How To Be The Best Lover For Each Inividual Girl

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As we all know women are built pretty similar, but they all like different things. You can do all the research you want on the female body, read online tips, have a lot of practice with girls and have more experience, but nothing beats figuring out each individual girl's preferences and knowing exactly how she likes it.

For a while I studied all about g-spot and anterior fornix stimulation. It really really helps to know this stuff. But when it doesn't always translate to complete success in the bedroom. This is because we all condition ourselves to orgasm differently. Girls have done stuff to me that they say drives guys wild, but to me feels overstimulating, or just damaging to my skin/reproductive organs. I have done stuff with girls that the last girl really digged but this one finds it painful or just monotonous and boring. You have heard all this before

BUT

the only way ive heard of people tackling this problem is to either

-pay attention to her responses and breathing to try and tell what she likes. Try different types of stimulation and gauge her to learn what responds to.

but the problem with that is girls often give misleading signs. They fake pleasure to make you feel good, the just moan and act like they are in pleasure by default, or they just moan and respond because they feel its the right time to do so (you are railing them really hard) and not because you are giving them exactly what works best for them. Yes this method can help, its better then having a static strategy... but it can be a bit like playing a game of marco polo or pin the tail on the donkey. Its shooting in the dark and a bit unreliable

OR

-They say communication is key, and you should openly communicate with your partner about what feels best for her. This is very effective and you find out exactly how to stimulate your partner the right way and fulfill her fantasies. But ive tried this before, and if you have too you would know that this can be really unexciting and kill the magic of things. First off it kind of kills your masculinity a bit, the woman is telling you exactly what to do and you are complying instead of being dominant and taking charge in the bedroom (which is huge). Also you ruined her view of you as being “skilled in bed” because you are not this rare special guy who knew how to give her exactly what she needed. Instead it becomes more about the fact that you could follow basic directions. Which is not quite as sexy


WHAT I HAVE BEEN DOING LATELY

When Im escalating with a girl. I do my best to get her as turned on and unbearably horny as possible. I use a LOT of teasing, and I come at them as horny and aggressive as a convict who as been locked away and hasn't been around a real woman in over 10 years. In the build up I let them know how much I want to pleasure her, how much I enjoy it, and how I want feel her coming while Im inside of her. I continue with this teasing her and showing intense primal desire until she is at the absolute breaking point and is begging for it.

Then I grab her roughly by the throat, man handle her, and tell her I want her to get herself off as I pull her on top of me.

Now I have gotten her to stop thinking of me and focus 100% on her own pleasure and getting herself off as fast and hard as possible.

All you have to do now guys is just pay attention and learn. Run your hands up and down her body, but take notes of whats going on down there. What angle does she have you inside her? How hard, fast, and deep is she taking you? Where inside of her is your dick making the most contact and how so? Is she taking you all the way inside her grinding her vulva and clit against you, or is she bouncing hard up and down on you simulating hard and deep thrusts?

Just try to absorb what is going on inside of her and commit it to muscle memory as accurately as possible

Then take her hand and suck on her fingers getting them nice and wet. Then put her fingers on her clit. Watch closely how she stimulates her clit. Does she flick a wet finger all over and around the clit? or does she use several fingers to move the clit itself around in circles? Learn and remember this stuff

Then once she comes and recovers and you guys are going for round 2. Give her penetration exactly how she loves it and improvise positions on the fly that allow for that same kind of thrust, angle and stimulation. Then remember how she touched her clit and replicate that with your fingers on her clit during penetration, and with your mouth when you are giving her oral (but experimenting with some added sucking to draw more blood in, she can't do that herself).


I felt this was a smoother and sexier way to learn how to pleasure each individual girl and just be a better lover in general than most of the ways I have seen suggested by other guys and places around the net

 

[Verisimilitude]

This is awesome. Great post B!

 

[Whizzy]

Nice way to cheat the system B, me gusta

 

[Thedoctor]

What's with all these trolls recently? Lol.
Edit: Previous post was deleted so this isn't directed at anyone on this topic.

 

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Alright guys, just thought I would make an update on this as I have recently had more experience putting this into practice and have found out how to make it work even more effectively as well as some other important findings.

The results I just recently got from this after tweaking and further developing it were PHENOMENAL


I recently utilized this with a girl who was a pretty tough case and was really hard to get off through intercourse and I wasnt doing so hot at the beginning (she had a lot of weird random pain down there, had trouble getting wet enough due her birth control and tore up easily inside, and has never orgasmed with a guy inside her before which I didn't find out till later) ill spare you the details but things ended really well. here are the take anyways that changed the way I go about this technique

-Sometimes it is not enough to just take mental note and hit the same spots at the same angles with just your thrusts, for maximum effectiveness you should literally do the exact same thing she did to get off on top of you (meaning doing the girl on top position that she does). That usually means being in slightly weird positions and have your legs in unexpected positions (which will probably be on your bent knees kind of straddling her like a woman does when she rides on you. They ONLY difference is that her legs are gonna be laying OVER yours otherwise it would be really hard to enter her.

