How to befriend a rejection without being obvious?

[Average]

So you walk up to a girl, switch on the charm and try to close with her and then she rejects you. I know most guys would leave and go on to the next girl but I don't want to lose a potential friend I can use to boost my social status just because she doesn't want to be my lay (or is too morally inclined or whatever)

That being said, how do you do that?

I mean, I want to try my luck first but I also want a cushion to fall back on if she rejects me since this year I want to be hitting up em college ladies hard. Hard enough to eventually get laid but also hard enough to have a social circle consisting of guys and girls.

If I do this however, will the fact that I'm friending her only because she rejected me get in the way of our connection? And do I have to get rejected so hard (because of the spirit of persistence) that a friendship is virtually impossible to formulate afterwards?

Links to articles will also be appreciated. Especially if one is about to speak about indirect game and direct indirect since that's kinda confusing for me.

PS: What happened to the search button in the Girlschase website for articles? I can't seem to find it anywhere.

 

[Drck]

Since this is college, why not try sort of friendly approach first? You will see that girl again anyway, so just have small talk, do your irresistible charm thing or whatever, and leave (without hitting her for number)... See how she reacts when she sees you next time, if she is quite excited and interested, try to move forward... If she is disinterested, well, at least she might be a good friend...

 

[Teevster]

Resistance is not always a rejection. If she resists your escalation, just do not make it official by seeming reactive. Just change subject, and do something else (switch topic) and then try again later on. Maybe her mood will change... or maybe by stepping back you make her feel comfortable, while giving you time to charm her more. Oftentimes the persistence itself is enough to make her comply - persistence is attractive. Whenever she resists, take a step back, proceed from the point and try again later. Give it 3 attempts and move on if it doesn't work. You cannot always succeed and failure is what one makes calibrated. If you do this, you can actually leave knowing what you have at least tried and you have a lot to learn from in the case of failure. And for all you know, you may succeed. I will cover a lot about this in my upcoming series on escalation.

Now if you do face SERIOUS resistance, then get out. You do not want to make her feel sexually harassed.

Hope this quick answer helps.

-Alek

 

[Teevster]

You mention implicitly that this is a college scenario. I would therefore not persist too much or at least not push things too hard. That being said, going the friend route rarely works in the long run. Is this a girl you see often? if yes play it more careful - if not, who gives a shit really.

Anyway my previous post applies very well to scenarios where you have nothing to lose by persisting, and you may considering practicing seduction in those scenarios before you attempt seducing girls in scenarios that may lead to social implications.

-Alek

 

[readjusting]

I think it's possible.

I approached one or two girls in my school dining hall everyday. Occasionally I ran into a girl I approached before. Usually I would smile friendly, said, "Hi. Long time no see," and went off. Usually the girl would say hi back.
Light sarging in social environments had several benefits:
- It trained you to deal with social challenges. I had never see anyone challenged me on approaching the girl, but I had seen challenges in other situations. This (viewtopic.php?f=3&t=8765) would shut down the challenger quick.
- It trained you to deal with social pressure. You might be surprise, but it was worse than social challenges. If they just watched me without challenging, my game usually would be worse than if the girl was alone.
- It trained you to not to be awkward. What would happen if you run into a girl you met previously.
- It trained you to not be bitter. She rejected, be cool with it.
The last one was the most important. The first 3 months, I sarged at malls far away from school and different schools. Usually I would get pissed off when I got rejected. Recently I started sarging on my school. And I had to be cool after I got rejected, after a week or two it become real.

 

[Average]

Going the friend route rarely works in the long run

Do you mean that after I try my luck to make her my FWB then I can't make her my friend if it doesn't work out for some reason? Or do you mean converting a friend into an FWB is what's gonna give me trouble? Or both?

Since this is college, why not try sort of friendly approach first? You will see that girl again anyway, so just have small talk, do your irresistible charm thing or whatever, and leave (without hitting her for number)... See how she reacts when she sees you next time, if she is quite excited and interested, try to move forward... If she is disinterested, well, at least she might be a good friend...

Yeah, that sounds like the most socially astute way to grow my social circle while also keeping my eye out for potential lovers.

Resistance is not always a rejection. If she resists your escalation, just do not make it official by seeming reactive. Just change subject, and do something else (switch topic) and then try again later on. Maybe her mood will change... or maybe by stepping back you make her feel comfortable, while giving you time to charm her more. Oftentimes the persistence itself is enough to make her comply - persistence is attractive. Whenever she resists, take a step back, proceed from the point and try again later. Give it 3 attempts and move on if it doesn't work. You cannot always succeed and failure is what one makes calibrated. If you do this, you can actually leave knowing what you have at least tried and you have a lot to learn from in the case of failure. And for all you know, you may succeed. I will cover a lot about this in my upcoming series on escalation.

Now if you do face SERIOUS resistance, then get out. You do not want to make her feel sexually harassed.

Hope this quick answer helps.

-Alek

Yeah, it clears up what persistance actually looks like. Thanks a lot

You mention implicitly that this is a college scenario. I would therefore not persist too much or at least not push things too hard. . Is this a girl you see often? if yes play it more careful - if not, who gives a shit really.

Anyway my previous post applies very well to scenarios where you have nothing to lose by persisting

I like the idea of persisting with girls I rarely see because it sort of justifies the phrase people usually say when persisting: "we may never see each other again. And even if we do then what if something stops us from doing this. This may very well be a once in a lifetime opportunity".

This usually sounds dramatic when said to somebody you see everyday. But with somebody I genuinely may not see again, this sounds like the right thing to do. And like its coming from a place of passion (something I've never really done is say something passionately).

you may considering practicing seduction in those scenarios before you attempt seducing girls in scenarios that may lead to social implications.

I should view seduction with people I may never see again as practice for college. That sounds pretty smart. I never thought of that.

I think it's possible.

I approached one or two girls in my school dining hall everyday. Occasionally I ran into a girl I approached before. Usually I would smile friendly, said, "Hi. Long time no see," and went off. Usually the girl would say hi back.

Good to know that they at least won't be out to get me and I won't have to sleep with a gaurd at my bedroom door. Haha

Light sarging in social environments had several benefits:

I never sarged a lot because there weren't a lot of girls in my neighborhood. But since I'm going to a college that's in a city Center, going off to meet girls in faraway places will be a huge benefit. These all sound like beneficial improvements. I look forward to them.