How to deal with jealousy and insecurity.

[Cacc]

The dynamic:

In a relationship with a girl in my social circle. We talk mostly everyday. Not much, how was your day, we tell each other whatever cool thing we did that day. She tells me good morning and goodnight mostly everyday. Sometimes we talk on the phone. I do this because I'm bored and if I have nothing else to do I talk to a couple people. She's told me she loved me several times, I told her once. We meet about once a week. Sometimes more sometimes less, it depends on her behavior and if she deserved the sex. Anyway, as far as I know she only has sex with me, I have sex with other women and she knows this. Women also flirt with me in my social circle. I don't treat her like my girlfriend in my social circle because this will reduce my options.

I used to make her jealous on purpose and she'd close off but warm up again later. But I don't anymore because there's too much of a value imbalance. I treat her very well and like she is special to me when we are together, but this isn't reflected by my other actions. She's confused. There's dissonance.

I'm not willing to be monogamous. Over time she's been more jealous and possessive, I don't mind because It shows me she cares a lot. I also deal with it relatively well. But that's not going away unless I stop talking to other women which isn't going to happen.

The advice I'm looking is how can I ride this out as long as possible and not have it blow up in my face? And how can I expect her behavior to evolve in the future?

This is my first time dealing with social circle game. My goal is to make this relationship last as long as possible without monogamy.

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

Dude this is difficult cause its her decision how long she waits. Ya can only keep this going as long as she will allow cause she wants commitment an if she doesn't get it sooner rather than later she will leave. Ya cant manage her expectations more than ya have yah? she knows the deal an is still trying to tame ya. A think ya wont get much longer than 3 month an if shes dropped the L bomb an ya said it back....she is expecting commitment at some point.

This will blow up in ya face or she will just go cold on you in severe autorejection. Ya can win her back at this point if ya actually wanna commit if ya don't don't do this!!

Ya have told her the situation an the jealousy will get worse up until she either explodes or leaves quietly. This depends how much drama she wants an how much it will affect her social standing with ya doing this through social circle.

Unless anyone has better ideas to change her expectations that she has set herself? OP makes it sound like he let her kniw the deal yah?

 

[Fuck This]

Is she your Main girl? Black dragon has the real formula for multiple girls. From the daily interaction you have given her the signal that you two "have something". You can't reduce that unless you reduce her to a FB. That is tough in a social circle....

I'd say choose your FB's from outside of this social circle. It is in their nature to mark their territory, and sometimes a spurned woman will go all Kamikaze on you to ensure if she can't have you no other woman will either.

The part about harem management nobody talks about is the discretion required to balance multiple women. Your frame shouldn't be "I'm a player and I have multiple women" but instead "I'm an independent , busy man, and I do things on my own time that don't have anything to do with how we as a couple relate" . Then the policy of "Don't ask, Don't tell" is paramount.

Read some BD on managing multiple women for a better insight.