You will find yourself doing some kind of weird unconventional things on top. In this specific situation for me, I was kneeling on my spread out knees (like girls are when they are on top) but her legs laying over mine. There was about a 45 degree angle gap of separation between our upper bodies (which is what she did). I was as deep in her as I could get and I tried to mimic what she did. Which ended up looking like me just bobbing up and down (leaning slightly forward) like an excited chimpanzee at the zoo or something. It felt like I was just trying to lift her lower body straight up and down with just my dick inside of her and doing barely any in and out thrusting at all while our pubic areas incidentally grinded but not too hard.

The point is to MIMIC EVERYTHING EXACTLY that she did on top. The only difference is that the pleasure is going to happen on your upstroke (or up movement) instead of her down stroke when she is on top. The position of your legs and body have a HUGE effect on everything. This was a ginormous breakthrough that took me from not getting any really effective results with her, to instantly having her in immense pleasure and getting her to have multiple orgasms (3 back to back after each one finished) within a little over a minute (not exaggerating). I have never done anything like this before and it was definitely the best sexual performance of my life. There is one thing that helped out too


-Ask if she uses a vibrator before hand. If she does than integrate it. If a girl vibes then she will be really insensitive to a lot of stimulation on the clit and very conditioned to that hyper stimulation of the vibrator, and it will get her off very quick. I was able to get this girl off with oral on the clit, but why not use what she is best conditioned to get a clit orgasm with... WHILE simultaneously giving her what best gets her off internally with your dick which she showed you for an ultimate mind numbing multigasm explosion.

I was able to get her off in the same amount of time without the vibrator (she actually refused to use the vibrator a lot of the time because said it “felt too good” and she “didn't need it”). But the vibrator is what lead to the rapid multiple orgasms when it happened


RECAP

-This became way more effective then when i stopped trying to just hit the same angle, depth, spots and thrusts that i observed using the normal guy on top positions (which are very different from girl on top)... and i replicated and mimicked HER girl on top position to REALLY get the exact same conditions (using my legs in the kneeling position was a lot of it) .

- also, ask her before hand sometime if she uses a vibrator (makes for good sexual talk too), if she does than wait until after her being on top when you are learning and observing exactly what to do on top of her. After that tell her to get her vibrator and have her hold it on her clit while you do this to her.

Have fun experimenting with this, I would like to hear how it goes for you guys and if you find any ways to further improve this.

 

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Other important things

this is going to be very different with each girl because I have noticed some girls have swollen obvious g-spots that bring them a lot of pleasure when you stimulate it. Other girls don't even seem to have notable g spots (even after a lot of foreplay) and dont really get any extra pleasure from stimulating the area. I have found that anterior fornix stimulation is usually less hit and miss like the g spot (it was the key in my last interaction (also study the anterior fornix if you havent yet, it often brings awesome results). Some women don't even know about stimulating their anterior fornix and how good it can feel. This is also a touchy thing because the fornix is the ring of muscle that contracts when a girl orgasms, it comes just before the cervix which you really want to be careful with its because very very sensitive with most girls and usually is more painful than pleasure (like our balls) some guys think they are pleasuring a girl well by pounding into her cervix when really its the incidental stimulation with the fornix which is right around your dick before it, and if you were to focus on applying pressure right up and into it instead of straight past into the cervix, your results would be way way better.

A good rule of thumb I use is to run your finger iniside her along the upper wall. If you get to the point where the upper wall slopes up and inward and you can crook your finger around it... you are right on the anterior fornix, any deeper and you are hitting the cervix. If she has a longer vaginal canal and you never get to that drop off on the upper wall, just get as deep as you can.

Use this information to better understand what she is doing to get off or you can help her find new ways to get off through foreplay. The particular girl I mentioned in the above post could never stimulate her own fornix and never had a guy do it for her. During foreplay she was like “I don't know what you are doing with your fingers but it feels really good” and I could get her off with my fingers, she was also able to use this new found “pleasure spot” to reach orgasm easily for the first time through intercourse while on top.

It just took me a while to figure out that I needed to do the same thing as her on and use the bent legs I was kneeling on to apply pressure straight up and in which almost impossible to do as effectively just flexing your ass and core abdominal muscles (normal thrusting) in a regular guy on top position.

The whole point of this though is that we can all pretty much get ourselves off through masturbation within minutes granted that we are not old, have a properly working sex drive, and masturbate like most humans. Girls take a little longer to get aroused and ready (which is why you should always take your time and focus on foreplay) but once they are, in my experience they can get themselves off as fast as guys can, some even faster and more times.

Imagine a girl that uses her really strong and wet vagina to grip your cock and work it the EXACT same way you do when you masturbate but as Intensely and vigorously as she could, hell just imagine a girl who could just grab you with with her hand and jack you the same way you do. How fast could you get off? Well the answer to that question my friends is an embarrassing 13 seconds. I know because this exact scenario happened to me randomly during intercourse one time... and it felt 8 times better to have someone else do it and was more effective. This experience was one of the main foundations of this.

I have always put a lot of focus and time and focus into sex itself, and have been told and heard im pretty good from the girl, through the girls friends, etc.

