How to be like titanium (impervious to what girls say)

[johndoe]

So, I've been moving fast with girls recently, making my sexual intents known quickly and directly. Doing so made me realise that what girls (or people in general really) say are often at odds with what they do or how they feel, and that often without a hard no, you can assume attraction (and her compliance) and just escalate. What I want to ask is, how do you guys maintain this attitude of persistence and nonchalance? Even though I know that I'm free to escalate (most of the time) when a girl enjoys her time with me and says "she has a boyfriend / doesn't want a relationship / isn't sure about kissing me", there are some days when I just dont wake up feeling awesome and let these instances put me down.

How do you guys find the strength to persist in the face of such odds? I understand persistence is important, but I don't really know it yet because I dont have the experience under my belt to be at such a high level of self-assurance always. How do the more experienced of you handle it during this interim stage?

 

[Man-O]

Think of it this way. A lot of girls (and guys) stay in a boring relationship because they're afraid of the alternative, being single. Because it is insecure and maybe even overwhelming to think about. But at some point it gets so boring they break up. Before they even get to that phase both parts may already have the thought of breaking up or wanting something better or new to see if it is what they want.

You the mr. charming who seduces someone's gf shouldn't feel guilty as long as you give her a good time, and maybe you'll even reassure her that she should break up because her bf is rly rly boring (not that you have to go in a relationship). Because the world is filled with so many opportunities and she might not know yet what she seeks in a guy. Remember most girls and guys meet through social circles a bit drunk or it was just a moment that made it happen and that doesn't make for a strong and long-lasting relationship.

I got a friend who would never touch girls in relationships. Ironically he felt it the hard way. A girl he had been befriending for some time he rly liked but had bf at some stage asked to sleep by his place after they had been working together etc.. He refused this and didn't get her attention. I told him she wanted sex but he still didn't believe it and he thought her an angel and she had a bf. Me: "Dude, you like her and she's interested. Most girls are bored and a lot have cheated". Him: "She's not like that".
Needless to say. A week after she sleeps with another guy.

I've heard of several other relationship where even both cheat. There can be loads of other reasons.
To me it's about always giving to others and having a good time. Knowing that and I can say I'm awesome when waking up

 

[Lotus]

Don't pay as much attention to what she is saying. Pay attention to what she does when she says it and how she says it. Girls say all manners of sily things that they don't mean.

she has a boyfriend / doesn't want a relationship / isn't sure about kissing me

when are you getting these responses in the interactions?

 

[johndoe]

Think of it this way. A lot of girls (and guys) stay in a boring relationship because they're afraid of the alternative, being single. Because it is insecure and maybe even overwhelming to think about. But at some point it gets so boring they break up. Before they even get to that phase both parts may already have the thought of breaking up or wanting something better or new to see if it is what they want.

You the mr. charming who seduces someone's gf shouldn't feel guilty as long as you give her a good time, and maybe you'll even reassure her that she should break up because her bf is rly rly boring (not that you have to go in a relationship). Because the world is filled with so many opportunities and she might not know yet what she seeks in a guy. Remember most girls and guys meet through social circles a bit drunk or it was just a moment that made it happen and that doesn't make for a strong and long-lasting relationship.

I got a friend who would never touch girls in relationships. Ironically he felt it the hard way. A girl he had been befriending for some time he rly liked but had bf at some stage asked to sleep by his place after they had been working together etc.. He refused this and didn't get her attention. I told him she wanted sex but he still didn't believe it and he thought her an angel and she had a bf. Me: "Dude, you like her and she's interested. Most girls are bored and a lot have cheated". Him: "She's not like that".
Needless to say. A week after she sleeps with another guy.

I've heard of several other relationship where even both cheat. There can be loads of other reasons.
To me it's about always giving to others and having a good time. Knowing that and I can say I'm awesome when waking up

I've always known this, but I don't always remember this when I'm dealing with girls (because most of them have to given some obligatory token resistance to appear more "politically correct"). Hearing you say this is reassuring, however.

when are you getting these responses in the interactions?

When I'm on a date with them / alone with them. I'm sure they're not saying that to blow me off, if that's what you're asking. I'm missing witty comebacks and losing the frame game by virtue of my silence; and DrexelScott has kindly provided some witty comebacks that I'm totally stealing.