How To Fix Deep-Seated Issues Regarding Self Worth?

[Richard]

How can these other guys and I let go?

How can we break from these shackles and start developing love for our selfs and self respect?

Because it seems like just getting better and having more success is not the answer from what I've seen from other guys.

It needs to be confronted directly.

So I ask again, How can we stop this destructive way of thinking?

Just choose, bro. Everything comes down to the choices we make.

If you don't have love for yourself and respect yourself it's because you haven't chosen to have it. It's also because you've chosen to base your opinion of yourself, and your sense of self-worth on what other people either say, think, or feel about you.

Essentially, love for yourself and self-respect isn't developed; it's always there for you to reach out and grab if you choose to stick your arm out.It's really as simple as that.

-Richard

 

[Mars]

Apologies if this topic's closed. I might have something that'll help.

Success doesn't remove all that crap that's pent up inside you, it merely covers it up, just as failure draws attention to it. That's why no matter how much validation you get, you'll never have enough, because it's basically your drug. I know this sounds very bullshit but just have a good cry man. Put on some sad music, get a good pillow, let it flow out!

I grew up in a hellhole of a place, bullied and abused everyday for years. I used to have flashbacks whenever people would laugh out loudly, for real. One day at a party, a few social circle folks were laughing about something that I did, which caused me a massive panic attack. Came home, broke down in tears for the first time ever. Took me a couple of days of sulking but I've had virtually no problems since.

The bright side is, once you get over it, there's VERY few things that'll ever put you down again, which feels fucking amazing.

All the best,
Mars

 

[Drck]

Also, look at autosuggestion. Autosuggestion is simply positive self-talk repeated every day, e.g. when you wake up and before you go to sleep. Some simple examples:

"I'm doing better and better every day"
"I am becoming a high value man"
"My self esteem is increasing every day"

... and so on. The key is to keep repeating these over and over, and occasionally change the sentences:

"I am a high value man"
"My self esteem is very high"