But once I started approaching sex with this mindset, my results have become better than I thought could be possible, at least with the couple girls i have used it on so far. I will continue to put it into practice and further develop it though

 

[Marty]

Re: How To Be The Best Lover For Each Individual Girl

-B-, this is great reading. Hope to have the diversity of partners some day soon to put it into practice!

Seriously, I'm impressed that you're so conscientious. They must love you for it.

 

[-B-]

thank you Marty

I guess i am different, im finding out the more social experience i get that the majority of men do not put as much thought or focus learning how to fully satisfy women physically. A lot of it is remnants of the old "nice guy" me who wanted to serve women. A large portion of it now comes mostly from my competitive nature. I make a strive to be the best every girl has ever had far and a way every time. I want to have her remember me as the better than all the other men she has been with and will be with which is pretty selfish and immature in a way, But that's the most effective mindset when it comes to this stuff and making your life better in general.

I definitely have weaknesses when it comes to the opposite sex, like getting out of my shell and exuding the right emotions and vibes when initially meeting and starting things off with girls which always been a sticking point for me. But this is an area i feel really strong in and feel i have something to offer

I decided to pursue this stuff mostly on my own but i didn't want to leave this here unfinished as i have made a lot of progress with it and has been very effective for me. I also wanted to share it because i honestly think it is better than literally everything else i have ever heard or read when it comes to sex and physically pleasing women. But you guys can try it out for yourself and determine if im right or wrong about that.

 

[Mr. oblivious]

All seems fairly logical

 

[demainor]

Do you perhaps have a figure to illustrate,l cant seem to picture it in my head. wld appreciate if you had an example we cld see the position you speak off.
As for the A spot,how exactly do you stimulate it?

 

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sure man

check out this video, it helped me a lot on teaching me how to stimulate it

http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xl...-spot-and-give-an-incredible-orgasm_lifestyle

the technique they mention where you just simply push on the area over and over again with your finger has worked REALLY well for me

other than that, i find stimulating it is a lot like a massage, press up against the area with your finger, kinda shmoosie it around in a cirular motion, just work the area.... massage it with a nice firm but enjoyable pressure

but be really careful to NOT do this on the cervix. With the majority of girls i have been with, their vaginal canal is too long for my middle finger to get to the point where the fornix curves up and in, but they still derive great pleasure from me stimulating as far in as i can like they mention in this video, which leads me to believe that its best to stimulate just below the point where the fornix curves up and in

Its been a while since i have been with a girl with a shorter vaginal canal where my finger could easy get to and past the fornix. I have only had two girls like this and it was back when i was in the beginning stages of figuring all this stuff out. But what was common in both of them is they found it VERY uncomfortable when i stimulated up and past the fornix (the cervix). As you might know it can sometimes be a little much for a woman when just tip of your penis is just bumping up against her cervix, and the tip of your penis is a lot softer than the shaft.... so you can imagine that firmly stimulating the cervix with you finger is many times more intense and painful for them. I would be careful to avoid it. from my experience the cervix is a lot like our testicles, anything other than a light touch is uncomfortable. So be careful with girls who have short vaginal canals

I mentioned this stuff above but Im repeating this because the video instructs you to go in with your finger as deep as you can... This is definitely not the case with ALL girls (but you are probably ARE going to be going in as deep as you can with most girls)

 

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As far as the position i am talking about the closest thing i can find is this. I don't know how strict the mods are about posting real life nudes and porn but luckily i found this drawing

https://s.yimg.com/ea/img/-/120201/woma ... DCWzeLSw--



this is the closest thing i could find and is very similar to the position i used, but it is the guy who is on top, and the female is on the bottom except that her legs are lying on top of yours spread out so you can enter her (her legs are above your hips straddling you in regular girl on top so it isn't really a change anyway)

The big thing is the way the girl on top is kneeling on her spread out legs. There is a reason that girls don't imitate standard missionary and lay directly on top of us when they are top.... when they are on top they use their legs A LOT.

When YOU have your legs in this position when you are on top, you can use your legs to move your hips around better and lightly grind your pubic areas against each other while you are inside of her. In standard guy on top, all you weight is on her and you cant get that same grind going that girls do with the girl on top position.

Also using the leverage of your legs like this, you can apply pressure straight up in her vagina WAY better and stimulate the goods areas like her A SPOT like a hundred more times effectively than if you where just flexing your ass and abdominals.

BUT

All of this is about learning what she does to get her self off on top and utilizing it when YOU are on top. So there is no standard position or way to thrust (but it will probably be very similar case to case but with some differences). What this was for was to demonstrate that the way most girls use their legs in girl on top like in the picture above gives them all sorts of dynamic ranges of of movement and stimulation that you cant replicate unless you use and position your legs the same way that they do.

 

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oh my bad, i just noticed that the video i posted above on A SPOT wasn't the one i remembered

Basically the technique was to go in with your middle finger as deep as you can or when you get to the fornix if you can reach it. Then you just simply press on it with your finger over and over. Its like you are just wiggling your middle finger while its inside of her. that simple