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How to Deal with Crummy Sexual Markets

Alchemist

Cro-Magnon Man
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So I live in a city of around 200k people in the Netherlands. Due to my technical major, I had only a single girl in my class and 90% males in my department. I pulled the statistics and compared all cities in the Netherlands in terms of sex ratio, my city was the second worst at a ratio of 54.2% males to 45.8% females in the age range of 18 to 28 (for comparison Amsterdam has 45.9% males and 54.1% females). All the clubs and bars have at least 70 to 80% males on any given night. There is a local pickup community but I have yet to see with my own eyes a guy who can reliably sleep with girls (except for a 45 year old who goes for 30+ girls, so not in my peer group of college girls). All experienced local Dutch guys say that it's difficult to pick up girls here.

There is even a mainstream news article about how girls here get so much attention from guys but that they have to run after guys in other cities after sleeping with them because they rarely stay around.

Almost all of the guys in my major are involuntary celibates who know about pickup but don't care enough to practice it.

These sound like excuses but they're only cold, hard facts. Despite these things, I've slept with 5 girls here and kissed/went on a date with at least 20+. So I'm still working my ass off. However, the girls know the advantage they have here and readily admit it to me in private.

I have 1 more year left in this city so moving away isn't an option. Also my logistics are perfect for pulling girls home from the city center but there is no central park, so no cute girls sitting around reading books or something. In day game I have to run after them and they're always occupied, Dutch people plan going out with their friends 2 weeks in advance using their calendars...

I've been in other cities and gaming there feels so much fucking different. In Amsterdam girls were giving me approach invitations and checking me out, and that rarely happens in my city. A girl I failed to overcome LMR or even a girl I slept with don't mind writing me off in an instant because even unattractive girls have nerdy and desperate guys lining up for them, and the hot girls have naturally gifted guys vying for their attention.

What can I do in this situation, and avoid burning out?
 

PrettyDecent

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Hey Alchemist,

Ah, tough man. I can sympathise though. My first year of game was spent in Perth, Australia where it's similar statistics, and it wasn't easy at all.

Anyway, from there I moved to a different city with more favorable statistics...and the results were really incredible. I was pulling girls multiple times a week.

It's kind of like running with weights on your feet. Sucks in the moment. But then you take them off and you're just flying. I sometimes wish to be back in an environment like that just to level up quickly again!

So yeah, you're practicing seduction very efficiently right now. Just keep it up.

Nick
 

uForia

Space Monkey
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I have a similar situation in my university. I just gave up for the most part in this drastically unfair market and found it more comparatively efficient to just focus on my studies. I've been to New York where the markets are supposed to be more favorable but still failed as a beginner to even get a date. As Chase told me, I would be banging my head for 8 months before I get any results. But you already have results in this rigged market. That means you're already at a point where you'll excel even more outside it. I would think that your intellectual power would grow much more now than when you leave, thus it's comparatively advantageous to focus on that than pursuing women. It's just economics.
 

Drck

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Don't get confused by college math, follow seduction math....

Seduction math tells us that 20% of all guys sleep with 80% of all girls.

So in a city of 200k you have about 54% of males, which is 108k males. 20% of those is 21,600 males

46% of females is 92,000 females, out of which 80% is 73,600 females.

So with some knowledge and game you should be in the top of 20%... If so, you have roughly some 22 guys competing for 74 females.... Not the best ratio, but not that bad either...
 

Hector Papi Castillo

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Just spent a month in Groningen, and before that a week in Nijmegen. Without Verdaggsfesteen, Nijmegen sucks but it was great while I was there. Spent 4 days in Amsterdam but was with a chick the whole time so no approaches.

I'd say transfer to Groningen or Amsterdam. Life is too short to go without a plentiful of pussy.

Hector
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake

Alchemist

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Anatman said:
Just spent a month in Groningen, and before that a week in Nijmegen. Without Verdaggsfesteen, Nijmegen sucks but it was great while I was there. Spent 4 days in Amsterdam but was with a chick the whole time so no approaches.

If you think Nijmegen sucks, you'd laugh at my city. I'd even love to be in Nijmegen. I can't move until I graduate, hence I've got a year left. Given the time and effort I've put in nightgame here and the shitty results I've (and everyone else I know) had, it seems that I need to push hard on my daygame skills and even with the risk of being known as the campus approacher, open every day in school. And start doing library game.

And the infuriating thing is, the few girls that live here are fucking gorgeous. I feel like I'm gonna get a stomach ulcer with the amount of stress hormones my body is releasing.

Anatman said:
Life is too short to go without a plentiful of pussy.
I agree.
 
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