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How to Detach Yourself from a Group

TheVale

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I'm a student in a university and social life here is based on groups and social circles. As I grow more and more socially attuned it beacomes easier to enter a new circle or just interact with someone worth a connection.
The problem is that I don't know how to leave my main social circle: it as grown too small, uninteresting and devoid of social and sexual opportunites to me; but I can't figure out how to exit it. It feels like I'm now supposed to stay with them and failing to do so seems an insult. How would you act in this situation? What would you do?
I don't want to cut contacts with these people, but free myself from them. Plus I have some pratical exams with some of them, having an argument could ruin my studies.
 

andersen09

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Slow is the answer.

If you suddenly just up and leave, you'll create friction.

So if you're around these people, it's about slowly detaching yourself while creating an illusion you're busy with other things.

1. It can be getting involved in other 'clubs' for your future goal that maybe your social circle may know about.
(For ex, I'm going to med school, so it'd make sense for me to join a club that's for pre-med students, which btw has alot of stunning women)

*It gives you a legit excuse to hang out with new people
*You're pursuing your goals and 'naturally' you start meeting other people.

The principle here is you want to slowly detach yourself from your current social circle, but remaining 'slippery' so that they don't have any solid grip to confront you about not 'hanging out with them'

It's all about creating 'legit' reasons for them to rationalize your behaviors, while building your new social circle. ONCE your new social circle is established, you can just up and leave.

(The reason for this is that you're shielded with your new social circle from your old clique spreading any types of rumors or backlashes)
It's like Sun Tzu - blend in with the crowd, never isolate yourself.
 
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TheVale

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Ah, so it's as is simple as that, at least theoretically. I'm going to use your advice, thank you man!
 
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