women were less attractive before hitting a different rooftop patio venue.

Chase has an article on shaking off AA rust through baby steps... I think it starts with just making eye contact with a few people, then moving to "hi" for the next few, and ramping up.

There's also social momentum from talking to random men and women you encounter on the way.

Top sprinters won't just launch into their peak performance without warming up a bit, despite being totally capable of performing.

So I don't know if there are shortcuts to be on from set #1. Power lifters won't rack up their one rep max before doing warm up sets.

I think Will's comments are the best you can do, being present. And "just go" is similar to Tony D's tip on dealing with AA being like changing a tire. You just snap into the process and act. 3 second rule... Don't think... Just go before you can think it over. Like you're in the rain and need to change that tire. Right foot, left foot, then you're there.

And like Dark Knight's nofap comment, I think drive and testosterone play a big role. If you aren't in the gym, it could help to get that baseline risk-taking hormone up.

 

[Will_V]

This is hard man, because life gets in the way and during the day you are already mentally occupied with something else I guess.

Yeah that's for sure, especially if you're spending most of your day doing an 'in your head' job without being around people.

I think the best bet in these cases is to just stay as relaxed and present as you can, and then just go out knowing that the first few are probably going to be a bit awkward. Maybe just be extra friendly/smiling/bubbly and work your way toward a more seductive state as you relax into things, and give yourself an extended warmup period.

I like to meditate, listen to some music etc before I go out, but if you don't have time you just gotta go. The truth is you can't do too badly unless you're bashing yourself over the head with your expectations.